Relationships and Psychic Readings: Answers to Two Common Love Life Questions

“When will I get married (or meet my lifenpartner or soul mate)?”

Many young adults ask us this question. Thoughnwe can determine through our readings and analysesnwhen someone is likely to experience a compatiblenlove connection, we always recommend to thosennot yet in their 30s to avoid spending too muchnenergy looking for a serious relationship ornmarriage partner.

Many of them would be much better off going withnthe flow, dating, having fun, enjoying their youth,nlea
ing who they are beyond the socialnprogramming, and focusing on their careers so theynhave a life before they try to make a relationshipn“permanent” through a legally-binding agreement.

It would be nice if you met a compatible “lifenpartner” early in life and remained happilyntogether for the “rest of your life.”
Unfortunately, most people’s soul schedule ornpersonal fate doesn’t always include what theynwant, when they’d like to experience it, contrarynto popular New Age opinion, no matter how muchnthey “master the art of manifestation.”

Also, the concepts of lock-it-in-forever-happy-nmarriage and life partners are human, artificialnconstructs, not spiritually-based; our belief isnthat on a soul level they are viewed asnunrealistic, and life-long relationships aren’tnperceived as mandatory or even necessary in manyncases when a soul is planning the next inca
ation.

If you think about it, in most cases, a fulfilling,nsatisfying relationship with the same partner fromnyour 20s until you die of old age is unrealisticnsince everyone changes (for better or worse) atndifferent rates. Yes, some couples do “grow oldntogether” if it’s destined to work out that way,nbut if it’s not, people don’t have to suffer fornthe rest of their lives. It’s not the 1800s anynmore, thankfully. People don’t need to relynentirely on a spouse to survive anymore. You nownhave the option of being independent and beingnwith a partner because you want to, not justnbecause you’re settling in order to survive.

As far as the notion of a “twin flame” soul matengoes, we’ve found through our long-term,nempirical research that it’s as mythical as Santa
Claus and the Easter Bunny; it’s an illusionarynand subjective concept. Although some soul matesnare better than others, after all the illusionsnfade away, there is no perfect match. Distorted,nromantic idealism can be an innocuous escape, butntoo often it leads people astray, detracting fromntheir earthly purposes and making life morencomplicated.

Instead of viewing marriage as an importantndestination and wondering when you’ll be sweptnoff your feet, a better question to ask would benwhen are you most likely to meet someone whonis compatible, or experience one of your morencompatible relationships.

In addition to accepting the truth that not allnrelationships are meant to last a lifetime, wenalso recommend accepting that everyone has manynsoul mates. These two suggestions alone will savenyou much heartache and stress.

We’ve found that all relationships have destined nstarting and ending times (emotionally andnromantically), and most are not meant to lastn“forever,” even if a couple chooses to stayntogether, essentially as roommates for whom thenflame has long since extinguished, if it evennexisted at all. If you look at the big picture,na life-long relationship may seem ideal, and itnmay be part of some people’s path, but from anspiritual perspective, it isn’t as important asnyou may think.

If you would like to meet a compatible soul mate,nmake the most of yourself and have faith that younwill meet the right people at the right time.
Letting go of any resentment or regret from pastnrelationships and accepting your status of beingnsingle will clear the way for a more compatiblenperson, and remaining open to new possibilitiesninstead of thinking in “all (‘The One,’ ‘Forever’)nor nothing” terms will lead to more success in you
love life. If you’re already involved with someone,nletting go of expectations (that may or may not benrelated to the “twin flame” or other soul matenmyths, or “acceptable” social standards) andnaccepting the person and situation as they arenwill lead to more harmony.

“Does he/she like me?” “Is he/she thinkingnabout me?”

We can understand if you don’t want to make thenfirst move out of fear of being embarrassed ornrejected. But it’s really not your right to knownwhat someone is thinking unless they tell or shownyou.

Meditate and ask for signs about whether or notnit’s a good idea for you to make it clear you areninterested or to contact the person. You havennothing to lose, unless you work together. In thatncase, it’s usually best to remain friends due tonthe possibility of the relationship issues causingnproblems at work.

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