Restore Your Relationship's Deteriorating Foundation - 5 Concrete Tips to Help Save Your Marriage

Is your relationship deteriorating like old plaster? Would you like to learn how to seal the cracks in your marriage's foundation? Do you want to help save your marriage and make it even stronger? It's easier than you think with these five timely tips.
Tip #1 - Babysitters are less expensive than lawyersr
It's easy to get into a rut in a marriage especially with kids, jobs, chores, errands and so many distractions that may make you and your spouse feel as if you're gate keepers in an asylum.
It's essential that you make the time to reconnect on a more romantic level on a regular basis. Regular date nights may seem like a cliché, but in actuality they are vital to renewing your romantic relationship. If you want to help save your marriage, schedule - yes, schedule - an evening, morning or afternoon each week when just the two of you can get together for at least a few hours and do something fun and interesting. During your date, don't talk about your kids, family problems, money issues or anything that isn't pleasant and positive. It will give you both something to look forward to and it will help you to deal with the everyday stresses of a married life knowing that soon you and your husband or wife are going to go out and just have a great time.
Tip #2 - Behave like lovers, not housematesr
When you first started dating, you touched whenever you could. You held hands. You whispered silly or sexy things to each other. You laughed. You said, "I love you," often and sincerely. These are the same things you must do if you and your partner want to help save your marriage. If it's been a while since you did this, it will feel a little strange and forced in the beginning, but eventually it will be as natural as saying, "Please pass the sugar."
Tip #3 - Re-adjust your prioritiesr
Too often jobs, kids and other responsibilities take priority over your spouse. If you want to help save your marriage, you need to reconfigure your priority list and put your spouse back on top. That doesn't mean that you should neglect your children or slack off at work. It means that when your spouse talks, you listen. When you can delay a chore so the two of you can snuggle on the couch and watch a favorite show, talk or read to each other, do it. If your spouse is struggling with a problem, drop everything and sit down and help them figure out a solution and expect the same from them.
Tip #4 - Praise more, criticize lessr
Too often couples will only take the time to criticize their spouse about the things that they don't like rather than praising them about the things they do like. Did she make a great dinner? Tell her what a wonderful cook she is. Did he change the oil in your car? Thank him for saving you the time and money to go the mechanics to have it done. Do you like the new hairstyle your wife has? Tell her how pretty she looks - even if the haircut is a disaster. She probably already knows that it looks bad and she's looking to you for reassurance that she doesn't look foolish or perhaps she wants you to fib a little so that she can feel better until it grows out. When he offers to pick up the kids at school so that you can take care of another responsibility or just relax, tell him what a great husband and father he is. Positive reinforcement works on dogs and kids, why wouldn't it work with each other?
Tip #5 - Be the partner that you want your spouse to ber
The Golden Rule - "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you" - definitely applies to marriages. If you want respect, you must show respect. If you need more affection, you must give more affection. If you are suddenly overwhelmed by an unusually busy schedule, gently ask for help and graciously offer your help in return when the situation is reversed.
With a little preventative maintenance, you can fill in the cracks of your deteriorating relationship's foundation, save your marriage and make it stronger than ever.