Self-Harm - Why We Think It or Do It

It may surprise you to hear that even a person who ends their life is, in a strange way, seeking to preserve themselves. Not their physical existence, of course, but what they have left of their mental wellbeing. As an act of self-preservation in terms of their mental state, they end their life.

We’re all guilty of such thinking, though generally in much lesser ways that we don’t generally think of as suicidal. For instance, say we do astoundingly beautiful work painting or decorating a room in our home and then show it to our friend. The friend immediately oohs and aahs over the work. How do we respond? We may say something like, “Yes, it went pretty well. But see that corner over there? I couldn’t get that line straight.” In other words, we pick out the tiny flaw, which becomes magnified in our eyes, and pay little attention to the experience of beauty that our friend is having as a result of our work.

Wow! How do we allow the tiny flaw to color the whole room of beauty? And we do this kind of thing in so many aspects of our lives. The reason is simple: it originates with a brain pattern.

If suicide is in its intent an act of self-preservation, then there’s a brain pattern that sees only the tiny flaws compared to the whole, for in the whole the flaws are inconsequential. There’s a brain pattern driving us to see everything based on one little thing - to see only contextually and not sequentially as pieces of a whole.

There’s a far better option, which is to optimize our brain patterns, thereby removing the all-or-nothing thinking that supports thoughts of suicide.

At Brain State Technologies®, we address the underlying issue that produces this all-or-nothing thinking based on feelings of hopelessness, despair, and the sense that you can’t go on - a result of the imbalance in the brain.

These are feelings, not the total of our reality. Brainwave Optimization™ allows the brain to return to a state of balance and harmony, from which flows a life that’s characterized not only by the will to live but also by the will to be our best self, with the ability to see the flaw as a flaw and not as the room.