Sex and Guilt

Guilt, Moralities and Great Sex, Like Oil and Vinegar; How EFT Can Help

One definition of guilt is; feeling culpable for imagined offenses or from a sense of inadequacy or self-reproach. We feel guilty when we have crossed a defined boundary. That line we try not to cross was often defined by a moral authority, be it a parent, our idea of God, a religious codex or a societal norm.

Guilt is the exact opposite of an aphrodisiac. It leads to feelings of inadequacy, avoidance behaviors, anxiety and can even lead to depression. Want a great sex life? Find a way to heal and resolve any guilt that you may be carrying from your history with regards to your sexual past.

Learning to forgive yourself for mistakes that you have made that caused pain to yourself or others, is one of the most powerful actions you can take to create more space for renewed sexual freedom and pleasure.

We have found that nothing is more guilt producing than sex. Sex more than any other subject is difficult to talk about, and is often intertwined with vulnerability, embarrassment, shame… people often look to others to validate what is normal, what is OK, what is morally correct.

Guilt and the need for forgiveness is very much driven by what a person’s society says is acceptable regarding sexuality. Whether a person has stayed inside the proclaimed moral sexual boundaries or has strayed outside the line, leads to the self reproach that thwarts self acceptance and leads to poor performance and a dwindling libido.

When tapping on guilt, it’s important to get to the primary emotion rather than just staying with the cognitive thought of guilt, working on through tapping on the feelings of sadness, anger or fear or embarrassment is far more effective than tapping on the intellectual concept of guilt.

There is something important to say something about deserving. Often, people who are unable to let go of their guilt usually involves a matter of feeling that he or she does not deserve to have better sex or does not deserve to lead a happy life given what they have done and all these can be worked on though EFT®.
Some may say that guilt plays a legitimate role as a moral compass, offering direction to where not travel. After all, without guilt we might just go out and do whatever we want, whenever we want to, without considering the consequences.

By healing the past, by forgiving yourself, and anyone else involved, lessons can be learned and wisdom acquired, so that better choices can be made without having to rely on guilt as a negative taskmaster.