Sex, Marriage and Compatibility - Soul Mate Connections Are Not What You Think

Sometimes people are drawn together like magnets, yet thencompatibility is questionable. It’s not smooth sailing tonsay the least, and trying to make it permanent is akin tonstrapping a 45lb weight to your back for the rest of you
life.

Might the inability to part ways, the intense draw, be a nmysterious working of fate? Yes. "Soul mate" connections nvery often include plenty of strife and heavy lessons, nwithout the presumed romantic bliss.

Based on our comprehensive astrology and numerology work,ntwo people can absolutely be incompatible, yet they maynstay together for other reasons. Know that person A mightnhave great overall compatibility with person B, but notnwith person C. Varying, unique degrees of intellectual,nemotional, spiritual, physical and sexual compatibility nexist between every couple.

Despite a lack of compatibility, some such couples say nonamount of effort is too much to save a relationship if theynare deeply in love. We recommend looking at what "deeply innlove" really means to you. What exactly do you feel for thenperson and why? Is there an early life, dysfunctional dynamicnbeing played out for either or both of you? Is the connectionnheld together by guilt due to one or both of you being afraidnto walk away? Exactly how much sacrifice is involved for younor him? Is it really a great connection, or is it more aboutnwhat they do for you or voids they fill for you? Are younafraid to be alone? Are you conce
ed about financialnsecurity? You've got to be brutally honest with yourselfnif you want clarity.

Every person you meet is for a different reason, or reasons.
It's not easy to overrule your heart and be totally objective nin your romantic life, but it will save you heartache. Dating nis easier when you accept each situation for what it isninstead of trying to cast a play (husband or wife role,nprovider, etc.).

To help you understand more about romantic compatibility,nwe'll list some of our findings. We have yet to invalidatenthe following considerations through our extensive worknover the years: some romantic connections includenquestionable compatibility, but the shared or compatiblentiming (long-term or short-term) serves as the foundationnof the draw; some connections are horrible, but then"unexplainable" draw is intense and serves to help themnfulfill the karmic implications of this particular "soulnmate" connection (one or both "owe" each other in not sonpleasant ways); some people have great life-long love karma,nsome people have fair life-long love karma, and others haventerrible life-long love karma; one's personal timing (long-nterm and, or short-term), if very good in relation to love-nlife, can symbolically, somewhat mitigate one's life-longnchallenging love-life karma; one's personal timing, if verynchallenging in connection with love, can symbolically wrecknone's love life even if they have great life-long love karman(as reflected in the patterns in the comprehensive charts).

We feel that a highly compatible match does not need a lotnof "work" or compromise. If you are complete by yourselfnand have your life together, finding someone to share it nwith should not require you to give up your goals, friends,nhobbies, or what you've worked hard for.

At the same time, compatible, harmonious matches that alsonshare a high degree of sexual chemistry are few and farnbetween for most people. Some people would rather be withnsomeone who is semi-compatible, or not compatible at allninstead of being alone. Others are content to be alone andnconcentrate on other areas of their life, like career, untilnthey meet someone they feel is worth sharing their time with.
It's up to you, yet our work tells us that people are largelyngoing to do what they are predestined to do, so as long asnyou remain objective and respond with compassion andnunconditional love, you'll be fine.

Copyright © 2007 Scott Petullo, Stephen Petullo