Soul Mate

Never has there been more written about a topic , if you google this topic, you will get a million results!!

So what is it about soul relationships that intrigues us so? Well I guess all of us at one time or other have dreamt of meeting our soul mate and living happily ever after isn’t that what films have been telling us over the years?

Soul Mate Recognition

Soul relationships can take many guises and can come at anytime of one’s life, there’s mother daughter relationships, brother/ sister but the one that fascinates us the most is the romantic kind , the quest to find “the one”.

So how would you recognise your soul mate? Do they come with a huge neon lights telling you this is the one? Or is it a matter of simply an inner knowing. Well some say if you are asking the question then the person is obviously not “the one”.

We all been there, where we meet someone and we want them so much to be the one that even if they aren’t and we know deep down they are not , we try and mould them and pretend that they are , we love them right? Couldn’t be without them? We ignore that niggling feeling in the pit our stomach that tells us otherwise. We ignore the warning signs, then one day , we can either wake up with a stark realisation that the person next to us is not the one that you want to spend the rest of your days with. or in some cases it can be a slow torturous process where slowly the incompatibility eats away at the relationship and one by one the very traits that you found attractive about your partner are the very same ones that now drive you insane and you wonder what you ever saw in this person.

How do we stop ourselves making these mistakes? Can we stop our selves making these mistakes? All relationships however painful they may be, have a certain amount of growth and learning to take away from it, so it would be wrong to label it as a mistake.

However some of this can be prevented if we were to listen to our instincts, many of us prevent from acting on our instincts because of fear; fear of being alone, fear of never finding anyone as good as the person you are with , a fear that this is better than nothing. A lot of us end up spending years upon years in marriages or relationships that we have just made do with. Others have argued that the very people waiting for the elusive soulmate, are the ones who have got it wrong and eventually we all end up settling or compromising and that might not be a bad thing? Maybe you are never going to meet someone who ticks all the boxes and that people’s expectations of the ‘one’ are unrealistic. Maybe to accept that the soul mate is a myth, that all you can expect from life is someone that you care about and someone that care’s back, someone that makes a good parent? There is no right or wrong answer, we all have choices, even if you don’t see them straight away, and there are lessons to be learnt , even if you are stuck in a hum drum life, there is something you need to learn/understand about yourself. However, it does make you wonder how could you have possibly chosen this life? Well we can take heed , there’s always a reason for your life path but maybe the dissatisfaction comes from missing the life lesson. The inertia is there to make you move, it makes you so bored that you have no choice but to do something about it.

I believe if you are single and on the quest for finding your soul mate or maybe you are unhappy in a relationship it’s good to remember that the greatest love affair is of course that one that you have with yourself. Whatever your beliefs we are all part of the universe and therefore part of god, therefore by rejecting ourselves, we are rejecting God.

I think the hardest task is first to love ourselves then the search for the one becomes easier because you are then looking for them for the right reasons, not to fill some gaping hole, not to complete you but to add to you. I think that your soul mate is there to make you, a more super charged version of yourself, the things that make you but better!!

I believe that we all have a soul mate out here and yes there could more than one, as each one may have a lesson in store for us. You need to go to the deep place within yourself to face your fears to get to know yourself before getting to know someone else. We in society tend to place way too much emphasis on being saved by our partner, where ultimately we need to save ourselves first