Tapping: Clear the Problem – Close the Gap

What happens when you've cleared a long standing problem with EFT? Most usually, there is a feeling of ease, relief, excitement and even curiosity. Sometimes, it's as if a void is left in its place. It's almost as if there is a gap; something is missing now. The heavy coat. In one of my podcasts recently, Scott and I talked about the gap that is sometimes felt after successful tapping. I suggested it was similar to wearing a thick, heavy coat all winter and spring, so it started to feel like a heavy burden. Then, suddenly throwing the coat off in a matter of seconds, so there was an unexpected weightlessness, felt uncomfortable because it was not familiar. So, what happens if you guess there probably will be a sense of weightlessness, space or unfamiliarity, once you've cleared problems with EFT? That may be enough to prevent you from tapping in the first place! Questions, (AKA resistance!) may arise in your mind. • Who will I be once I let this problem go completely? • What if it's not safe to NOT be angry/grieving/stressed, etc? • I'll lose my current identity, and then what will they think? If these types of questions or conce s come into your mind, write down the answers, and then use that information to tap on. Whatever you've written down is probably the reason why you are stuck, still experiencing that memory or limiting belief. Remember, what we resist, persists. The problem will remain if we are unable to acknowledge it and address it. Two strong emotions that can be challenging to release are anger and grief. Here's something I hear about grief quite a lot from clients: "I have to continue grieving in order to honour the person and acknowledge who they were". A good reframe for this as we tap is: Could I joyfully honour the person? Could I acknowledge them in a heartfelt way which brings me joy? Often I'll hear this about anger: "I can't let go of the anger; otherwise they will have won". A useful consideration for this as we tap is: Does it have to be about winning? By holding on to this anger, I'm punishing myself and they aren't even aware of how I'm feeling! What if I could "win" by letting go? Once you let go of a longstanding emotion, there may be space, or gap which is left. To ensure it's not filled up with a different stressor, tap in some positive reinforcements, acknowledging the courage it's taken to release the past; how determined you are; how you love feeling free; how calm and confident you are, and so on. Be mindful of the gap that is left, and fill that void with healthy acknowledgements of who you are and what you are capable of. Allow your body to feel what it's like to hear those positive affirmations, and experience the joy.