The Awakening For Men

The Awakening For Men

A time comes in your life when you finally get it. When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shutter once or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes you begin to look at the world through new eyes.

This is your awakening.

You realize that it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for,

happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact she is not Cinderella and you are not Prince charming , and that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings or beginnings for that matter, and ;

That any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you. And in the process, a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect, and that not everyone will always love,

Appreciate or approve of who or what you are and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own

Views and opinions). And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself, and

…… sense of newly found confidence is born~ of self-approval’. You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn’t do for you) –

And you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say, and that

Not everyone will always be there for you, and that it’s not always about you. So, you

Learn to stand on your own and to ‘take care of yourself and in the process, a sense of

Safety and security is born of self reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers, and you begin to accept people as they are and to

Overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and, in the process, a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You realize that much of the way you view yourself and the world around you is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been engrained into your psyche. And you begin to sift through

All the crap you’ve been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you should weigh, what you should wear, where you should shop, what you should drive, and where you should live, what you should do for a living, who you should sleep with, who you should marry, what you should expect of a marriage, the importance of having and raising children, or what you owe your parents.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view You begi
Reassessing and redefining who you are and needing, and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown or should never have brought into to begin with, and in the process, you learn to go with your instincts.

You learn that it is in giving that we receive and that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for the next fix.

You learn the principles such as honesty and integrity are not outdated ideals of a bygone are, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life. You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not your job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing.

You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry, and that martyrs get burned at the stake.

Then you learn about love, romantic love and familiar love, how to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving, and when to walk away.

You learn not to project your needs or feelings onto relationship. You learn that you will not be more handsome, more intelligent, more loveable, or more important because of the man or woman on your arm, or the child that bears your name. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be.

You stop trying to control people, situations, and outcomes. You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love, and you learn that you don’t have the right to demand love on your terms just to make you happy, and you learn that alone does not mean lonely. And you look in the mirror and come to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 32 or a perfect 10 and you stop trying to compete with the image inside your head and agonizing over how you “stack up”. You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over, and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of entitlement are perfectly OK, and that it is your right to want things and to ask for the things you want, and sometimes it is necessary to make demands.

You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity, and respect and you will not settle for less, and you allow only hands of a love
who cherishes you to glorify you with his or her touch, and in the process you internalize the meaning of self respect. And you learn that your body is your temple. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more water, and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes the spirit and can create doubt and fear, so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul, so you take more time to laugh and play. You learn that, for the most part, in life you get what you believe you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophesy. You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for, and that wishing for something to happen is different from working toward making it happen.

More importantly you learn that in order to achieve success, you need direction, discipline, and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber baron of all time, fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears, because you know that whatever happens you can handle it, and to give into fear is to give away the right to live life on y6our terms. And you learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve, and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting good people. On these occasions you learn not to personalize things.

You learn that God is not punishing you or failing to answer your prayers. It’s just life happening. And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state the ego. You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy, and resentment must be understood and redirected, or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to admit when you are wrong and build bridges instead of walls. You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things millions of people upon the earth can only dream about; a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower. Slowly you begin to take responsibility for yourself, by yourself, and you try to make yourself a promise—to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart’s desire.

And you hang a wind chime out your window so you can listen to the wind. And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility. Finally with courage in your heart and with God by your side, you take a stand, you take a deep breath. And you begin to design this life you want to live as best as you can

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