The beauty of…change

Within the last 13 years that I am engaged in the field of self development, I had the opportunity to observe the same, repeating behaviors at myself and my clients.

Let’s explore the effort for change, one of the most important ways for someone to be developed.

You take actions with the aim to make a change, to follow a different path and as soon as you make such actions, you wait…the results. There is a waiting stage. Just at this stage, it is essential to insist, to wait with patient and faith and to be there and not give up. Even more, if you think about it, during the waiting stage, we learn, develop and become better.

Before we take actions, we consider about the problem and we may discuss it with people we trust. In other words, we knew that there was something that needed to be changed, even if we were only hearing a “gentle” inner voice to confirm it.

Further, when we get to “no further”, when we are fed up with things, only then we move towards change. We make this essential step, leaving from the past situation and the “effort zone” and we pass into the actions area. Within this area our boundaries are pushed and we don’t feel at ease. That is, we are “out of our comfort zone”.

Imagine that you are making a bounce. You prepare yourself, you bend your legs and then, you are in the air, you are floating. During the floating there is a mixed feeling. On the one hand, there is the pleasure of being on the edge and on the other hand, there is the fear of falling down.

Still, the flash that you are floating is the moment that you are developing, learning, evolving. That is the actions area and yes it is both uncomfortable and full of benefits at the same time. For example, consider the moment once off the ground, once your bounce is already finished. All these thoughts (if it is right to do) or the doubts (if there is a better alte
ative), where are all these when you touch the ground? Nowhere! They moved away!

Indeed, how often do you rejoice about the learning you acquired during a process? How often do you reward yourself because of a step you made and brought you closer to change?

The answer is: Rarely. It is in human nature to think: “and then, what? Which is the subsequent?” right there it is the energy and the beauty of human nature: at the fact that we keep moving forward and being alert. Actually, the change fascinates us…

What are you really planning to change? Bear in mind: the actions area may be uncomfortable, but full of rewards at the same time! Accept the case and enjoy the rewards!

Enjoy the experience of changing!

Be Unique!

Jill Douka