The First Secret In Keeping Your Child Safe

There are 5 Secrets we teach that truly make kids safe. These Secrets set the foundation of true safety for a lifetime innchildren, and can do the same for your child.

We’re going to highlight these in our next few articles, so come back regularly!

These Secrets will also surprise you. They work quietly and effectively beneath the surface of your child’s brain. If you use these 5 Secrets, they will make any safety technique that much more effective. Without these 5 Secrets, your child will never be able to keep themselves safe. Ever.

Secret #1: Confidence
Confidence and a positive self image are crucial in good child safety. Confident kids are less of a target for sexual predators. Not only do they stand taller and keep their heads up higher, they represent a problem, a less than easy victim for sexual predators.

Confident kids project "struggle" for any predator trolling for kids and more often than not, predators will pass them by. More often, predators will choose kids that appear weak and sad, a child in need of a friend. These are the kids that hang their heads, shuffle down the street and have a hard time looking anyone in the eye when they talk to them.

Confidence is a powerful deterrent.

And yet, there is something more, something deeper when your child is confident. We notice confident kids display certain structural changes, physical changes in their bodies that serve them better than kids that have poor self-images. Confident kids can control their physical movements a little bit better. At the same time, they can move more quickly and with finer control of those movements. We find confident kids can actually focus better mentally and for longer periods of time.

In other words, these kids are better equipped physically, mentally and emotionally to learn the actual safety techniques that could save them from sexual predators than kids that feel bad about themselves. Kids that hang their head, shuffle around, are tired or ill, cannot move with as much control or quickness or think as clearly as kids that are healthy and confident. A high degree of self confidence and a positive self image matter in good child safety.

This is also not so unique for you, wither. A very good friend is a thirty year career detective. He is absolutely convinced crime victims, from simple purse snatchings to other more serious crimes, are perpetrated against victims that project weakness and a dire lack of self confidence. It could be the aged or the infirm or just a sad sack shuffling down the street. It’s no surprise.

What do you project? What are you quietly, by example, teaching your child to project? Are you confident? Do you move through life with clarity and focus? Do you know you belong? You should and then teach your child by silent example what it is like to be confident.

Simple praise is the first step. It's also a great daily mental "vitamin" pill for anyone. Praise your child, no matter what their age. Praise your spouse. Praise yourself!

We call it "catch them being good." You don't have to be lavish, just positive and sincere. Do it often. Highlight efforts not necessarily results. These simple yet daily reminders, with a positive focus, work for any age, even teens. It’s the first step, yet the most critical, in your child learning to keep themselves safe.