The Power of Focus and Questions

You've already heard that what we focus on or think about becomes our reality. This is true on many levels. Two people can go to the same party and come away from it with two totally different impressions. One might comment about how the party was not much fun because everyone seemed to be arguing or off in little groups by themselves. The second person might comment that the party was nice because everyone seemed to know each other and get along so well.

So, what makes the difference here? Focus.

It could be something as simple as the first person, who may have seen two people arguing and focused on that. Because this person's focus was on people arguing this person did not see the party as being very much fun.

The second person at the party may have seen a small group of people who really seem to like and care about each other and that were having a great time. Because this person's focus was on people having a good time, this person left the party feeling good about it.

So, as you can see, two people can experience the exact same circumstances and come away from it with totally different realities.

I'm sure that you have seen this in your own life before. Maybe it is a person you know who makes lots more money than you do, yet they always complain that they just don't make enough money. Or maybe you know someone who has a spouse that is beautiful, kind and loving and yet this person is always complaining about his or her spouse and may even be jealous of someone else they know that has what he or she would consider being the "perfect person" for them.

This list could go on and on but, I'm sure you get the idea here. Sometimes life can be very good to us and because we aren't focusing on the good, we see our own life as being terrible or at least less than it could be.

So, what determines what you focus on at any given time? The answer is questions.

Questions

You are constantly asking yourself questions sometimes consciously, sometimes not. Even when you aren't conscious of the process, your mind is constantly asking questions and evaluating. "What does this mean?" "How will this affect me?" Or "How does this make me feel?"

Below are some examples of questions you may ask yourself at times, consciously or unconsciously. By understanding them consciously you can start to work with the questions you ask yourself unconsciously:

Why can't I lose weight?

When you ask yourself this question you are already defeating yourself, because by asking why you can't lose weight you are already telling your mind that you can't. And your mind may answer with things like: "Because you are meant to be fat." or "Because you are a pig." or"Because you're lazy and won't get off your fat butt and exercise."

Why am I always broke?

Once again, you are already telling your mind that you are always broke. So your mind searches for an answer that support the fact that you are always broke. So, your mind may give you answers like: "Because I have a crappy job." or "Because I have weak impulse control and buy everything I see." or "Because I'm just stupid and don't know how to handle money."

How come my relationships suck?

Here we go again. You have already told your mind that your relationship sucks! Now your mind gets busy looking for answers why and may come up with things like: "Because my partner is inconsiderate." or "I have to work so many hours I just don't have time to put into a relationship." or "I can't have a good relationship because my parents didn't and I never had a good example."

Here is a list of a few disempowering questions you may ask yourself:

Why can't I be happier?
How come I'm always tired?
How come everybody else has a new car and I don't.
Why can't I find my soul mate?
How come I don't have the discipline to exercise?
Why do I always eat too much?

Now I would like for you to take a couple of minutes, and list three disempowering questions that you tend to ask yourself on a regular basis. Please take your time with these questions. The more time you spend with these three questions the better understanding you will have your thought process.

In part 2 you will learn to change these questions to Empowering Questions and use them to transform your life.

Do you ever have the feeling that there's nothing really WRONG with your life, but you just don't have much joy or juice left? Are you just going through he motions?

First you need to learn how to understand the questions your mind is constantly asking you. Then, you can learn how to break the power that "endless loop" questions have over your life. Finally, you will learn to use the power of positive questions to create a dynamic life.