The Secret to Successful Eye Contact

Want to improve your social life on all levels? There's one thing that gets you there with very little effort, and that is - learning proper eye contact. It’s one of those things that you should focus on before anything else. Some of the positive benefits that come along with successful eye contact are: -You’ll be rated more attractive and likeable. -You’ll be considered more trustworthy. - You’ll be seen as confident and emotionally stable. Just imagine what it could lead to if people began thinking these things about you. Do I have to learn many tricks to become good at eye contact? The answer is: No, you won’t have to. If you just understand one basic principle that I’m about to share with you, you’ll do fine. This principle will allow you to make successful eye contact with nearly everyone. The number one mistake people make when practicing eye contact. If you’re practicing eye contact at all, you’re well ahead of the masses. There aren’t many people who realize the importance of working on this vital social skill. But the people who practice this skill often make one unfortunate mistake. The mistake has to do with their mindset as they’re working on their eye contact. They don’t understand one essential point, and this leads to them coming off as creepy and intruding. Once you truly grasp the power of eye contact you won’t be making this common mistake any longer. It’s all about connection. Scientists have discovered some very interesting neurons in our brains that they’ve labeled mirror neurons. Some consider these neurons to be the reason why humans have developed to be such sophisticated social animals. Humans are very capable of understanding other people’s intentions and sensing their moods. As the name of these neurons suggests, they enable us to mirror what the other person is feeling. These neurons come in very handy when trying to understand people through their body language. But they’re even more powerful when looking people in the eye. It’s not a coincidence that the eye has been called “the mirror to the soul”.rnMost don’t realize just how powerful eye contact is in enabling non-verbal communication between two human beings. If you look into another person’s eye blankly, he will become confused about why you’re looking him in the eye. They’ll most likely feel put off by you. But if you look into another person’s eye with the intent of actually communicating something, people will respond accordingly. When you have a message that you want to communicate, eye contact will become a pleasant two-way interaction. Your eye contact must contain a message. If it doesn’t, you’ll just be confusing the other party. In my opinions this is the only thing you need to understand to begin succeeding with your eye contact. What I’ve learned through practicing eye contact. Focusing on my eye contact has lead to positive things in my social life. I’ve noticed how little I actually used to make eye contact in the first place. I could go through long interactions with very little eye contact. I now feel more connected to the people I interact with. And I’m guessing this effect goes both ways. Others probably feel more connected to me as well. I’m excited about all of the positive things this can lead to in existing relationships, and in developing new ones. Tying it all together. Your eyes are powerful social tools that you should learn to utilize. If you’re interested in being rated more attractive, trustworthy and confident – it’s worth taking a look at. The small effort of exposing yourself to something new is nothing compared to positive benefits you’ll receive. When you understand how powerful eye contact is you won’t make the mistake of a creepy blank stare anymore. You can use eye contact to deepen your connection in existing relationships and to build new ones. Have fun connecting more deeply with the people around you! Please share this article with someone you’d like to have more eye contact with. A friend, family member or someone you’d like to get to know better!