Three Faces of Low Self -Esteem

It is believed that direct or indirect messages that we received from our parents may contribute to the development of our feelings. As children we are often labeled in our family.

We might be identified as smart, funny, and sensitive, lazy or superior – just to name a few. As we grow we either accept or doubt our parents perceptions of us thus creating self-esteem issues.

Here are three common faces of low self-esteem:

The Imposter:

This person seems to be happy and successful to the outside world. However, he or she is engulfed with feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt.

They don’t believe they are deserving of their success. They believe it was due to luck and chance instead of their capabilities.

They are often driven by the fear of failure. They are terrified that they will be found out as a fraud. This can lead to feelings of depression and anxiety.

Imposters come from all walks of life – Regardless of your career, wealth, gender, race or age.

The Rebel:

This person appears to have the, “Who the heck cares” attitude. They often say they don’t care what others think – but deep inside they never seem to feel good enough.

They live in constant anger. A constant need to prove that other peoples opinions don’t hurt.

They blame others excessively for everything that’s wrong in their lives. Sometimes this can lead to them breaking rules or laws – fighting any authority figure.

The Victim:

This person seems to live in continuous crisis. They consistently look to others for guidance, support, love and a feeling of self-worth.

They are waiting to be rescued. And are unable or unwilling to take responsibility for their life.

They are afraid of making their own decisions. They lack assertiveness and are often times under-achievers.