Treating Premature Ejaculation

Through the years, many solutions have been offered for premature ejaculation. Basically, this involves reducing the sensitivity of the penis to the friction of the vagina.

One way to do this is by wearing two (or more) condoms at the same time - but it can also give one the feeling of making love to a king-sized Barbie doll.

Another solution is the use of dibucaine ointment. This substance - which is similar to the medication your dentist uses before pulling out a tooth - numbs the penis and retards orgasm sometimes in such a way that the man never ejaculates at all. But the ointment comes with a price.

"Some men are allergic to this chemical. If they are, the entire penis breaks out in red, oozing, itching blisters. It can do the same thing to an innocent bystander, the vagina," revealed Dr. David Reuben, a noted California psychiatrist, in Everything You Always Wanted To Know About Sex (But Were Afraid To Ask).

"The real problem with anesthetic ointments is that in the long run they make premature ejaculation worse. The penis becomes negatively conditioned and gradually less and less stimulation is required to trigger orgasm. After a few months of using the ointment, the touch of a woman's hand on the erect penis may be enough to jettison a full load of semen then and there," he added.

But all is not lost. Unlike taxes, you can easily conquer premature ejaculation. There is a scientific way of doing it. The secret lies in learning to prolong ejaculation until such time that your partner is satisfied.

This can be achieved by means of the "squeeze" technique and/or the "start/stop" technique - both of which have an 80 to 85 percent success rate in treating premature ejaculation.

Both exercises can easily be done at home and they're designed to delay ejaculation-long enough for the man and his partner to be sexually satisfied. Practiced properly, these exercises will bring back a man's confidence and control over the tendency to ejaculate. How do they work? How are they done? Let's start with the squeeze technique.

"Begin sexual activity as usual, including penile stimulation, until you feel almost ready to ejaculate. Then have your partner squeeze the end of the penis, at the point where the glans joins the shaft, for a period of several seconds. After the squeeze is released, wait for about half a minute, and then go back to foreplay. You will notice that squeezing the penis causes it to become less erect but that when sexual stimulation is resumed it soon regains full erection," explained Dr. David E. Larson, editor-in-chief of the Mayo Clinic Family Health Book.

"If you again feel that you are about to ejaculate, have your partner repeat the squeeze process. By repeating this as many times as necessary, you can reach the point of entering your partner without having ejaculated. After a few practice sessions, the feeling of knowing how to delay ejaculation will become a habit without the squeeze technique and you will continue through successful intercourse," Larson added. (Next: More ways to treat premature ejaculation.)

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