What, Happiness is up to me!

Have you noticed how when you are in that kind of high from a new relationship, that all sorts of things start happening for the good? We have the tendency to claim it was because of this new person in our lives. We tend to give our power away to the relationship.

As I contemplate about what goes on around me, I realize that some of the most important understandings to share are those of relationships; like the wonderful rush of a new relationship, which I have seen and felt myself. You know what I mean... how it feels to wait for the next email or phone call. The next time you will get to be with that certain someone. It feels so good. So what do we do to have that feel good for ourselves, without a certain someone else in the picture?

As I have been teaching, I have used this concept with my clients to show them how to expand on that wonderful feeling so that the more that is going on in their creative lives, the more it can be expanded upon. We work on seeing when the student began to expand on a good feeling. It does not matter what the good feeling was/is about, it is just expanding the good feel that makes for changes in our lives.

How you ask?

Well, one of the first things is to learn how to expand on the 'feel good'. What I mean by expand is when you are conscious of a good feeling, take a moment, really at least 68 seconds, and let that good feeling just fill your heart; take the 68 seconds and just let the feeling swirl through all of you. Take the time to really have every part of your mind and body feel this good feeling. Once you have that done and you are just tingling with this good feeling then sit in the contemplation of the things you desire to have become part of your next physical experiences.

Second, realize the good feeling was yours not the new relationships. To make this easier to understand you want to recognize two things: You must realize that what brought the new relationship to you in the first place was that you were already beginning to feel good and secondly, you must know that expanding on an existing good feeling is the very thing that draws clusters of the desired physical experiences.

When we have not taken the time to sit in the 'feel goods' we also then do not recognize it was "our" good feelings that then brought in the new relationship. This is how we lose sight of our power and control over our lives. It is here that we start to see a relationship with physical eyes that tell us “we best not change the relationship because it is the cause of our good feeling”, instead of remembering that it was always, and will always be, ourselves who are in control of all the things that are being experienced by us.

It does take practice to learn to stand in the truth just for our very own self. It does take practice as the other person, who is sitting in the belief that it was you that made the changes in their life, challenges the idea that you must still make the choice for self in order to keep the 'feel good' and to continue to have great success in drawing good things to you.

This concept seems like it is all about you, well it is. Ask yourself, what is there for you to experience if you are not part of the equation? If you do not exist then what part of the equation are you? If you are not happy does anyone want to be with you? When you look at this deeply you will begin to see that you must take care, 100%, of your own needs. As this begins to happen in your life, there will be spill over. The spill over is what we share with others. You may be thinking that is not very nice for the other person, but consider the following...

If you are filling yourself up, meeting your needs at 100%, then would not the spill over be more than 100%? And wouldn't your spill over be grander than having only 1% of your unhappiness? The whole world is standing against this but, very quietly, I tell you this is the very simple truth... to always be happy for yourself, is to have good things always be happening in your life. Truly! You must understand, happiness is, and can only be, filled by self.