***What's Love Got To Do With It?

What’s Love Got To Do With It? By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitzr "the marriage doctors" Authors of the INDIE Book Awards Gold Medal Winner for Best Relationship Book of 2008 Golden Anniversaries: The Seven Secrets of Successful Marriage Available at Golde Anniversaries.com, Amazon.com, BarnesandNoble.com, and at Bookstores What’s love got to do with it? Is love really a second hand emotion? A famous song focused on these notions. So what’s the truth about love? Is it real or is it a second hand emotion? The truth is, love is something very hard to define. Love is often times indescribable. And most certainly, love is NOT a second hand emotion. There is no question about it – love is real! Love is something you feel. Love is something you know to be true even if you can’t define it or describe it. Over the years we have talked to thousands of people in love, about love. We have discovered the truths about “How you know you are in love,” “The secrets of successful love,” and “How to sustain love.” And through it all, we know these truths to be self-evident – love is real, love is definable, and love is sustainable, often throughout a lifetime. One of the icons of the entertainment business, Tina Turner, wrote a very popular song entitled, What's Love Got to Do with It? The lyrics of this St. Louis Walk of Fame inductee go like this: You must understandr That the touch of your handr Makes my pulse reactr That it’s only that thrillr Of boy meeting girl Opposites attractr It’s physicalr Only logicalr You must try to ignorer That it means more than that Oh, what's love got to do with itr What's love but a second hand emotionr What's love got to do with itr Who needs a heartr When a heart can be broken It may seem to your That I'm acting confusedr When you're close to mer If I tend to look dazedr I've read it someplace I've got cause to ber There’s a name for itr There’s a phrase for itr But whatever the reasonr You do it for me I've been thinking of a new directionr But I have to say
 I've been thinking about my own protectionr It scares me to feel that way What's love got to do with it
 What's love but a sweet old fashioned notion
 What's love got to do with it
 Who needs a heart When a heart can be broken Tina had it right in many ways. Love can be scary. Love can be cruel. Love can, for sure, be something that confuses you. It can be, in the end, something that breaks your heart. All this is true, but here’s where we part ways with Tina’s lyrics – even though love stands a chance of turning out badly and breaking your heart, to fall in love and to be in love is a risk in life that is well worth taking, irrespective of the chances of failure. Frankly, it is natural to be afraid of falling in love. But to fall in love is something that is uniquely human. It is an emotion that often confuses people who think they are in love, but in the end, being in love is a wonderful emotion – an emotion that is exhilarating to feel. And only humans can feel it! Only a human heart can be broken. To truly be in love, however, is to take the chance that your heart might, in the end, be broken. But can you imagine what you lose by not taking the chance to fall in love? Love is something you feel. Love is something you feel in your heart. And love is totally worth the risk. Love is NOT a second hand emotion; it is the most exhilarating emotion that all human beings will feel in their lifetime. Go for it! Falling in love is so very human. When you feel it in your heart and in your soul, take the chance – take the risk. Sure, your heart can be broken, but can you imagine going through life without loving another human being in the deepest and most intimate way? Being in love is worth the risk. Love is NOT a second hand emotion! Love well.