What Stops Single Baby Boomers from Connecting with each other.

There are so many single Baby Boomers that are lonely and want to have a relationship, and yet they do not connect with other singles. There are those that make absolutely no effort to make contact with anyone else. They will often be adamant that they are not one bit interested in meeting someone for a potential relationship. And then there are those that do admit that they like the idea of getting into a relationship and they will even make some form of attempt to make this known by telling friends, co-workers and relatives. In the age of the internet and online dating while it has many advantages it’s not the preferred way of meeting for most. For those that are really serious about meeting someone special they will find ways to come in contact with potential partners. Some will join activity clubs, where there is the probability of meeting other singles with similar interests. If you are a skier you would probably go to the ski hill and hang out there. If golf is your thing you could find a golf group or spend time at the local golf clubs and driving range. If you are not ready for the golf course yet but want to learn, take lessons with a golf pro or at least learn to swing a golf club properly by going the medicus training route, you can practice at home in your spare time and then when you feel more confident; get out there and meet other golfers. At least once you are out and about you have the potential of meeting real people. You never know where or when, you could meet someone in the line up at the bank or grocery store or someone you meet taking a class to learn how to paint. For most the ideal situation is to meet someone in person where you will know pretty quickly if there is any chemistry between the two of you. Approximately 35-40% of those searching for a relationship are likely to search online. Of these a number will make connections. No matter how long you chat back and fore on line if you don’t actually meet each other you will never know if there is any chemistry. The internet does give people the opportunity to connect with people that they may never have come in contact with by using other means. Safety and security is a huge conce so for many dating online, and rightly so. There are many dishonest individuals online just waiting for the opportunity to try to gain the trust of an unsuspecting woman or man. They will connect with them tell, them what they want to hear, and then when the time is right they will make their move. Often these dishonest individuals will have gained their trust them ask for help saying that they need money. The usual story is that they have lost their money and credit cards or that they have been attacked and robbed. There is a need for caution but at the same time there are a lot of genuine members that are serious that do connect have successful relationships. For many connecting with other members via the internet from their own living room is the ideal situation. It keeps them safe and secure, and they don’t have to make too much effort, but the problem is that most of the time they do not move on to the next step to actually get out there and meet in person. Some people will stay online for years and never actually go out on a real date. In other words they are chatting on line and may have several pen pals, but as far as a real relationships; it’s just not happening. So what stops people from actually meeting face to face. • Fear of being rejected if they put themselves out there. • Wonder what others will think of them if they really meet. • Want to protect themselves from getting hurt • They don’t feel good about themselves • Think they are too old. • They fear intimacy • They have expectations that are not realistic. • They may be too set in their ways • Finances. • What will others think? These are just some of the excuses that people use not to make the effort, so they stay alone. There are many other reasons but if you want to form a relationship you have to take a chance, become vulnerable and take the next step. So whether you go online and join one of the many dating sites or you choose to join a choir, or take classes to learn & master guitar. Music is always a great way to break the ice, find out what you are willing to do, and just get out there. Enjoy Yourself, Be Cautious, and Stay Safe.