What Story Do You Tell Yourself?

Recently, I was talking with a client about her financial situation. The conversation went something like this:

"I do so much of this spiritual stuff, and I'm happy all the time," she said. "Why am I not more financially abundant?"

"Great question," I answered. "Why aren't you?"

"I really don't know," she answered. I knew she was talking about the fact that she doesn't feel as though she has enough money. (This type of feeling is considered an inner conversation, a belief, or a vibrational place from which she is creating, by the way.)

Now, because I know this client fairly well, and I know her lifestyle, I know that she does have abundance in her life. And frankly, pretty much all of us living in America have abundance, even if it isn’t at the level we desire.

Here's the thing: in order for her to believe that she doesn't have enough money in her life, she has to delete all the evidence that she does have enough money in many circumstances and that she does have some delicious wealth in many areas of her life. I realize that it's just that these are not ALL of the areas where she wants to have wealth in her life; there are areas where she is feeling a lack.

So, I asked her to take a look at her life to see all the ways in which she has wealth. I knew that on one level, she agreed with me about having all of those areas of wealth. However, in that moment, she couldn't really let the truth of it in, because her stronger belief was that she did not have financial wealth; she couldn't see the areas where she did.

We started to do EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping on the belief that she didn't have financial abundance. As we tapped together, she began to relax those thoughts. She began to change her relationship to that belief and began to fully let in the awareness of where she experiences wealth. She began to shift her beliefs and began to change her story.

Our inner conversations, or stories, are very powerful, because they are the stuff from which our lives are created. And even when you have evidence to back up your story and you are focusing on what you don’t want, there is always another side to your life (in this example, my client has evidence of wealth in her life). But it’s hard to let that other awareness in when the prevailing negative belief (or vibration) is so strong.

What happens, however, when you change your story is that you change your experience. Changing your story is that powerful.

Try this. As you become aware of a story you believe about something you don’t want, use EFT tapping on yourself while you tell the story out loud. As you tap, you will begin to have some other thoughts. Thoughts like, “Well, maybe it isn’t always like that. As a matter of fact, I can remember a time when it wasn’t like that. Maybe it isn't even completely like that now.” This is what reframing the experience looks like.

When you want to create something in your life, it is imperative that you focus upon the good feelings that whatever it is you want to have will bring you. If you want abundance, then what is the feeling of abundance? Focus upon that. If you want love, then focus upon the feeling of love. If you want peace, then focus upon the feeling of peace.

Tell stories -- both in your own head and to other people -- that match up to those feelings. For example, if you want abundance, then talk about the abundance you have. Focus upon the feelings that that abundance brings you. Feel it with joy. (Here’s a secret tip, too: the more intensely you feel it, the more quickly you will create it.)

What one thing are you going to focus on changing your relationship to this week? What story are you going to begin to tell differently? What feelings are you going to shift? What memory or story are you going to tap on?

Now, go create. And have fun!