Okay gents so you see that dazzling curvy blonde at the coffee shop reading her favourite magazine, she looks bored and as though some light conversation will go a long way.
Flicking through the magazine like it’s an Ikea catalogue searching for the gossip story that’ll hold her captive for the next ten minutes … enough time to enjoy her latte before she has to check in back to work for the magazine shoot she’s working on next door.
Ten minutes is the average time for any person in a busy coffee shop in the city, is that enough time to approach, connect and ultimately make her feel comfortable with you enough to give you her phone number?
You’re standing there staring at the mass of coffee selections you’ve got to choose from, hurry up you’re nearing the counter and you still haven’t made your selection, should you have a mocha latte? Vanilla latte? Or just a plain ole’ flat white? Some things should be kept simple and coffee is one of them, honestly who has the brain power needed at 8:00 in the morning to be faced with 36 coffee selections all at once? Just thinking about this makes this I need a Coffee!
Okay so you order your coffee and resume your seductive (one way) trance-like eye contact with this girl i.e. you continue staring at her like a fat kid stares at a hamburger, she doesn’t even know you’re there … not yet anyway. When should you approach her?
Thinking … you do some more thinking... and this frustrates you as you think why something so easy as walking over to someone and talking to them just got ten times more difficult just because she’s a blonde, elegant and has huge JUGS (not the coffee cup we’re talking about here), why should I have to think so much and get nervous over this? Even if I try to lie to myself and say I don’t like her and I don’t want to get her phone number I still get nervous about approaching her? Even when I don’t want anything from her! This isn’t right?
Just give it some time … I shouldn’t approach too soon as I’ll come across as too eager. I’ll walk by her and sit down, wait for five minutes then make some more seductive eye contact, upon which I’ll walk over when I’m ready and start a conversation with her, but approaching now would be against my best interests, no girl likes a eager man.
Wrong … wrong … wrong …
This is where I come over to you and man slap you in the face ... right in front of her, I then proceed to play her breasts like the Congo drums, the whole café stands up and applauds me, then ask for an encore and then I walk away with her. No just kidding. Don’t get me wrong I’ll still man-slap you as for one you’re breaking the number one rule before approaching a woman… Thinking.
You’re THINKING. Thinking is the worst thing you can do when it comes to approaching women and this is a big reason why a lot of really smart, intelligent and talented guys find it so out of this world to approach attractive women during the day.
So today’s number one lesson is to stop thinking before approaching women, it’s always in your best interests to make this an instinct of approaching women without thinking and your aim is to just chat. If you’re new to this and have some anxiety when it comes to approaching women during the day then change your focus on just chatting and have a genuine interaction, and this way there’s no outcome to achieve so you’ll be more relaxed and less goal-oriented when approaching attractive women.
Take it from a veteran like me that the more you approach women the better YOU will get at it, some day in the next few months after you’ve done a decent amount of approaches something will change for you, where you’ll stop caring about every interaction you have, where you’ll stop analyzing your failed approaches you did, where you get up, forget and move on with approaching even more hot women and ultimately get more success with women.
My name is Alex Coulson and I hope our paths cross many times again in the future.
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