Who is to blame?

Who is to blame?
One statement that always makes me laugh is when I hear someone say "You made me do it" or "You made me mad".
DO you see anything comically wrong with these statements? Certainly when uttered as children those statements seem apropos.
But I outgrew childhood in my childhood and realized that these statements simply state "I am powerless to control myself" (so I will blame you).
And truly when we blame others for our actions we give away our power and gain nothing and can learn nothing of ourselves from the experience. I recently was at a friend’s house and he asked if I had made him mad by the jokes he was hoisting at me about my baldness. I replied "No, I do not give you that power over me" and continued "in fact the only thing I am mad about, but have long since accepted, was that I hated losing my hair".
"In fact my friend" I continued "it was hard in high school because everyone thought I was a nark. My anger was not at him but at my genetics and how hard it made it for me to try and fit in during high school.
SO simply admitting where my emotions had come from I had learned something about myself AND kept my own power over the situation.We had a wonderful evening and came to a deeper understanding of each other.
Often times people assign blame to others simply so they do not have to face their own personal truths being blinded by the lies they tell themselves instead of facing the true reality.
I choose to live in reality and not as a Queen of Denial. All that I do and have done and will do cannot be blamed on anyone either than myself. And none other can be commended or praised for those actions. Instead of blaming others I prefer to look at what I did and try to understand why.
So that, no matter what happened, even if I did get mad and caused some type of damage, I learn from it and work towards change and understanding. If I cannot understand myself how can I truly understand others?
In my Pozitive Speaking presentation which I have shared with hundreds, or more, I admit I was infected even before we had the name of H.I.V. and when asked who Infected me I reply "I did".
Because even in those days when we didn't know much about this dis-ease I was the one playing with my life by injecting drugs. I knew of other risks but no matter the knowledge of HIV (and lack of it's current name) at that time- I did this to myself".
Even in this day and age you cannot tell if someone is infected so I beg you to always take personal responsibility. I can blame no one else but myself.