Why Men Marry

Men can be captivated by sex for a while, but in time they hear the call of a deeper hunger, a more primal need.
I awoke one morning too many with a stranger…… feeling isolated, disconnected and alone.
I had lost contact with myself, my purpose and the deeper significance of life.

The thrill of sexual carousing reveals itself an empty promise in an arena without dignity or reason.

It’s an expensive activity with no final achievement where empty promises have ever fewer takers.
Men that marry too young often miss this lesson and some end up having affairs.
To be a husband and a father doesn’t come naturally to a man. They are acquired skills and most men are simply not inclined to give up all women for a single woman that requires his loyalty and generosity for the rest of his life.
Men that master these skills do so through honor, discipline and self control. This is a transformation of man’s natural drives and deserves our respect.

Men marry for many reasons and most of them lead to divorce.
But it’s not just a desire for companionship, sex or even a genuine realization of their pointless existence that transforms the single man.
No.
In the end……when men marry for life …..They marry for love.

When I fell in love with my wife, and I do again almost everyday, a deeper level of spirit sprang up through my life and transformed my relationship to the world.

I became a Spiritual Warrior….. at war with my own unconsciousness.

My own detachment and emptiness had served me in the past but now they are my most persistent adversaries.
My only weapon is Love that constantly demands I surrender to a higher cause in the chaos of ever changing emotions.
This transformation is essential, for it is the passage from man to gentleman that forms the foundation of society.

Women cause evolution when they transform male sexual desire into love.
Her values of exclusivity, longevity and stability spark his love and bring meaning to his life.
Love, marriage and childbirth are fundamental physically defined emotional experiences.
The significance of these experiences for a woman are the source of her moral strength.

Today’s “Cosmopolitan” woman with short-term vision tries to ‘quick-fix’ relationships by getting him sexually addicted. Never considering the transformation of masculine nature she undermines her own foundation offering sexual gratification as an alte
ative to love.
She thinks: I’ll get him ‘hooked’ and he’ll change. They are wrong.
An “addict-able” man is not a “committable” man.
Men change slowly but transformation is immediate.

In a shallow world that is pulling and pushing you to be like it, holding out for a higher purpose feels pointless. Quick fix women think “If I don’t sleep with him some girl will” and they’re right.
But women cannot avoid the impact their sexual choices have on the outcome of relationships.
Sexuality is one of our deepest sources of identity, emotion and energy. Its connection with loves deeper meaning is essential to lifelong relationships. Successful societies are base on customs intended to channel male sexuality into productive, long term relationships. Men are attracted by sex but they stay for love. And women are simply better equipped to know the difference.

A woman’s grace is ete
al. Her beauty and sex appeal are fleeting. Use them wisely. Men might say I love you for sex. But in the end they marry for love.