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You Are Fabulous!

Topic: Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)By Tania Psathas, the gayguyscoachPublished Recently added

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You are fabulous!

One of the most well known confidence building exercises is to list your own strengths and natural abilities.

By looking at the list it can make you say “Wow, I really am good!”

Another great way of building your confidence and getting in touch with how great you really are is to ask friends, colleagues and people who you know for feedback on your strengths and natural abilities.

Your practical assignment is to list 5 people who you know and trust for this exercise.

Make sure they are from different areas of your life.

List them below:

1. A FAMILY MEMBER

2. A FRIEND

3. A WORK COLLEAGUE

4. AN ASSOCIATE

5. A SOCIAL CONTACT

You might at this stage be feeling a little nervous about asking these people for feedback.

Don’t worry, because you will be only asking for your strengths.

JUST GO FOR IT!

So, how do you go about it?

Well, below is a list of questions that I’d like you to ask to each of your list.

I recommend that you meet or talk on the phone with each beforehand and explain the context of the exercise and then either ask them verbally or give them the questions and either fill in the sheet of paper or email you with their feedback.

They will feel honoured that you have asked them and the feedback that you will receive will truly make you feel fabulous and full of confidence.

Rightly or wrongly, we live in a society where other peoples’ opinions count to our self esteem and confidence.

By completing this exercise you will get some really good insight into some of your strengths.

Often you receive valuable information on the strengths that you didn’t even know you had!

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AL FEEDBACK QUESTIONSnnn • What do you perceive to be my greatest strengths?nnn • What do you like most about me?nnn • What do you value most about me?nnn • What three words sum up the positive points about me?nnn • If you needed help with something, what would you call me to help you with?

After you have received all of the feedback it is now time to reflect on what has been written or said:

How do you feel about it?

Are there any surprises?

Do you feel confident about your abilities?

How can you use this information going forward?

How can you maximise your strengths?

If these people think you have these strengths, so do a lot of other people as well – how does that make you feel?

What are the key insights you have learned?

What will you do now that is different to what you have done before?

To your abundance,
Tania nnnnnnnnnnn

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Tania has worked with hundreds of gay men across 4 countries. She currently works with gay men over the age of 30 who have 'done' the gay scene and are looking for more meaning in their lives. Come see her at: www.thegayguyscoach.com and get your FREE customised goals report NOW!

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