Article

Your Secret Life Is Safe With Those Who Love You

Topic: Adult and Senior DevelopmentBy Warren RedmanPublished Recently added

Legacy signals

Legacy popularity: 1,012 legacy views

We all live inner lives. Thoughts and feelings that sometimes we are hardly aware of exist almost independently of our outward existence. Occasionally, when we become more conscious of what is going on within us, we might express the idea, the thought, the feeling. Often we will suppress it, especially when we don’t have someone close whom we can trust.

It is that suppression that can cause us all kinds of problems. You can imagine some of them; perhaps you have experienced a few yourself.

Learning to listen to ourselves is the best way that I know to becoming more authentic and expressing who we are to others. When you do that with people who love you, and whom you trust, then you know your inner, secret self is safe. Before you can do that, you must practice it with yourself first. When you can really hear, understand and accept yourself, you are more likely to be able to express what is important to you. And when you do that, the surprising thing is that others will learn to trust and respect you more.

In other words, holding back reduces trust, expressing authentic feelings increases it.

It’s odd then that the opposite seems to be more of the norm. Fearing what others may think of us is so common that we must believe that we are the only one who has an inner life!

In peacen.
Warren Redmannwww.EFitInstitute.com
10866-310- 3348 (EFit)n

Article author

About the Author

Warren Redman trained in the UK as a psychotherapist, facilitator and coach and has developed his own unique style of Life Coaching which he calls Emotional Fitness Coaching. He is president of the Emotional Fitness Institute (formally the Centre for Inner Balancing), writing about, teaching and coaching people in success skills of Emotional Fitness. He is the author of fifteen books, including the Award-winning The 9 steps to Emotional Fitness, Achieving Personal Success and Recipes for Inner Peace. Find out more or subscribe to Equilibrium, a free ezine, at www.EFitInstitute.comn

Further reading

Further Reading

4 total

Article

No more New Year’s resolutions!! No more thinking about projects to finish, exercise classes to start or diets to loose that same ten pounds. Baby Boomers, parents, career professionals; we all strive for better health, less stress, being more organized. A great solution for a Great New Year is to clear the air and to forget about you, start thinking about others. To do this, you have to put two things in place.

Related piece

Article

You’re thinking your life is wonderful, no current crisis is on the horizon, no big decisions to make, everything seems to be rocking along. Then, out of the blue, something happens in five minutes, your world is turned upside down, you have to make some instant decisions. Your ...

Related piece

Article

A common phrase used in Coaching and therapy is experiencing an “Ah Ha” moment. A thought occurs to you that shifts your universe, you get a different perspective. A basic value that you live by is changed or altered. Everything concerned with your life, relationships, faith or even who you think you are can be effected. It happens in an instant. The roller coaster just reached the top of the ride and then, you just took off! This was mine, yesterday.

Related piece

Article

So here we are once again celebrating Christmas. How fast this seems to come around, especially the older I get. Peace and Joy, these are the tools for a meaningful life. I wish you PEACE. Peace in your heart, with your families and friends. Peace in your mind, especially looking toward the future. I wish you JOY. Joy to continually fill your heart. Your mind thinking of joyful things to do with those you love and care about, giving you a reason to get up everyday. This is truly one of the secrets to creating the memories that slow down the passing of time.

Related piece