Barbara Becker Holstein
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Positive Psychology Expert

Barbara Becker Holstein Quick Facts
- Main Areas
- Positive Psychology, Happiness, Psychotherapy, Coaching, School Psychology, Teaching
- Career Focus
- Positive Psychologist, Happiness Coach, Writer of Inspirational Books, both non-fiction and fiction in the field of Positive Psychology, Speaker, Media host-radio and television
Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein is the originator of The Enchanted Self(R). She has been a positive psychologist in private practice and licensed in the states of New Jersey and Massachusetts since 1981. She is currently in private practice in Long Branch, New Jersey with her husband, Dr. Russell M. Holstein.
The magic of the human spirit, with its capacity for survival, growth and joy, has always intrigued Dr. Barbara. As years went by and her practice grew, she longed to explore adult development even further--specifically how to overcome obstacles and bring pleasure into one’s life while living a life of meaning and purpose.
She began to document certain steps necessary to rekindle our talents, strengths and lost potential which she teaches and has labeled The Enchanted Self. Her research on women (not in her practice) initially focused around the negative messages that these women had received in childhood from their families and environment. However, she soon discovered that there was a magical capacity within these women to reinvent themselves in adulthood even with childhood experiences of inte alized negative messages.
Taking this information back to the treatment room, Dr. Holstein discovered that her clients thrived when she helped them glean from their memories what was positive in their past, rather than focusing on the negative elements. She also discovered that affirming her clients' talents, coping skills, interests, longings, wishes, and even dormant potential, ultimately led to each client flowering, regardless of real problems and issues. She has helped many, many clients and the public overcome adversity and discover that life is worth living. Her methods help people have more positive emotions while understanding how to cope with daily living, so that it is indeed a good life. Mental wellness combined with a true understanding of how to retrieve and recreate positive states of mind again and again are top goals for Dr. Holstein.
Dr. Barbara saw that she was committed, also, to bringing to the world the techniques she developed to help people access their Enchanted Selves. These core principles and techniques, called the Gateways To Happiness have brought insight and inspiration to countless women. Dr. Holstein believes that no one should be denied hope or a joyful life. Yes, happiness takes work, but no more work than living a life without hope, repeating negative thoughts and habits that lead to a life that feels less than inspiring.
Her book The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy was published in 1997 by Harwood Academic Publishers and is now in its second printing through Brunner-Routledge. This book is Dr. Holstein's pathfinder book where she outlines the best in Positive Psychology treatment techniques, two years before the term was coined!
Her second book Recipes for Enchantment, The Secret Ingredient is YOU! has received rave reviews as a wonderful inspirational story book with space to jou al.
There Comes A Time In Every Woman's Life for DELIGHT is Dr. Holstein's third book. This book takes the reader on a spiritual adventure with Dr. Holstein. Reader's love this book, getting to experience first hand celebrations and adventures that rekindle their own spirit of adventure. In two versions, paperback and a CD-rom version that includes music, art, and Dr. Holstein's voice, either is sure to be a 'Delight.'
Dr. Barbara speaks regularly on radio programs around the country, and appears on television in New York and New Jersey. Her inspiring audio shows and podcasts can be found on the web. Her articles and stories appear on the web on hundreds of sites. She also gives lectures, seminars, and tele-classes on happiness. Listen to her e-radio show, Happiness for Women Only! on http://www.inte etvoicesradio.com/
Her book, The Truth, I'm Ten, I'm Smart and I Know Everything! is another first in positive psychology. Written by a ten year old girl as a diary, Dr. Barbara has been able to imbed lots of positive truths that we all need to remember and live by, regardless of our age.
The girl's edition, titled: The Truth, (I'm a girl, I'm smart and I know everything) debuted February 2008 in bookstores nationwide and of course is available everywhere online, including Amazon. Girls, tweens and teens delight in reading the intimate thoughts and feelings of a girl, just like them. The diary format lends it self to a number of topics that family, teachers, guidance counselors can use to discuss critical growing up issues with kids. There are questions in the back of the book to further optimize communication.
The second book, where the girl is now 13, is Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I'll Tell You Mine...Maybe! is available everywhere. Like the earlier book in The Truth Series, girls and adults will relate immediately with the girl and her diary, while being immersed in the relevant topics of growing up, such as family issues, moving, silblings, a crush, roller-coaster emotions, etc.
Websites are www.enchantedself.com, www.positivepsychologyforwomen.com and www.thetruthforgirls.com Videos are located on www.youtube.com, channel: Enchantedself
Free Articles & Book Excerpts
THE TRUTH: I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything!: book excerpt
www.enchantedself.com/exploreenchantment/books/excerpts-the-truth-im-a-girl-im-smart-and-i-know-everything.pdf
The Truth, I'm 10, I'm Smart & I Know Everything: book excerpt
www.enchantedself.com/exploreenchantment/books/excerpts-the-truth-im-ten-im-smart-and-i-know-everything.pdf
Delight: book excerpt
www.enchantedself.com/exploreenchantment/books/delightexcerpts.pdf
Feel Good Stories: book excerpt
www.enchantedself.com/exploreenchantment/books/feelgoodstories.pdf
The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy: book excerpt
www.enchantedself.com/exploreenchantment/books/enchantedexcerpt.pdf
Free Articles and Newsletters
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Free Audio & Video Samples
Inte et Voices Radio with Dr. Barbara Becker Holstein every Monday at 4:30 pm EDT on Inte etvoicesradio.com
http://www.inte etvoicesradio.com/Arch-DrBarb.htm
Dr. Barbara Holstein's Inte et Radio, Audio and Podcasts
http://www.enchantedself.com/webpodcasts.html
Dr. Barbara's Television & Video Appearances
http://www.enchantedself.com/tvandvideo.html
Barbara Becker Holstein Books
THE TRUTH: I'm a Girl, I'm Smart and I Know Everything!
http://www.amazon.com/Truth-Girl-Smart-Know-Everything/dp/0979895200?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1205256246&sr=1-1
The Truth, I'm 10, I'm Smart & I Know Everything
http://enchantedself.com/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=25&products_id=62
Delight
http://enchantedself.com/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=6&products_id=7
Feel Good Stories
http://enchantedself.com/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=7&products_id=22
Recipes for Enchantment
http://enchantedself.com/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=5&products_id=5
The Enchanted Self, A Positive Therapy
http://enchantedself.com/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=4&products_id=3
Secrets: You Tell Me Yours and I'll Tell You Mind,...Maybe!
http://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Tell-Yours-Mine-Maybe/dp/0979895219/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1312168113&sr=1-1
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***Sometimes Furnishings are the Gateway to Enchantment
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The Wise Older Woman
Awhile ago, I attended a beautiful wedding. A young Jewish couple came together in joy and the room was filled with happiness. Outside of the banquet room I noticed a group of older women sitting near the door collecting charity. They all looked very pure and plain at the same time, young seniors and older seniors, nothing fancy about them. Their hips were full. They were wearing comfortable walking shoes and somewhat frumpy looking clothing. There wore either wigs or kerchiefs.
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***How Can We Build Enchantment Into Our Lives?
I remember when I was a child how much I loved my grandmother Rose Silverman's things. They were not just the functional plastic items, earthenware and stuffed sofas that most families had when I grew up. All of the furniture and things in her apartment were 'alive' with romance, magic and ...
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***Remembering A True 'Enchanted Self'
Over my lifetime I have never tired of watching Lucille Ball in action. Oh, what ecstasy in my childhood to finish a dreary Monday by watching Lucy come to grips with her life in hysterical ways! She gave me courage to believe as a little girl that one could overcome adversity,have a life ...
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Contacting Barbara Becker Holstein
Please contact Dr. Holstein at 732-571-1200
Come visit her at www.enchantedself.com/
Share a comment on her blogs at:
The Enchanted Self www.enchantedself.com/blog
Positive Psychology for Women www.positivepsychologyforwomen.com/
The Truth for Girls www.thetruthforgirls.com/
How to get started
Dr. Barbara outlines her mission and philosophy of positive psychology on her web site
Her book, The Enchanted Self : A Positive Therapy, lays out the tools necessary to create a positive mind set and live an affirmative and affirming way of life!
Other highlights
The Enchanted Self www.enchantedself.com/blog
Positive Psychology for Women www.positivepsychologyforwomen.com
The Truth for Girls www.thetruthforgirls.com