betsy sansby

Betsy Sansby, MS, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist has worked with individuals, couples, and families for over 25 years. She is the creator of: The S.T.O.P. Strategy, The OuchKit, LoveBites, and other tools for couples. She is the author of Ask Betsy, an online relationship advice column, which you can read at: www.TalkAboutRelationships.net Betsy has also appeared in Redbook Magazine, and is a regularly featured therapist in the Ladies' Home journal series Can This Marriage Be Saved? Betsy is available for counseling in her Minnetonka, MN office and for online and phone sessions.

A note to Couples from Betsy: Am I the right therapist for you?

If you're willing to work hard, I can help you take your relationships to the next level. First, we'll figure out what you want and what's keeping you from getting it. Then you'll learn to break the patterns of defensiveness and blame that create pain, heartache and distance in your relationship. You'll learn how to talk about even the most difficult issues in a less reactive and more respectful way. And you'll experience the power of taking greater responsibility for your own behavior to elicit more openness and flexibility from your partner.

Between sessions, you'll be practicing whatever skills you've been working on, so you’re always making progress--even when I'm not around. Each time we meet, we'll figure out what's working, what's not, and what’s next. My job is to make each session challenging and relevant, and to give you tools to help you be your brightest selves--both inside and outside the therapy setting.

A note to Individuals suffering from depression or anxiety:

Research has shown that isolating, avoiding, and worrying only prolong suffering in those struggling with depression or anxiety. I can help you navigate these troubled waters. I know them well. I can teach you effective mindfulness techniques to help you navigate through fear and pain, and prevent relapse once you're well again. You do not have to suffer alone.

You can expect me to:
• Ask direct questions
• Notice what others miss
• Tell you what I really think
• Care about your well-being and your relationships
• Insist you do your homework
• Make each step as easy as possible

Don't expect me to:
• Sit and nod
• Agree with you all the time
• Avoid difficult topics
• Work harder than you do
• Perform miracles very often

Clients' Quotes:

"We got more out of our first session with Betsy than we did in 3 years of marriage counseling!"

"A quick update...things are FABULOUS!! It's like I'm living with a totally different person...the person I always knew was there-the person I fell in love with!! He's back!! Truly amazing...I amrngrateful to you every day!!!"

"You did amazing things for us. We've had a great couple ofrnmonths realizing how much we love each other. We worked hard, but you gave us the tools. Without them, we could have worked just asrnhard...and ended up divorced."

"After our first session, my husband said he was the most hopeful he's felt in ages. Thanks, Betsy!"

"You aren't just helping us, you're helping us give our beautiful girls the gift of a peaceful, happy home they can feel loved in. Thank you for that!"

License: Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Clinical Member: American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy,

Minnesota Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, and National Registry of Marriage Friendly Therapists

To purchase Betsy's Tools for couples, go to: www.TalkAboutRelationships.net

To contact Betsy: bsansby@comcast.net