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5 Steps to Loving Your 60s (even if you're dreading them!)
Are you bothered about turning 60? If youâre like many women âin the neighborhoodâ of 60, you are feeling apprehensive or concerned about being in your sixties. You might even be dreading it. Yep, some women just sail through 60 but many other arenât feeling good about their future and donât know what kind of future they would feel good about. If you want to live with joy, passion, and purpose at 60 and beyond here are five steps to help you move from dread to delig
March 31, 2010
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Skip Those Resolutions, Create a Vision
It's January, a time that many people, hoping to improve their lives, make New Year's resolutions. Unfortunately experts say that in less than a month the majority of those resolutions will already be broken. So why not completely skip the resolutions and create a "lights on" vision for 2009 instead? A vision of what you truly want that can energize you and guide you as you make this your best year ever! rn***********************************************************rnMy Vision
December 30, 2009
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5 Tips For Transitions
"Transitions are good and I hate them," I said only half-jokingly to a dear friend a few years ago. nnI love my life these days. I'm happily married, doing work that's meaningful to me, and living on the water. nnBut I never would have gotten to this point without making my way through many transitions: moving, changing jobs, and ending relationships. nnAlthough in hindsight, I'm grateful for the transitions that brought me to where I am today, in the midst of them I've often
November 7, 2008
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How To Keep Doubt From Destroying Your Dreams
"I can't make any money doing this." n"This is too good to be true." n"Maybe I just don't have what it takes to do this." n"I'm never going to figure this out." n"I guess I'm not going to find something I'm passionate about." n"I'm not sure any more that I really want to do this." nnI've heard these doubts and many others from my clients as they follow their dreams, desires, and passions. Doubt seems to be a normal part of the busy human mind, one of Monkey Mind's favorite fl
June 5, 2008
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Critical Voice? How To Stop Your Monkey Mind
"That will never work." "What is wrong with you?" "Who do you think you are?" "That's a stupid idea." nnIf a friend talked to you this way you probably wouldn't be friends for long. Surprisingly, though, most people do have someone who talks to them like this. It's their Monkey Mind! nnMonkey Mind is that inner voice jabbering away at you, criticizing, judging, blaming, doubting, and worrying. Everyone has some Monkey Mind chatter going on. It's part of being human. In fact,
May 20, 2008
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Savoring Life's Sweetness
Who isn't busy these days? Our lives are filled with responsibilities, obligations, family, work, friends, volunteer commitments, and "to do" lists. A few of us even try to squeeze in a teensy bit of time for ourselves. But what if, in the midst of all this busyness, you're missing your life?nnPerhaps you, like me, sometimes get lost in busy, busy, do, do, hurry, hurry and miss the joys that life is offering. Perhaps we need an occasional reminder to savor the sweet moments.
April 24, 2008
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Not Getting What You Want? Stop Trying
For more than a decade I yearned to know my calling. I tried many, many books, processes, and workshops to figure it out. All to no avail. Eventually, I began to despair of ever discovering a purpose for my life. nnAre you in a similar circumstance, wanting something in some area of your life yet it just isn't happening? Do you long to do work that is fulfilling, to be happily married, to know what you're passionate about, or to start a successful business?nnSometimes no matt
April 2, 2008
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Unsure Where Youâre Going In Life? Step Through The Fog
Imagine for a moment that you are driving into a dense evening fog on a country road. Surrounded by white, you can barely see past the front of the car, much less the end of the road or your destination. nnWith the headlights only able to provide visibility on the asphalt directly ahead, you resort to moving forward slowly, as you focus on the part of the road you can see. nnAlmost magically, each time you reach the end of the headlight beam the fog seems to dissipate and you
March 21, 2008
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What Do You Really Want? How To Find Your Answers To Life's Questions
What should I do with the rest of my life? What am I passionate about? In which direction shall I head? How can I bring more meaning to my life? nnThese are the kinds of big questions my clients seek answers to when they come to me. So far, not one client has been searching for answers to life's smaller questions such as what to wear to a party, what movie to see, or where to go for dinner.nnThere is a connection, though, between the small and the big questions in our lives:
March 11, 2008
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The Happiness Combination: 2 Keys To Open The Door
It is in our nature as humans to want to be happy. We strive for many things such as success, wealth, love, and peace because we believe they will make us happy. Sometimes though, no matter what we do or how hard we try, happiness eludes us. There is, however, a path to happiness for each of us and an internal GPS to find and navigate that path. nnn****************************************nIt Is Our Naturen****************************************nAristotle said, "Happiness is
March 3, 2008
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Stuck? Wouldn't It Be Nice If . . . .?
Wouldn't it be nice if there were an easy way to get unstuck, move out of a slump, feel better, and create what you want in life?nnThere IS a light and playful process you can use to accomplish all this and more. It is so simple, though, that you might not think it could do much at all for you. But it does work for many, many people and it could help you too.nnn************************************nWhat Is This Process?n************************************nThe process is "Woul
February 21, 2008
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Controlling What You Can Control
One morning a few months ago, my sister called to report, "The doctor says Mom has Alzheimer's." We'd suspected this and still, hearing that dreaded diagnosis, my heart broke. I didn't want it to be true. I wanted my mom back, to forever be as she'd always been. I didn't want to face what lay ahead. I didn't want to feel what I was feeling.nnWe all have times like this in our lives, times when something disturbs, upsets, or stresses us. No matter how troublesome or trivial th
February 1, 2008
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