Denise Wade
Ph.D. CMRC
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Dating Mentor, Transformational Educator, Author, Researcher and Relationship Expert
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- Love Mentor, Marriage Educator and Master Relationship Coach
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- Author, Coach
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- Pebbles in the Pond, Transformational Authors, YourTango
Denise Wade Ph.D. CMRC is a Dating Mentor, Transformational Educator, Author, Researcher, and Relationship Expert. She has studied biological anthropology, the psychology of relationships, and her specialty gender dynamics.
Recently Denise completed a two year study, involving two thousand men and women on love, marriage, and relationships based on the gender differences. With her extraordinary findings she created Feminine Intelligence for single women and Help, My Partner is Impossible to Live With for women in relationships. Both are 8 week programs designed to powerfully shift relational blueprints and transform participants out of their relational comfort zones through live breakthrough teleseminars and workshops.
With her unique approach Denise empowers, teaches, and inspires women to release emotional baggage, heal past pains, identify unhealthy relationship patterns and triggers, and be seen and heard in all their relationships. She is passionate about helping women create positive, loving, long lasting relationships by first understanding themselves and their needs and then understanding the unique differences of men.
Denise is co author of the transformational anthology Pebbles in the Pond (May 2011). She personally transformed her own life twenty five years ago after being “stuck” in an unloving, abusive relationship. She is now married to her soulmate and best friend. Denise and her family live in Philadelphia.
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Five Suggestions For Releasing Painful Relationship Memories
Do you find yourself remembering how great it used to be? Perhaps it’s the memory of a loved one, or the hurtful memory attached to betrayal from someone you trusted. The pain won’t seem to lessen over time. What do you do with this emotional burden? How do you release this crippling memory that keeps you from loving or trusting again?
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Who’s Controlling Who in This Relationship?
The most successful, thriving relationships all have one thing in common: both parties have control over their own choices, decisions, and actions. Now I understand that there are some relationships that function just fine with the Alpha and Beta complimenting each other. For most couples though, such is not the case. In most relationships one party will consciously or unconsciously feel the need to “fix”, “control”, “rescue”, “dominate”, or “take care of” the other. To visit the animal shelter and rescue our furry little friend is great and admirable, rescuing your partner, not so much.
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Are You In A Healthy Relationship?
Take This Quiz How do you relate to your partner? When an unmet need arises, a conce or issue, listen to the words and the tone you use. Listen to the words and tone the other party uses. Are you aggressive and dominating? Is your partner aggressive and dominating? Do you allow him or her to control you? Do you control your partner? Are you soft, shrink down, and become fearful or insecure? Does your partner become fearful, insecure, or shrink back? Either extremes of the relationship scale can be out of balance.
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Are You Compatible With your Partner?
All of us emerge from childhood with an inbo temperament and dominating personality traits. Believe it or not, most personality characteristics are encoded in your DNA. It is these inbo tendencies that largely determine the ways in which you adapt to your childhood environment, family members, education, and conflicts – and not the other way around. This could very well be the reason why you may not get along with your ex boyfriend, while his current girlfriend seems to have a soul connection. Or perhaps you and your husband get along beautifully but you don’t fare well with his family.
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I Want More Than he Has To Offer
Whether you just met the man of your dreams or are casually dating, here are ten simple dating principles to maintain a healthy dating mindset. No matter if he considers you relationship material or just a coffee date, the most desirable women in a man’s mind are the ones who take responsibility for themselves, are confident, and are fantasy free. Be willing to accept what your date has to offer and if you want more than he has to offer, it is okay to move on. You are too valuable to settle or compromise. Remember there is only one person to represent you in the dating world and that’s…you.r
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Fighting Fair with Your Spouse
When conflict with your partner escalates to anger, name calling, slamming doors and irreparable damage it may be time to take a closer look at what is really going on. I get asked frequently how to fight fair without saying hurtful things that can not be taken back. Most likely something is being triggered from your past or your partner’s past. The telltale sign that it is an old wound being opened is when you feel an unreasonable amount of anger that does not parallel the situation at hand. The balance of logic and reasoning is thrown off by a flood of emotions.
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Navigating the Power Struggle Stage of Your Relationship
Let’s face it at some time or another almost every healthy relationship suffers a breakdown where one or both parties are ready to walk out the door. This is the natural ebb and flow. As much as you want your intimate relationship to work out sometimes it just does not seem possible. The differences between the two of you may seem to create a chasm where all the unmet needs and hurtful words get dumped like an emotional landfill.
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Three Secret Keys To Marriage Happiness
When you marry, you and your partner each bring a trunk load of childhood fantasies, marriage myths, unmet needs, and cultural beliefs, and unload them onto the relationship. This is where assumptions, expectations, and shoulds originate. False notions and beliefs about how your relationship should be or who you assume your partner to be is rooted in your past, not reality.
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Money Is The Third Party In Our Relationship
When you and your partner argue about money, money most likely isn’t the real issue Finance is just the arena the underlying issue gets played out on. Often the argument is about two very different belief systems. We operate from powerful principles of either one of two mindsets: lack or abundance, downloaded in our subconscious usually from childhood. Four sources of influence around money assumptions are parents, painful childhood experiences, religion, and social programming/ media.How you approach money is typically how you approach all areas of your life.
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My comfortable alte ative to marriage counseling is focused on helping you gain greater self awareness, uncover your specific emotional and sexual needs, and understand the specific and often frustrating differences and needs of your partner. I will gently teach you relationship skills through effective exercises, individually or as a couple, to help you get your needs met.
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Relationships don’t come with an operating manual; however there are formulas that can be taught. Allow me to help you restore harmony, increase intimacy, create passion, and become your partner’s best friend using simple Relational Principles. You don’t need therapy, you just need Relational Principles.
My comfortable alte ative to marriage counseling is focused on helping you gain greater self-awareness, uncover your specific emotional and sexual needs, and understand the specific and often frustrating needs of your partner. I will gently teach you relationship skills through effective exercises, individually or as a couple, to help you get your needs met and forgive past indiscretions.
I can help you deepen trust, align priorities, and avoid the “blind spots” by outlining the couple’s agreements ahead of time. I also guide couples through second marriages, to help you navigate the difficult and sensitive issues of blended families. I understand firsthand the pain of divorce and its devastating effects, especially on children.
I’ve combined my extensive research in the psychology of relationships with workshop facilitation and my own personal experience to gently guide you through those recurring issues around in-laws, sex, emotional affairs, communication, religion, money, children, unmet emotional needs, negligence, anger, unresolved issues, nonnegotiable requirements, divorce, ex partners, remarriage, dating, and difficult partners.
The Benefits of Couples Coaching:
| Helps you outline a detailed Marriage Contract or Agreement that is critical for Peace, Harmony, and Marriage Success |
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| Increases Trust By Avoiding “Relational Blind Spots” |
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| Teaches you how to Be Proactive Instead Of Reactive |
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| Assists You in Healing Old Wounds and Hurts |
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| Increases Relational Maturity and Relational I.Q. |
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| Shows You Why The Biggest Problems In Marriage Are Not Communication |
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| Teaches you How To Get Your Needs Met |
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| Increases Awareness of The Unique Differences Between Men and Women |
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| Teaches You How To Be Heard And How To Listen |
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| Teaches Men How To Please Women And Women How To Please Men |
We will explore the greatest enemy of marriage, the expectations and hidden assumptions, “the blind spots.” Through assessments and questionnaires, you will customize your very own detailed new Marriage Agreements. This agreement includes specifics on emotional, sexual, functional, and foundational issues around family, money, children, domestic chores, communication, holidays, religion, spending, etc., including what is a nonnegotiable.
You as the couple will take away priceless conflict resolution skills, understand possible emotional triggers, a detailed co created life plan, deepened trust, peace of mind, and realistic expectations for the success of your marriage and your own personal fulfillment. With the divorce rate at 53% for first marriages and 62% for second marriages, wouldn’t you like to restart your life together? If what you’re doing isn’t working, let’s try something different.
Other highlights
Feminine Intelligence for single women and Help, My Partner is Impossible to Live With for women in relationships. Both are 8 week programs designed to powerfully shift relational blueprints and transform participants out of their relational comfort zones through live breakthrough teleseminars and workshops.