Grenville Phillips

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Grenville Phillips Quick Facts

Main Areas: Preparing couples for marriage. Guiding couples who believe that they are no longer in love because their mutual attraction for each-other has faded.
Career Focus: Relationship coach, Author, Teacher and Mentor.
Affiliation: President of Walbrent College. Fellow of the Institution of Structural Engineers. Fellow of the Chartered Institution of Highways and Transportation.

Grenville has spent approximately 15 years successfully counselling couples in their preparation for marriage, and married couples who believe that they no longer love each other because their mutual attraction for each other has faded. He has spent over 20 years designing solutions to complex engineering problems. He is the author of 4 reference books and 2 self-help books, including his latest: “Attraction is a feeling. Love is a promise.”

He holds a Bachelor of Science degree in Mathematics, a Bachelor of Engineering degree in Civil Engineering, a Master of Applied Science degree in Environmental Engineering, and a Master of Urban and Rural Planning degree in land use planning. He is, among other things, a Fellow of the Institution of Structural Engineers, a Fellow of the Chartered Institution of Highways and Transportation, and the president of Walbrent College.

Grenville is a son, brother, husband, father, friend, employer, teacher, musician, singer, composer, author, and publisher. He tries to help the less fortunate, befriend the stranger, encourage the despondent, guide the wanderer, know God, never compromise personal integrity regardless of the price offered, and pursue excellence even when there is no reward.

Grenville Phillips Books

Attraction is a feeling. Love is a promise. (Official website)

http://loveisapromise.wordpress.com/

Attraction is a feeling. Love is a promise. ($8.00 book)

https://www.createspace.com/4265138

Attraction is a feeling. Love is a promise. ($7.00 Kindle)

http://www.amazon.com/Attraction-feeling-Love-promise-ebook/dp/B00COYR5FI/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1368834004&sr=1-1&keywords=attraction+is+a+feeling+love+is+a+promise

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A sustained exciting and satisfying marriage is within your reach.

“I just don’t love you anymore.” Do those words sound familiar? Well if you have been married for more than 5 years, then your spouse has probably thought them, and so have you. Please do not worry. It is not the end of your relationship, but it can be the beginning of a fulfilling and exciting life-journey for both of you – starting right now.

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Our concept of love has been defined by romantic: letters, poems, songs, stories, novels, movies, theatrical productions, etc. They have all defined love as strong feelings of attraction. If these feelings are felt by both parties, then they are said to be “in-love” with each other. If only one party feels the attraction, then the results can be tragic.

Attraction is not love. It is an emotional force that we can feel, and its intensity can fade. The couple that interpreted their strong feelings of attraction as love will justifiably conclude that they no longer love each other when the attraction fades. Their options are:

Artificially try to conjure up feelings or attraction with gifts and other sacrifices.
Try to get along for the sake of the children or to keep up appearances or to avoid the consequences of separation.
Have an affair with someone with whom you feel intense attraction.
Give up trying and accept a life-sentence of misery.
Separate or divorce.

It is possible to avoid these options by choosing to love.

Contacting Grenville Phillips

Grenville may be contacted through this site or through http://loveisapromise.wordpress.com/

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Marriage can be a satisfying and exciting life-journey for a man and a woman who love each other. However, the significant number of divorced and separated persons indicates that there is a fundamental problem with their marriage preparation.

The dreaded phrases “I just don’t love you anymore” and “where has the love gone” are common among those who mistook their intense feelings of attraction as love. Attraction is not love. Attraction is an emotional force that we can feel, while love is a promise to do four progressively challenging things. For men:

Promise number 1 is to accept her exactly as she is right now, with everything that you know and do not know about her – and there is much that you do not know.

Promise number 2 is to accept everything about her as she ages – for better or worse, richer or poorer, health or sickness.

Promise number 3 is to forgive her. Neither of you is perfect; therefore, you will both make mistakes, and you will both need to depend on each others’ forgiveness.

Promise number 4 is to encourage her. This provides purpose for the marriage.

These promises are completed or consummated with sexual intercourse after they are formally made at your wedding. If the promises are not completed, then the marriage can easily be annulled. To demonstrate your intention to keep your promises, and not reject her for a younger and more shapely rival as she ages, you must restrain yourself from sexual intercourse until after you have formally made your promises. If you are able to restrain yourself while your level of attraction is at its highest with her, then you show her that you are capable of resisting the future temptations that are certain to come from others.

The couple who is ready to make and keep their promises of love is ready to get married. Spouses of those with no intention of keeping these promises endure a life sentence of misery. Do not join them.

"Attraction is a feeling. Love is a promise." can prepare couples for marriage, and liberate married persons to enjoy a satisfying and excited life-journey.