Ken Matthies
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Finding Healing from Grief and Bereavement Expert

Ken Matthies Quick Facts
- Main Areas
- Finding Healing from Grief and Bereavement
- Career Focus
- Author, Poet, Storyteller
For over 40 years of his life Ken Matthies has been a writer and chronicler of life expressed in poetic form, following the family tradition laid down by his grandfather before him.
Faced with the dramatically life altering experience of his helicopter pilot daughter’s sudden death in 2002 he has grown to also become a literary author of true events based on his own life.
His full length book about that experience ‘How to Survive the Death of a Child: A Father’s Story of Healing Light’ was written in the aftermath years of her death. A graphically told and soul-wrenching true story, it is a father's honestly written and detailed first-hand account of the devastating experience of losing his child, as well as a revealing chronicle of the bitterly painful yet successful road he traveled to find healing from the immeasurable grief of that loss.
The truths of these events have been poured out whole and undiluted in their entirety, emanating from his rediscovered and renewed wellspring of unconditional Love and Memories of his daughter which have supplied and empowered him in the telling of it. It is this same wellspring which has also been instrumental in this story becoming what the subtitle calls 'A Father's Story of Healing Light'.
It tells of a grieving journey into deeply shadowed and repressed valleys of denial, anger, depression, confusion, and torment from which there didn't seem to be any escape at the time, or end to the pain brought about by death's close passage through his life.
But of even greater impact is that it also tells the detailed truths of how this father emerged whole and healed from a grief-stricken journey of his soul; a soul which along its way was once again able to find that richly healing 'LIGHT OF LOVE AND MEMORIES' that had long been seared into it with the tenderest of touches from a loving daughter's heart. It was in the radiance of this Light that he was also to discover a peace of heart and mind which passes beyond normal human understanding, and the simple yet profoundly healing truth that there is hope, there is consolation, and there is life again after a child's death.
He is also the author of a ten-part progressive grief and healing article series, as well as of numerous other articles, poems, and personalized stories written for the express purpose of helping others remember their lost loved ones, and find their own healing through identification with someone else who has walked a similar journey through the effects of grief and bereavement.
In 2005 Ken was for a brief time a contributor to and resident grief and healing expert on Keyboard Culture, a new blog community of the day comprised of experts in various fields of human experience.
He lives in the northern solitude and grandeur of a tiny southern Yukon village, an area which he says is a good place to tell his stories from.
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Grieving Advice Tips - When Death Hurts, an Uplifting Perspective
“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller My wife came home from the office last week with a discovery from among her filing which has brought me much comfort as the still healing father, son, brother and friend that I am. The simple beauty and imagery of these words has cast a new and profoundly peaceful outlook on the journey of all those whom I’ve lost throughout my life to dying – and eased my pain.
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Grieving Advice Tips - “Mixed-Status Families and their Grief”
“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller In today’s world of rapid change on all fronts the integrity of family units has not been exempt from the effects of those changes. This has resulted in ever greater numbers of broken relationships, divorces and separations – and thereby new children, partners and spouses being added to the mixed equations of their family lives.
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Grieving Advice Tips - “Golden Moments of a Long Term Dying”
“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller How could anyone think it possible to find ‘golden moments’ in a loved one’s long term dying? There are many among you out there in the world that are grieving from the loss of a family member or close friend who faced a long term dying. You probably felt like a piece of you was dying right along with them over the many long months or years before their end finally came, and your grief for their loss finally broke loose to become a living reality within you.
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Grieving Advice Tips - “The Floodwaters of Grieving”
“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller How often in the midst of your loss, grief and bereavement have you found yourself feeling as though you were about to drown in sorrow, not knowing what direction to reach out to in order to find the safety of something to hang on to and not go completely under from the pain of it all?
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Grieving Advice Tips - “Let Your Little Light Shine”
“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller “This little light of mine…I’m gonna let it shine…” So go the words of a Sunday school song of ancient memory as I sit down to write this story – and in them I’m finding a source of solace and strength as I continue walking my healing path more than five years after a daughter’s loss.
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Grieving Advice Tips - “The Powerful Role of the Spiritual in Healing from Grief”
“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller For many people dealing with issues of loss, grief and bereavement there’s also a spiritual aspect which can play a powerful role in their healing and recovery. Within the community of religion, and faith in a living afterlife of the spirit to be found in peoples around the world, there is an acceptance of death which transcends beyond the human pain of those left behind to mou their passing.
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Grieving Advice Tips - “The Healing Touch of Friends and Strangers”
“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller How often during the course of your grieving days and months has something like this happened to you and helped you in your healing just by its happening?
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Grieving Advice Tips - “The Importance of Listening to those in Grief”
“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller On a recent visit to the beauty of Southeast Alaska I was privileged to encounter an Elder of the Tlingit peoples who live there. He had recently lost his wife after many years of an illness which led eventually to her passing.
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Now That You Know About the Marker Stones, What’s Helping You Heal Today?
“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller The journey of your healing from loss, grief and bereavement will continue for you through a lifetime of learning – and from my own experience of having gone through it I’ve come to understand that as a good thing – not something negative to drive me to further despair.
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Marker Stones Part III - Integration - ‘Mending the Heart’
“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller The third cycle of grief is where the good news of your healing journey finally begins to outweigh the bad news and feelings from your experience of loss, grief and bereavement prior to this point, during that ete ity of time when it felt like it’d take forever for you to arrive here. Here are the marker stones of this final cycle of grief ‘Integration - Mending the Heart: • The decline of your grief • The waves of their intensity getting farther apartr
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Marker Stones Part II - Confrontation - ‘Entering the Depths’
“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller It’s in this second of the grief cycles that the waters of emotion get deeper and run heavy with the hidden currents of your pain – but again there are marker stones within this part of your experience to help you understand this part of your journey and know it will eventually lead you to your healing. The hard simple truth is that you have to endure the journey – but enduring it is so much less difficult if you understand what it is that you’re enduring.
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Marker Stones Part I - Avoidance - ‘Walking the Edges’
“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller Every single journey of loss, grief and bereavement is individual and different for each person experiencing it. There can be no hard and fast rules saying that it’s the same for everyone or telling anyone going through the experience how long or short a time period it should last till they break through to their healing.
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Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Ken Matthies
"There is hope, there is consolation, and there IS LIFE AGAIN after a child's death."
The Light of Love and Memories illuminates the pathway to your healing from loss."
"Honor the memory of your lost loved ones - and gain ever greater healing from it - by telling their story to all who are willing to listen with open hearts."
Contacting Ken Matthies
Email: mkmatthies@gmail.com
PO Box 38, Carcross YT Y0B 1B0