Ken Matthies

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Ken Matthies

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Author, Poet, Storyteller

For over 40 years of his life Ken Matthies has been a writer and chronicler of life expressed in poetic form, following the family tradition laid down by his grandfather before him.

Faced with the dramatically life altering experience of his helicopter pilot daughter’s sudden death in 2002 he has grown to also become a literary author of true events based on his own life.

His full length book about that experience ‘How to Survive the Death of a Child: A Father’s Story of Healing Light’ was written in the aftermath years of her death. A graphically told and soul-wrenching true story, it is a father's honestly written and detailed first-hand account of the devastating experience of losing his child, as well as a revealing chronicle of the bitterly painful yet successful road he traveled to find healing from the immeasurable grief of that loss.

The truths of these events have been poured out whole and undiluted in their entirety, emanating from his rediscovered and renewed wellspring of unconditional Love and Memories of his daughter which have supplied and empowered him in the telling of it. It is this same wellspring which has also been instrumental in this story becoming what the subtitle calls 'A Father's Story of Healing Light'.

It tells of a grieving journey into deeply shadowed and repressed valleys of denial, anger, depression, confusion, and torment from which there didn't seem to be any escape at the time, or end to the pain brought about by death's close passage through his life.

But of even greater impact is that it also tells the detailed truths of how this father emerged whole and healed from a grief-stricken journey of his soul; a soul which along its way was once again able to find that richly healing 'LIGHT OF LOVE AND MEMORIES' that had long been seared into it with the tenderest of touches from a loving daughter's heart. It was in the radiance of this Light that he was also to discover a peace of heart and mind which passes beyond normal human understanding, and the simple yet profoundly healing truth that there is hope, there is consolation, and there is life again after a child's death.

He is also the author of a ten-part progressive grief and healing article series, as well as of numerous other articles, poems, and personalized stories written for the express purpose of helping others remember their lost loved ones, and find their own healing through identification with someone else who has walked a similar journey through the effects of grief and bereavement.

In 2005 Ken was for a brief time a contributor to and resident grief and healing expert on Keyboard Culture, a new blog community of the day comprised of experts in various fields of human experience.

He lives in the northern solitude and grandeur of a tiny southern Yukon village, an area which he says is a good place to tell his stories from.

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“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller For many people dealing with issues of loss, grief and bereavement there’s also a spiritual aspect which can play a powerful role in their healing and recovery. Within the community of religion, and faith in a living afterlife of the spirit to be found in peoples around the world, there is an acceptance of death which transcends beyond the human pain of those left behind to mou their passing.

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“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller The journey of your healing from loss, grief and bereavement will continue for you through a lifetime of learning – and from my own experience of having gone through it I’ve come to understand that as a good thing – not something negative to drive me to further despair.

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STAGES OF GRIEF HEALING Article Series “HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real-Life Storyteller Welcome back to the eighth in a series of ten special articles of homespun real-life talk about your grieving process. Today’s topic of ‘Hearing Their Words Of Joy’ is the third of a three part series within these articles, which began with the article called ‘Talking To Your Lost Loved One’, and dealing with different aspects of reconnecting to our loved ones.

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“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller This was my poem of decision – written in the realization that it was finally time for the ‘rubber to hit the road’ of my future life in a meaningful way despite the fact that I was still a healing dad. I knew I was on a journey of healing but felt the compelling force of these questions within me of…”where do I go from here, and how do I get there?” I needed to know their answers.

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STAGES OF GRIEF HEALING Article Series “HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller Welcome back to the third in a series of ten special articles of homespun real-life talk about grief – and how you can begin to let go of the pain and torment of this hardest of all life experiences. By now you know exactly what I’m talking about when I call it “pain and torment,” don’t you – because you’ve been living with it while it burns holes not only in your heart, but in seemingly every aspect of your daily life.

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“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller The third cycle of grief is where the good news of your healing journey finally begins to outweigh the bad news and feelings from your experience of loss, grief and bereavement prior to this point, during that ete ity of time when it felt like it’d take forever for you to arrive here. Here are the marker stones of this final cycle of grief ‘Integration - Mending the Heart: • The decline of your grief • The waves of their intensity getting farther apartr

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“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller Every single journey of loss, grief and bereavement is individual and different for each person experiencing it. There can be no hard and fast rules saying that it’s the same for everyone or telling anyone going through the experience how long or short a time period it should last till they break through to their healing.

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“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storytellerr You’ve probably seen this sort of example a thousand times before in your life and never had cause to think twice about it on any of those occasions.

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“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller This was a poem written in still dreaded anticipation of the third anniversary of her death due to arrive once again on the following day. It would in fact turn out to be a landmark day in my healing process as I finally allowed myself to remember and experience its full effects on me for the very first time, in order to finally be able to give outlet to those deep feelings of grief still trapped within me. Anniversary Memories

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“HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller ‘A Mother’s Gratitude’ tells you a brief story of the grieving process from a mother’s perspective – and serves as an example of acceptance and hope for all of you readers looking for the affirmation that there are others out there like you who are also grieving the pain of separation from their child.

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STAGES OF GRIEF HEALING Article Series “HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real Life Storyteller Welcome back to the ninth in a series of ten special articles of homespun real-life talk about your grieving process. Today I’d like to talk to you about ‘Knowing The Truth In Your Own Heart’, and how this knowledge can positively affect perceptions about your own healing.

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STAGES OF GRIEF HEALING Article Series “HeartSpun Talk from the Crucible of Experience”© From the life of Ken Matthies - Author, Poet, Real-Life Storyteller Welcome back to the seventh in a series of ten special articles of homespun real-life talk about your grieving process. Today’s topic of ‘Feeling The Touch Of Their Spirit’ is the second of a three part series within these articles, which began with the previous article called ‘Talking To Your Lost Loved One’, and dealing with different aspects of reconnecting to your loved one.

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Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Ken Matthies

"There is hope, there is consolation, and there IS LIFE AGAIN after a child's death."

The Light of Love and Memories illuminates the pathway to your healing from loss."

"Honor the memory of your lost loved ones - and gain ever greater healing from it - by telling their story to all who are willing to listen with open hearts."

Contacting Ken Matthies

Email: mkmatthies@gmail.com

PO Box 38, Carcross YT Y0B 1B0