Lori Radun, CEC
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Modeling Life For Your Children
Fast forward 20 years; your children might be 20, 25 or maybe even 35. It doesn't really matter how old they are. What matters is whether or not they will learn the important family values that you wish to impart. Now I understand that, as mothers, we don't have complete control over the choices our children will make in their adult years. They won't always choose our values, and that's okay. However, when they are still at home, we have more influence than you might imagine.
October 24, 2008
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Journaling - A Self-Care Practice
When many of us think of self-care, we immediately think about all the things we should be doing for ourselves but aren't. We remind ourselves we should exercise or start eating healthy. We might even think about getting out to enjoy a cup of coffee with a friend. Some moms express a desire to spend more time with God. If we're really fantasizing about self-care, we might even dream about getting a massage, taking a nap, or going away to a spa for the weekend. But the reality
September 25, 2008
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The Seven Types Of Boundaries
The call came at 8:10 in the morning. "Mom, I forgot my baseball stuff in the car. Can you please bring it to me now?" My teenager had spent the night with his friend and inadvertently forgot to prepare himself for the baseball summer camp he was helping with in the morning. His baseball glove, shoes, and camp T-shirt were left at home and camp started in five minutes. Initially, I was irritated because I knew he wanted me to drop everything I was doing and bail him out of hi
September 19, 2008
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The Dreadful Word: No
Many moms have a hard time learning the essential art of saying no. It is such a struggle that Mary M. Byers has devoted an entire book, "How to Say No and Live to Tell About It", and has branded herself as "The No Queen". Sometime between the age of two, when no was our only vocabulary, and becoming an adult woman, we have forgotten the importance of saying no. Perhaps the words of our parents, "You don't tell me NO", has stuck with us and the shame and guilt we feel from as
August 7, 2008
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Make "The Judge" Sit Down
Is everything always what it seems? A daughter blames her mother for staying in an unhealthy marriage. A neighbor drinks too much and is ruining his health. This child is disrespectful because his mother doesn't discipline him. As human beings, we are quick to "judge" others and even ourselves. Could it be that the mother in the "unhealthy marriage" didn't view her marriage this way, or was unable to see another alternative? Is it possible that the "disrespectful child" is an
July 8, 2007
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Teaching Children Independence and Responsibility
Do you remember that phase in your child's life when all you heard was "I want to do it!"? You're in a hurry, and you want to help your child get dressed, but your two or three year old will have no part of that. You must wait for 15 minutes while she masters the socks and shoes. Your helpful child, at this age, wants to take out the trash, put away the silverware, bake cookies, and clean the bathroom. What on Earth happens to this independent child?nnNot all children, but ma
June 27, 2007
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Forgiveness - Breaking the Cycle of Resentment
Over 20 years ago, my mother disowned me for a period of 10 years of my life. It wasnât something I could ever imagine doing to one of my children, but it happened. It was one of the most painful times of my life. I was angry at her. I got married and gave birth to my first child and she wasnât there. I missed her and longed for a mother-daughter relationship. I cried a lot. Today my mother and I have a beautiful relationship and I am so grateful for our reconciliation. A
January 25, 2007
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Gifts that Never Go Out of Style
The holiday season is a time for giving. When most of us think of giving, we think of gifts. The mere thought of tackling that Christmas list can be daunting. Maybe there isnât enough money to buy the gifts youâd like to give. Or perhaps you have a few of those âhard to buy forâ people who have everything. So you put on your Betty Crocker hat and spend hours in the kitchen making cookies, sweet breads, and fudge to give as gifts. You make homemade ornaments and other
November 30, 2006
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Changing Seasons - New Beginnings
With each changing season, itâs a time to reflect on the past and make plans for the future. The seasons of the year can be compared to various cycles of our life. When I think of spring, it reminds me of new growth, opening up, and coming out into the world. Summer is time for sunshine and playtime â many of us vacation and enjoy fun activities. Fall marks change and preparation for the colder months. As winter approaches, our focus shifts to warmth and indoor pastimes l
September 7, 2006
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Family Rules and Healthy Child Self Esteem
When you reflect on your role as a mom, what objectives seem most important to you? Very few moms would disagree that itâs important to try and raise our children to be loving, happy and responsible adults. Although we all have different ideas on how weâre going to do that, there is a general consensus that having a loving, peaceful, organized and fun family environment sure makes success as a mom more likely. nnWhen you think about all the factors that can prevent us fro
August 25, 2006
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7 Ways to Deal with the Negative People in your Life
Have you ever been faced with trying to stay positive when others around you are negative? Negative people can be a challenge to be around. They will bring you down and drain your energy. A negative person can throw your best laid plans to be positive right out the window. Whether your child or spouse has an occasional negative day or you deal with a family member, friend or co-worker that is chronically negative, there are things you can do to remain positive in the face of
July 29, 2006
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Learning to Trust Yourself
Iâm sure there have been times you struggled to make a decision or enter into a commitment because you werenât sure you would make the right choice. Maybe youâve gotten a feeling in the pit of your stomach that something was not right, but you ignored it. If deep in our core, we know what is best for us, why donât we trust ourselves?nnWhat did you learn as a child about trust? Maybe you were unable to trust your loved ones or perhaps your loved ones did not trust you.
July 10, 2006