Margaret Paul

Ph.D.

Official Guide

Love, Marriage and Relationship Expert

Margaret Paul Quick Facts

Main Areas: Relationships, parenting, personal growth, spiritual growth, addictions. Along with Dr. Erika Chopich, Margaret has co-created and facilitates a powerful self-healing process called Inner Bonding®, a psychological and spiritual healing process.
Best Sellers: Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?, Healing Your Aloneness
Career Focus: Author, Speaker, Facilitator, Seminar Leader
Affiliation: Association of Humanistic Psychology

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is an expert on love, marriage and relationships, and the co-creator of Inner Bonding®, a transformational six-step spiritual healing process. She is a best-selling author, noted public speaker, workshop leader, chaplain, educator, humanitarian, consultant, and Inner Bonding facilitator. She has been leading groups, teaching classes and workshops, and working with individuals, couples, partnerships and businesses since 1967. Margaret works on the phone with clients from all over the world - both individuals and couples.

Margaret is the co-author of Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? (over 1,000,000 copies sold), Free to Love, Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?, Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?...The Workbook, Healing Your Aloneness, The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook, and author of Inner Bonding and Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God? Her books have been translated into many different languages and are best-sellers in Germany.

"Inner Bonding is one of the most powerful tools I've come across...What a gift!...I am ete ally grateful to this five-foot-two, sparkly eyed spiritual warrior some of us call the Samurai for all the courageous work she's done on herself and the exceptional gift she has to help others realize that peace, love and security are an inside job. "

----Lindsay Wagner, Actress, author, humanitarian

"Inner bonding has taught and supported me in redefining god as a wise and gentle presence, as opposed to the taskmaster I once perceived god to be. In having begun to practice inner bonding consistently, I am developing new pate al and mate al voices within, and tending to both the false thoughts of my wounds and the dreams and desires of my deepest self. It has supported me in continuing to seek my answers from that wise place within, rather than outside of myself. It has helped me to evolve in my courage to love in the moments where it's the hardest thing to do.

"I am grateful for this tool that encourages me to tune in and find the most loving steps to take on my own soul's behalf. This process is of great nurturance to my artist, who I see as being synonymous with my inner child. I am very grateful to Margaret and Erika for channeling this information, and sharing it so generously."

---Alanis Morissette, singer, songwriter, activist

Margaret offers a very powerful software program, called SelfQuest, which is being donated to prisons and schools, and sold to the general public. SelfQuest is a powerful tool for emotional healing, spiritual growth, healing relationship issues and developing personal responsibility. For more information about SelfQuest, please click on the website at http://selfquest.com.

"Self Quest is amazing. I’m calling it my personal therapist. It is so insightful and creates an awareness of the depths that exist within me. In this short amount of time, I have been able to heal some very deep wounds and scars from previous traumatic experiences....the material is so good....Thank you so much for creating this program, I absolutely love it."
--Levette Brown, Customer Service Representative, Learning Strategies Corporation

Margaret has three children and three grandchildren. In her spare time she is an artist.

Free Articles & Book Excerpts

Sharing Feelings: Information or Attack?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1271/sharing-feelings-information-or-attack.html

Speaking Your Truth to Your Partner

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/815/speaking-your-truth-to-your-partner.html

A Major Cause of Relationship Problems

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1441/a-major-cause-of-relationship-problems.html

Marriage: Self-Care and Remembering the Good Stuff

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1472/marriage-self-care-and-remembering-the-good-stuff.html

Relationships: Conflict Resolution Without Words

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/912/relationships-conflict-resolution-without-words.html

Mending Broken Trust

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/550/mending-broken-trust.html

10 Signs of a Healthy Relationship

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1029/10-signs-of-a-healthy-relationship.html

5 Actions For Successful Relationships

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1015/5-actions-for-successful-relationships.html

5 Relationship Killers and How to Avoid Them

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/975/5-relationship-killers-and-how-to-avoid-them.html

7 Ways to Improve Your Relationship

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/498/7-ways-to-improve-your-relationship.html

Making Marriage Work, Part 1

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/962/making-marriage-work-part-1.html

I Love Him But I'm Not Turned On To Him

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1236/i-love-him-but-im-not-tu ed-on-to-him.html

Intimacy With Yourself

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1482/intimacy-with-yourself.html

Bonding With Your Partner - Without Candles, Wine or Lingerie!

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/861/bonding-with-your-partner-without-candles-wine-or-lingerie.html

Can This Relationship Be Helped?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/410/can-this-relationship-be-helped.html

Codependent Relationships: Takers and Caretakers

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/765/codependent-relationships-takers-and-caretakers.html

Control and Resistance - the Relationship Gremlins

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1402/control-and-resistance-the-relationship-gremlins.html

Controlling Behavior, Loving Behavior

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/459/controlling-behavior-loving-behavior.html

How Can I Get My Partner To Change?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/576/how-can-i-get-my-partner-to-change.html

Loving Your Spouse When Your Spouse is Not Loving You

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/573/loving-your-spouse-when-your-spouse-is-not-loving-you.html

Moving Beyond Codependency: Saving Your Marriage

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1412/moving-beyond-codependency-saving-your-marriage.html

Non-Reactivity - A Major Key to Relationship Health

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1460/non-reactivity-a-major-key-to-relationship-health.html

When to Listen, When to Walk Away

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1231/relationships-when-to-listen-when-to-walk-away.html

The Powerful Secret to A Loving Relationship

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/819/the-powerful-secret-to-a-loving-relationship.html

More Important Than Love

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/590/more-important-than-love.html

Rediscovering Love and Intimacy

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/645/rediscovering-love-and-intimacy.html

Why Marital Sex Often Dies

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/391/why-marital-sex-often-dies.html

The Privilege of Resolving Relationship Conflict

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/622/the-privilege-of-resolving-relationship-conflict.html

Making Marriage Work, Part 2

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/965/making-marriage-work-part-2.html

Making Marriage Work, Part 3

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/967/making-marriage-work-part-3.html

Making Marriage Work, Part 4

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/969/making-marriage-work-part-4.html

Making Marriage Work, Part 5

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/972/making-marriage-work-part-5.html

Responsibility vs. Fault

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1563/responsibility-vs-fault.html

7-Step Foolproof Guide to Creating a Terrible Relationship

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1598/7-step-foolproof-guide-to-creating-a-terrible-relationship.html

7 Step Guide to Never Having Sex in Your Marriage

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1602/7-step-guide-to-never-having-sex-in-your-marriage.html

Marriage Help: If You Are Thinking of Getting a Divorce, Think Again!

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1612/marriage-help-if-you-are-thinking-of-getting-a-divorce-think-again.html

Saving Your Marriage When you Have Children

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1637/saving-your-marriage-when-you-have-children.html

Love and Marriage: Do They Really go Together?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1645/love-and-marriage-do-they-really-go-together.html

Relationships: Be Willing To Have People be Upset With You

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1658/relationships-be-willing-to-have-your-partner-be-upset-with-you.html

Relationship Advice: Love and Fai ess

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1704/relationship-advice-love-and-fai ess.html

Diffusing Anger or Feeding the Flames

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1765/diffusing-anger-or-feeding-the-flames.html

Is Your Relationship Suffering From Emotional Infidelity?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1788/is-your-relationship-suffering-from-emotional-infidelity.html

Emotional Intimacy

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1809/emotional-intimacy.html

How Can I Stop Feeling Jealous?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1829/how-can-i-stop-feeling-jealous.html

Relationships: The Power of Goodwill

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1844/relationships-the-power-of-goodwill.html

Relationships: Letting Go of Problem Solving

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1863/relationships-letting-go-of-problem-solving.html

Caring: For Outcomes or for Joy

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1868/caring-for-outcomes-or-for-joy.html

Relationships: Empathy vs. Responsibility for Feelings

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1876/relationships-empathy-vs-responsibility-for-feelings.html

7 Rules for Saving Your Marriage

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1881/7-rules-for-saving-your-marriage.html

Connecting With Loved Ones

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1889/connecting-with-loved-ones.html

Why Do You Blame?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1917/why-do-you-blame.html

Conflict: Why Do You Argue, Why Do You Fight in Conflict?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1990/conflict-why-do-you-argue-why-do-you-fight-in-conflict.html

Relationships: Why Do You Attack and Blame?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/1996/relationships-why-do-you-attack-and-blame.html

Love: Falling in Love With Your Spouse - Again

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2038/falling-in-love-with-your-spouse-again.html

Speaking Your Truth Without Blame or Judgment

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2057/speaking-your-truth-without-blame-or-judgment.html

The Meaning of Life

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2069/the-meaning-of-life.html

Cinderella Wasn’t Saved - She Was a Happy Person All Along!

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2077/cinderella-wasnt-saved-she-was-a-happy-person-all-along.html

Love: Is This Romance or it This Friendship?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2085/love-is-this-romance-or-is-this-friendship.html

Real Love: What is Real Love?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2094/real-love-what-is-real-love.html

Love Asks for Nothing

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2115/love-asks-for-nothing.html

Relationships: The Dance of Victims and Perpetrators

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2139/relationships-the-dance-of-victims-and-perpetrators.html

Relationships: The Art of Listening

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2147/relationships-the-art-of-listening.html

It's All About Love!

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2153/its-all-about-love.html

Relationship Breakup: Heartbreak and Healing

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2169/relationship-breakup-heartbreak-and-healing.html

Relationships: Giving Yourself Up Can Kill You

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2172/giving-yourself-up-can-kill-you.html

Emotional Dependency vs. Emotional Freedom

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2177/emotional-dependency-vs-emotional-freedom.html

I Feel Empty

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2187/i-feel-empty.html

Why Don't I Have Friends?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2203/why-dont-i-have-friends.html

Relationships: Cheating

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2225/relationships-cheating.html

High Maintenance Relationships

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2246/high-maintenance-relationships.html

Is Your Partner Always Pointing Out Your Flaws?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2258/is-your-partner-always-pointing-out-your-flaws.html

When is it Helpful to Apologize?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2276/when-is-it-helpful-to-apologize.html

Why Do Men Change After Sex?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2294/why-do-men-change-after-sex.html

The Silent Treatment

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2305/the-silent-treatment.html

Women Who Wish Their Spouses Would Die

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2317/women-who-wish-their-spouses-would-die.html

Loving Yourself First

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2344/loving-yourself-first.html

Avoiding Your Feelings by Focusing on Your Partner

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2353/avoiding-your-feelings-by-focusing-on-your-partner.html

Healing the Fear of Intimacy

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2358/healing-the-fear-of-intimacy.html

"We Can't Communicate"

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2366/we-cant-communicate.html

"I Just Want to Explain" - Explaining as a Form of Control

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2395/i-just-want-to-explain-explaining-as-a-form-of-control.html

When Someone Rejects You, Who Are They Rejecting?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2442/when-someone-rejects-you-who-are-they-rejecting.html

Healing Love and Approval Addiction

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2457/healing-love-and-approval-addiction.html

Am I in a Healthy Relationship?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2539/am-i-in-a-healthy-relationship.html

The Relationship Trap: "Let's Talk."

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2553/the-relationship-trap-lets-talk.html

"Why Are My Partners Always Needy?"

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2558/why-are-my-partners-always-needy.html

"Why Won't my Partner Have Sex With Me?"

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2569/why-wont-my-partner-have-sex-with-me.html

Are You Caring or Caretaking?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2574/are-you-caring-or-caretaking.html

"I Want to Love But I Can't Give Up Control"

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2578/i-want-to-love-but-i-cant-give-up-control.html

The ONE Major Cause of Relationship Problems!

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2581/the-one-major-cause-of-relationship-problems.html

Speaking Your Truth When it's Hard

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2621/speaking-your-truth-when-its-hard.html

Relationships: "I'm Open, You're Closed"

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-article/2659/relationships-im-open-youre-closed.html

Free Audio & Video Samples

Inner Bonding Videos

http://www.innerbonding.com/youtube.php

Free Webinars

http://www.innerbonding.com/list-product/7/free-webinarteleseminars.html

Margaret Paul Audio & Video Programs

Anger and Inner Bonding - CD

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/30/anger-and-inner-bonding.html

Beyond Fear and Addictions - CD

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/32/beyond-fear-and-addictions.html

Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids - CD

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/29/do-i-have-to-give-up-me-to-be-loved-by-my-kids.html

From Conflict to Intimacy and Beyond - CD

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/28/from-conflict-to-intimacy-and-beyond.html

Healing Your Aloneness: The Inner Bonding Workshop - CD

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/27/healing-your-aloneness-the-inner-bonding-workshop.html

Opening To Learning - Meditation CD

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/36/opening-to-lea ing-meditation-cd.html

The Inner Bonding Introductory Lecture - DVD

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/33/the-inner-bonding-introductory-lecture.html

The Inner Bonding Workshop - DVD

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/34/the-inner-bonding-workshop.html

The Master Teacher Connection - Dr. Erika Chopich - DVD

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/35/the-master-teacher-connection.html

Ask Dr. Margaret: Inner Bonding Monthly Podcasts

http://www.innerbonding.com/list-product/11/inner-bonding-podcasts.html

The Intimate Relationship Toolbox

http://innerbonding.com/relationshipmicro/

SelfQuest®: The Transformational Self-Healing/Conflict Resolution Software Program

http://selfquest.com

Margaret Paul Books

Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You? - co-authored with Dr. Jordan Paul

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/5/do-i-have-to-give-up-me-to-be-loved-by-you.html

Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?...The Workbook - co-authored with Dr. Jordan Paul

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/7/do-i-have-to-give-up-me-to-be-loved-by-youthe-workbook.html

Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids? - co-authored with Dr. Jordan Paul

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/6/do-i-have-to-give-up-me-to-be-loved-by-my-kids.html

Healing Your Aloneness - co-authored with Dr. Erika Chopich

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/2/healing-your-aloneness.html

The Healing Your Aloneness Workbook - co-authored with Dr. Erika Chopich

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/3/the-healing-your-aloneness-workbook.html

Inner Bonding

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/4/inner-bonding.html

Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/1/do-i-have-to-give-up-me-to-be-loved-by-god.html

Beloved Companionship - An Alte ative To Loneliness

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/47/beloved-companionship-an-alte ative-to-loneliness.html

Dear God, How Can I Heal So That I May Love?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/44/dear-god-how-can-i-heal-so-that-i-may-love.html

Dear God, What Is Love?

http://www.innerbonding.com/show-product/45/dear-god-what-is-love.html

How to Access Spiritual Guidance for Your Joyful Highest Good Every Moment of Your Life

Websites & resources

SelfGrowth-published websites, downloads, and contributor profile websites connected to this expert.

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Contributor website

InnerBonding.com

http://www.innerbonding.com

Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Margaret Paul

"One of the most important questions you can ask throughout a day is "What loving thought or action is in my highest good right now?" When you learn to take loving action on your own behalf, you will easily and naturally be loving with your partner and others."

"Your life and relationships will greatly improve when you are conscious enough to stop thoughts of self-judgment and judgment of others, and instead focus on kindness toward yourself and others."

"Your feelings are your inner guidance system. Your feelings of anxiety, depression, fear, anger, hurt, guilt and shame are letting you know you are on the wrong track in your thinking and behavior. Your feelings of inner peace and joy let you know you are on the right track. The Inner Bonding process is a roadmap for becoming conscious of your feelings, of your thoughts that are creating them, and of the loving thoughts and actions that will bring you peace, joy, and loving relationships."

"Pain and relationship problems come from trying to control that which you cannot control. Letting go of trying to control others and outcomes and instead learning how to take full responsibility for your own feelings and wellbeing will bring about loving relationships."

"Fears of intimacy come from fears of rejection and fears of engulfment. These fears heal only when you are on the path of developing a loving adult self who knows how to handle rejection and engulfment. The Inner Bonding process develops the loving adult and brings about this healing."

"Intent governs everything. We have only two intents to chose from: the intent to learn about loving ourselves and others, and the intent to protect against pain with some form of controlling behavior. The intent to protect leads to dysfunctional relationships. The intent to learn creates loving relationships."

"There is no true healing without a strong connection with a personal source of spiritual love and wisdom. The Inner Bonding process teaches you how to have this connection."

Contacting Margaret Paul

Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
Inner Bonding Educational Technologies, Inc.
2531 Sawtelle Blvd., #42
Los Angeles, CA 90064
310-459-1700 • 888-646-6372 (888-6INNERBOND)
margaret@innerbonding.com
http://www.innerbonding.com

How to get started

Ways of getting started:

1. Download our Free Inner Bonding Course at http://www.innerbonding.com/welcome

2. Read the many articles on our website at http://www.innerbonding.com/

3. Become a paid supporting member and receive much support in your healing process: http://www.innerbonding.com/register.php

4. Work through SelfQuest®: http://selfquest.com

5. Read the books written by Dr. Margaret Paul, hear the CDs and see the DVDs. http://www.innerbonding.com/store.php

6. Have phone or Skype sessions with Dr. Margaret Paul or other trained Inner Bonding facilitators. Margaret works with both individuals and couples on the phone. For information on sessions with Dr. Margaret, call 888-646-6372 or 310-459-1700.

For information on facilitators: http://www.innerbonding.com/show-page/90/facilitators.html

7. For the deepest and fastest healing, attend a 5-Day Inner Bonding Intensive. For information on Intensives, call 888-646-6372 or go to http://www.innerbonding.com/list-event/3/1/5-day-intensive.html

8. Hear Dr. Margaret's free webinars/teleseminars: http://www.innerbonding.com/webinar

Other highlights

To Check out Margaret's Events please go to http://www.innerbonding.com/events.php

5-Day Inner Bonding Intensives:
http://www.innerbonding.com/list-event/3/1/5-day-intensive.html

Weekend Workshops:
http://www.innerbonding.com/list-event/2/1/weekend-workshop.html

Margaret offers 30-Day at-home courses:
Love Yourself: http://www.innerbonding.com/show-page/224/love-yourself-a-30-day-inner-bonding-experience.html
Frequency: http://www.innerbonding.com/show-page/225/frequency-your-spiritual-guidance-the-art-of-manifestation.html
Loving Relationships: http://www.innerbonding.com/show-page/253/loving-relationships-a-30-day-at-home-relationships-course.html