Pam White
certified coach
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Authenticity Expert
Pam White Quick Facts
- Main Areas
- Meditation, Art, Communication, Life Guide and Writing
- Career Focus
- Artist, Coach, Meditation instruction
- Affiliation
- The Consciousness Collaborative, The Authors' Guild, Epic Coaching Academy, 14th Colony Artists, Toastmasters Int'l
As a still photographer I am acutely aware of the timing of the shutter. Bringing this awareness to a client’s session allows a dynamic pragmatism to life’s daily choices with a focus on listening.
Just as a DNA imprint defines our every cell, so our minds give meaning to every habit, every act, every unacknowledged desire. Losing touch with our self, creating goals and achievements without a basis in passion or authenticity will compromise our freedom of mind.
My strategies uncover our mental attitudes while allowing awareness of choice through conscious focus. A mind with a calm and curious voice is free to make life-provoking choices.
Come to my Website, leave me a message, I'd love to hear from you!
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***Three Steps to Your Beautiful Life - Part 1
To change your life, change your mind. Everything in your life is an expression of your mental diet. The three steps to change are: 1) Awareness, 2) Practice and 3) Curiosity. The articles that follow will outline the process and practices you will need to achieve the goal of a happier, more fulfilled life. When I was growing up I thought I was supposed to figure things out. It seemed as if that was what school and everything else I participated in was all about. Preparing myself to be able to figure things out.
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***The Mind Eavesdrops on the Body - Part 2
The Body eavesdrops on the mind. What makes each of us so unique? We are always being told there is no one else like us. We are unique. How can that be? How can we believe this and why would we want to? We are community-driven beings, nurtured in common, educated in groups, labeled by the year we were born, what we accomplish in the world, our relationship to each other and to the work we do or don’t do. How can we each be so unique when we are driven by our nature to be together?
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***Curiosity - Part 3
There is a saying most of us have heard, “curiosity killed the cat, satisfaction brought him back.” Curiosity is one of the most valuable states of mind we can have. If we are curious we can be open to what is in the present moment. It’s when we get caught up in the past or the future that our emotions get hold of us and we ignore the present and therefore anything it may have to tell us.
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***The soul always knows what to do to heal itself
We live in a science-driven world of charts and statistics, we listen to the hum of experts telling us the data from their fields of expertise. I grew up in the last half of the last century when those in the "know" were convinced we would be eating pills of compressed food balanced nutritionally with all our needs by now. We would be flying around in individual tubes controlled by power sources soon to be discovered. It was a heady time. We thought we could "cure" everything.
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***Making a Transition in Life Can Be Difficult to Accept and Face Head On
Making a transition in life can be difficult to accept and face head on. There aren't many people who enjoy the process of change or accepting a new reality in their existence. Whether you have made the decision yourself or someone has made it for you, these times can be full of unexpected trials and tribulations.
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***Death, Taxes & Rebirth
Is a real life perfect? Is your life perfect? Is your life real? There is no way to know where you will see the most beauty in your life, or have the most profound experience. Battlefields and graveyards are as full of enlightening and profound, happy and beautiful life experience as the playground or, for those of us who love equines, the paddock.
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***The Long View
When I was growing up everyone around me gave me suggestions for “what to do when…” I grew up. My friends and I wrote on our notebooks and in our jou als what we wanted, to do, to be, to have and to hold. We girls tried different names on with our “first” names, we got “married,” wore “big” clothes, generally did everything we could to avoid being who we were; little girls growing up.
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Take A Breath
If you could take away all the suffering in the world, taking it in with just a single breath, and have it go away, would you hesitate? Is that fair? Couldn’t you just donate a few dollars to CARE and have that be enough? Could whatever you are doing now count? In speaking with clients I get that many of us are overwhelmed and generally feel disenfranchised from feeling helpful when we see something happening in the world we really care about.r
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Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Pam White
"A genius is she who is most like herself." I saw this written on the wall backstage at Lincoln Center in New York City. Except it said, "A genius is he who is most like himself." I like them both.
“Our imperfections do not make us inadequate; they are what connect us to each other and to our humanity.” Brene Brown, Connections Curriculum
When I was growing up I found a quote by George Be ard Shaw, he said, “The more things a man is ashamed of, the more respectable he is.”
That quote certainly fit the times I found myself living in but it didn’t impress me enough to follow along or want to be with anyone who thought like that.
We are each wired – hard wired – for community, for love, leaving us open to the longing for approval. Approval = connection, approval is community, approval means we are worthy. We matter if someone cool thinks we are cool. We matter if we are not alone, part of a greater whole.
So how can we belong if we can’t be perfect? How can we speak our minds if we don’t fit in? How can we have boundaries if we long for approval? When every song, every article, every fashion asks us to fit its mold, where is our authenticity?
If I listen to my clients, it’s on the back burner. It’s what they call me for and what they struggle in and with, and on a lonely evening it goes to the back of the closet. Later, I’ll do that, be that, later. Right now I want a hot date, what’s wrong with that?
So the quote I started with, about our imperfections, gets misplaced. My imperfections are only OK if they fit into your imperfections or if you find mine acceptable – which you might for the first while, but if I get comfortable with them, well, you might get uncomfortable. It gets very complicated, this authenticity thing. It might be why Facebook has that as a choice for describing relationship. It is complicated!
It is so hard to do what everyone knows – which is: our first, our only relationship is with ourself. Period. Bah Humbug. We cultivate that. Have our hot date with who we really are, get to know that person – warts and all as we sometimes say – then we can start to look beyond out into the broader world where we have been all along because, you know, we really are all alike in this. We are in this together.
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My website is a great way to start to get to know me. You can also call 617 794 5811 for a free consult to see if we might be a good fit working together.
I love my clients and look forward to getting to know you.