Patricia Clapp
M.A.
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Transition Coach Expert
Patricia Clapp Quick Facts
- Main Areas
- Helping you move forward during times of transition.
- Career Focus
- Transition Coach, Divorce Advisor, College Instructor
- Affiliation
- Practial Collaborative Solutions - Collaborative Training, Wall, New Jersey
With a thriving business and a new age approach as an instructor both in and out of the classroom, her success as a coach has prompted her to begin working on her first book which is a resource that helps her clients navigate the emotional waters while going through divorce.
She will help you devise a step by step plan on how to manage the legal and financial aspects of your divorce. In addition, personal goals will be set and a plan will be developed on how to achieve those goals - think of this as your "life's lesson plan."
By creating a road map for her clients to follow during their divorce, she concentrates on empowering her clients with the peace, self-respect and hope that may have been lost along the way.
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Getting Off Track? Five Tips on How to Lead a Stress-Free Life
I read an interesting blog today by the author of Little Things Matter. Each day, a post is written about the daily rituals we do to help or hinder our personal development. Funny thing is, so many thing that Todd Smith writes about seems so obvious, yet we neglect to do this little things day in and day out. He emphasizes the need to listen, eat right, sleep well, set goals, find time for fun, etc, all issues that I have ranted about in Blogland a time or two.
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"Searching for Dimes" Tip for the Day "Find a Reason to Believe"
The Boss sings about it. Self help gurus write about it. Setting goals is the ideal way to live your best life and most of my clients get that. However, how do you get to the point where you get that gusto to want to be a goal setting machine? The bottom line is, exactly how do you find reasons to believe when most of what is going on in your life causes nothing short of disbelief? I have to confess, over the last few months or so, I have become very superstitious.
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“My Drill Sergeant Wears Skate Shoes” Transition Tip for the Day – Listen To Your Kids; You Could Learn a Thing or Two
I have to admit, being a mom to a teenage son has its challenges. I cannot for the life of me figure out how he can function in his room that is filled with technology and dirty socks. With the buzzes of texts, the bam bam of the XBox games, and the other random noises I hear from time to time, it’s like an alien has landed here on 24 Maple. Much of my time is spent, I have to admit, when I am home, is pondering how to bridge the gap between the foreign land of “teenagerdome” and the mind of a 41 year old (I would like to think but am reminded I am not) cool mom.
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Forgive Me, Forgive Me Not. Tip for the Day - Practice the Art of Self Forgiveness.
I took a poll the other day when I was teaching my class at a local community college. I asked the students what they thought in regards to the “act of forgiveness.” Since we are reading the book Tuesdays with Morrie, one of the main themes in this life lesson memoir is “forgive everybody everything.” As you can surmise, there were a mix of opinions as to whether they believe the old adage “forgive and forget.” However, they all seemed to universally agree that they did see Morrie’s point. Sure, forgiving others is an important part of moving on with your life.
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A Reason To Believe
A Reason To Believe Amidst the chaos of our lives, we must be steadfast on our quest to find reasons to believe. Even in the gloomiest of times when there does not seem to be a light at the end of the tunnel, you have to look for that glimmer of hope. Because, at times, that is all we have. It wasn’t too long ago that I sat on my kitchen floor crying, typical Lifetime movie style of crying – late at night, one night light on, while I sobbed out of fears for tomorrow. I had no idea what I was going to do about my life at that moment, never mind the future.
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Having a Hard Time Setting Goals? Start with the "Attitude of Gratitude." Tip for the Day: Be Thankful.
Goal setting can be tricky. There are times in our lives when we think about setting goals and it can be so overwhelming. How can we even think about setting more goals when we have a hard time checking off our daily to do lists? It's so easy to put all the other tasks first - whether work related, kid related, house related, volunteer related, since these are the issues we face day in and day out. We almost get addicted for doing others and begin to define ourselves by what we are supposed to do rather than what we want to do.
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Goal Setting Tip for the Day - Create Your Own Personal Culture
A funny thing happened when I was instructing my English 121 class today, the teacher (me!) became the student. In the blink of an eye, I was in awe of how much my "kids" as I affectionately call them, know about themselves, writing and life in general. I have to admit, it isn't always easy teaching at a college level. In high school and under, the students know each other so there is a sense of camraderie and friendship (most of the time) in a classroom setting. However, at a college level, especially at a community college, there are all different ages, cultural and economic backgrounds.
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Success Tip for the Day -" Notice What You Are Doing Right Today and Be Present."
So much of our day is spent thinking about what we want to do, be or have. When was the last time you actually thought about what was going right and how well you were doing something? Maybe it's time you start.. Today I woke up exhausted. I have been going, going, going, with work for months now. The good part is, I love my job. The bad part is, I need to give myself permission to stop. Funny thing happens when you work a lot, you have a hard time not working. So today, I am officially proclaiming as of 12 p.m. eastern standard time, I am off the clock.
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Remembering Ginnie: Life Lessons from A Lady
Today was a bittersweet day for me. I attended the funeral of my 99 year-old former grandmother in law. It was a day of reflection, sadness, soul searching but most of all remembrance. The strange thing about funerals, is that there is no code of conduct to follow. Coming from a divorce, I wanted to be politically correct (whatever that means) yet I wanted to be true to my heart as well. Unfortunately, some of the time the two of those actions can collide. All I knew was that I adored this women and for over 15 years of my life, she was like a grandmother to me.
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Conflicted about a Conflict? - Tip for the Day: How to Bridge the Gap and Not Jump Off the Bridge
One of my email buddies wrote about something very interesting this morning that gave me yet, another morning coffee AHA moment that I would love to share with you. Just as I had referred to that annoying voice inside our heads in my last blog, how do we stifle the real life of the whiners or negative naysayers in our lives? What's a person to do when they start to master the art of positivity but cannot escape the wrath of conflict bullies and emotional bloodsuckers? How do we get rid of them?
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"Living Your Authentic Life" Who's Life Are You Living? Transition Tip # 2 - Be The You That You Were Meant To Be
We all hear this phrase. Live your authentic life. Whether it ’s on the latest self help blog or you happened to be tuned in to Dr. Phil, this seems to be the phrase that can stop us personal development junkies in our tracks. What, exactly, does this mean? If you aren’t living your “authentic life” right now, who is? Last night I had a great discussion with my good friend about this very subject. I said my goal for 2009 was to do just this – live authentically.
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“A Time for Tradition” – Transition Tip # 3 - Remember Old Traditions and Create New Ones
November 23, 2009 Just when you think you have heard it all, you realize you haven’t. In this day and age, when kids (especially teenagers) are being categorized as egocentric beings totally sidetracked with electronic devices along with their own social foibles, we may tend to forget when they do do something right or say something that touches us. This happened with my 12 year old daughter, Maddie, a few days ago. As always, she ran down the street at 3 o’clock on the dot after a long day at school to meet me at my car.
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Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Patricia Clapp
"Anxiety is the hand maiden of creativity."
T.S. Eliot
"What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."
Walt Emerson
"Talk about a dream, try to make it real."
Bruce Springsteen
"Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else."
Judy Garland
Contacting Patricia Clapp
www.divorcesolutionsforyou.com
patti@divorcesolutionsforyou.com
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Location:
Suite 302
1704 Maxwell Drice
Wall, New Jersey 07719
(732) 865-5377
Hours:
Monday and Wednesday: 9 - 5 p.m.
Tuesday and Friday 9 p.m.- 2 p.m
Thursday: 12 - 3 p.m.
Evening and Saturday hours available upon request
Free evaluation upon first visit
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Favorite Books:
Split: A Memoir of Divorce- Suzanne Finamore
Surviving Infidelity - Rona Subotnick, M.F.C.C. and Gloria Harris, Ph.D.
A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose- Eckhart Tolle
Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce the Sandcastles Way - M. Gary Neuman, L.H.H.C
Codependent No More - Melody Beattie
Emotional Blackmail - Susan Forward, Ph.D.
General Philosophy: GOAL SETTINGIf something isn't working for you, then fix it.
Obviously, if you keep making the same mistakes over and over again on how to resolve conflict, and it fails, then new methods must be used. The biggest mistake women make during divorce is putting all the focus on her partner - her anger, her rejection, her sadness. She is giving her to be ex-husband the power of her thoughts instead of focusing on herself. By creating a method on how to divert all that time and energy spent focusing on your spouse, you can start moving forward with your life.
I know, I have been there and I realize so much of my time and money was wasted on anger and rejection towards my partner. Sitting in your lawyer's office emotionally distraught time and time again will get you nowhere in the legal process; and you will spend THOUSANDS of dollars using your lawyer as your therapist!
I know, I have been there and realize what it is like to spend hours wondering why the marriage failed, scared about the future and financially unstable. I spent six months in this state of despair. With the help of a very good counselor, I realized that all that time and energy used worrying and not accomplishing anything could very simply be put in another direction. IT WAS AS SIMPLE AS THAT!
I will guide you on the steps you need to take to stay SOLUTION-FOCUSED when meeting with those divorce professionals and finding the necessary outlets for your emotions. With all that energy focused in a positive direction, you will be AMAZED on how you will grow during this time in your life.
Since my divorce, I have focused on my career, physical and spiritual growth, and my relationships. My life is more exciting than ever thanks to studying professionals and interviewing those women that have successfully navigated through their divorce. Allow me the opportunity to be your transition coach and give you the tools you need to prosper during this emotional time in your life.