Pauline Wallin, Ph.D.
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Breaking Up Is Hard To Do - Especially For Men
BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO -- ESPECIALLY FOR MENnnBy Pauline Wallin, Ph.D.nnnDivorce is harder on men than on women. Surprised?nnAfter all, it's the woman who suffers financially . . .who has to juggle work and kids on her own . . . who is more apt to end up in a therapist's office.nnMeanwhile, the man seems to go on with life, hanging out with his buddies, barely skipping a beat.nnTrue to all the above. But those points only describe external circumstances and behavior, not w
December 7, 2007
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Is Your Child Being Bullied? How To Tell, And What To Do About It
Bullying is no trivial matter. Each month in the U.S. alone, over 28,000 kids are teased, ostracized or beaten up by their peers. And parents may not even be aware that it’s happening!nnMany kids will avoid reporting a bully because they have either been threatened not to tell anyone, or else they feel ashamed for not being able to handle the situation themselves.nnIs your child a victim of bullying? Look for the following signs – especially if they are of recent
September 3, 2007
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4 Ways to De-Stress Your Wait Time
How do you feel about waiting in line, waiting on hold, and other forms of waiting? Is it stressful? Do you get impatient or angry? Does your "inner brat" demand that the wait be over? If so, you're not alone.nnSeveral years ago a Pittsburgh research firm estimated that each of us spends over 5 years of our lives waiting. Not all at once, of course, but a few annoying minutes at a time. nnWaiting can certainly be irritating and exasperating. But it need not be. The stressful
June 21, 2006
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Stick To Your Diet With Online Diet Trackers
Are you one of the millions of people who will be starting a diet on Monday? The most important factor in losing weight is keeping a record of what you eat. In fact, research shows that the mere act of monitoring your food intake reduces the amount you eat!nnIf you are looking for a little help with motivation and with tracking your food intake and/or exercise, there are thousands of websites that offer tools, tips and articles. Here are some free ones for you to explore:nnht
April 16, 2006
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"Just say no" ain't enough to avoid holiday weight gain
The holiday season is coming up fast. For weeks magazines and newspapers have been printing recipes and alluring photographs of rich, mouth-watering goodies such as cookies, candies, dips, and calorie-laden drinks. nnThen, in the same issue, they offer guidance on how not to eat all this stuff. Pace yourself, they advise. Limit yourself to one tidbit every half-hour. Eat a salad before going to a cocktail party, so that you wont be tempted by all the snacks. Yeah, right - lik
November 20, 2005
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Why not "Why?"
When things don't turn out as expected or desired we often ask, "Why?" But most of the time the answer won't help. I'll explain in a minute.nnFirst let's examine the different meanings of the word, "why."nnFor very young children, "Why?" is an expression of curiosity, a way to learn about their world: "Why is the sky blue?" "Why do people die?" "Why does that lady have such a big tummy?"nnAs kids get older, "why" takes on new meanings: "Why can't I stay up later?" "Why do I a
August 2, 2005
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VACATION HASSLES? TAKE A PICTURE!
Looking for some fiction to read this summer? Try a travel brochure. Those beautiful glossy pamphlets promise you the time of your life, with nonstop fun. To illustrate their promises, they show pictures of perfect people with perfect bodies and perfect teeth, frolicking and smiling. No one has sunburn, sore feet or indigestion. The children always look squeaky clean, and they never have tantrums. There are no mosquitoes, no flat tires, no thunderstorms . . . and no inner bra
June 28, 2005
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WHY YOU WANT WHAT YOU CAN'T HAVE
âYou canât always get what you want . . .â The Rolling Stones will soon be singing this refrain at venues around the world, as they embark on a year-long concert tour in August. nnThis song, now decades old, addresses a universal truth. Hereâs the rest of the refrain:nnYou can't always get what you want . . .nBut if you try sometimesnYou just might findnYou get what you need.nnnWhat is it that you really wanted and didnât get? The affections of a person who was with
May 18, 2005
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Life Happens
Shit happens. I know this to be a fact, because I read it on a t-shirt. ;-)nnIt's one of those simple truths that most people agree with, even though they may not like the crude language. Life is full of unwelcome surprises. It does not progress in a flawless path, no matter how hard you try, no matter how cautious you are. nnSooner or later something happens to throw you off guard. It could be an accident, a disappointment or a loss of some kind. And such stuff doesn't happe
April 18, 2005
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IF YOU COMPARE, BEWARE
Picture this scene: Little Johnny's mother places a large piece of chocolate cake on his plate. He's pretty happy with it -- until he glances over at his brother's portion and notices that it's even bigger than his own. Suddenly Johnny is no longer satisfied with what he got. He starts to pout and complain, and may even resort to throwing his cake on the floor. nnSound familiar? If you didn't have this experience growing up, you have surely observed it in others. And it's not
February 26, 2005
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ONE SENTENCE YOU SHOULD COMMIT TO MEMORY
âWouldnât it be nice if there was an Easy Button for life?â This question is the tag line to a TV commercial by the office supplies store, Staples. nnThe ad depicts people in various predicaments, including a bewildered boy called on by his teacher, a dad trying to change two babiesâ diapers at the same time, and surgeons about to perform an unfamiliar procedure. Each of these people, at the critical moment, pushes a big button with the word, âEasyâ written on it,
January 23, 2005
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GET NO RESPECT? TRY THIS UNUSUAL APPROACH
GET NO RESPECT? TRY THIS UNUSUAL APPROACHnnLike the late Rodney Dangerfield, you may sometimes find that you "don't get no respect." In Rodney's comedy routine, disrespect was amusing. But in real life it fills us with indignation.nnOur typical response is sarcasm or avoidance. Has such a reaction EVER made a difference in getting more respect from others? I doubt it.nnToday I'm going to show you a better way to deal with disrespectful people who irk you, frustrate you, and d
October 21, 2004
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