Ricardo Hidalgo
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Parenting Expert
Ricardo Hidalgo Quick Facts
- Main Areas
- Parenting, Cross-cultural, Stress, Depression, Conflict
- Career Focus
- Pyschotherapist / Consultant
I have been a parent and step-parent for the past 18 years. I have been a certified Montessori teacher. I have been a professional counselor since 1980. I am licensed as a mental health counselor in the State of Washington.
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Helping Your Children Find Their Way Through Fear
For purposes of this article, let us posit that there are only two states of mind – secure states of mind and insecure states of mind. Each has their own unique and opposing characteristics. In secure states of mind we feel optimistic, hopeful, relaxed, open, generous, and safe. In insecure states of mind we experience just the opposite - we feel pessimistic, hopeless, tense, constricted, stingy, and endangered.
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Helping Parents Help Children Who Are Afraid of the Dark
In this article I will briefly describe how to solve bedtime problems when your child is afraid of the dark. There are two approaches to fear. The first is to avoid what scares you (the dark in this instance), the second is to face it with help and reassurance. The first approach seems to lead to a life of being mastered by your fears; the second seems to lead to the possibility of being master of your fears. I know what I want for my child – the latter. If you are like me, the following advice on how to solve bedtime problems due to fear of darkness may be helpful.
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Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Ricardo Hidalgo
"While every thought is an experience, not every experience is a thought"
"We say to others only what we need to hear." (Byron Katie)
"In rejecting it you hold it to you, in accepting it you let it go." (Ricardo Hidalgo)
"Seeing our own insanity is the fist step towards our sanity." (Eckhart Tolle)
"Sanity doesn't suffer, ever." (Byron Katie)
"When the seer's vision is full of wisdom, the seen universe is full of God." (Sai Baba)
"Until we know that death is equal to life, we live in fear." (Byron Katie)
"...a good sign,... being able to to remember a dream, or to dream of a real event." (D.W. Winnicott)
"What is, is. You don't get a vote. Haven't you noticed?" (Byron Katie)
"Nothing you believe is true. To know this is freedom." (Byron Katie)
"Thoughts aren't personal. They just appear, like reaindrops. Would you argue with a raindrop? (Byron Katie)
Contacting Ricardo Hidalgo
Phone: 425-296-2544
Email: ricardo3015@msn.com
Skype: ricardo3015.
Website: http://bestparenthelp.info
How to get started
It recently struck me that parenting may be the hardest job in life, and the most rewarding.
I recently realized that I have a lot of experience and knowledge that could help - just a life-time of study, work, and experience.
It recently occurred to me that I have a great feel for kids and what it takes to relate to them.
I just decided that I wanted to do something about this.
I want to get the word out.
I want to share information and resources.
Here is one resource to check out: BestParentHelp
And some of my favorite books:
Amen, Daniel: New Skills for Frazzled Parents
Dreikhurs, Rudolph: Children the Challenge
Gottman, John: Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child
Seligman, Martin: The Optimistic Child
Siegle, Daniel: Parenting from the Inside Out
Winnicott, Donald: Talking to Parents
If you are a struggling parent and want support, talk to me, send me your questions.
If your friends or family members are struggling parents send this on to them.
We don't need to do this alone.