Sam Vaknin

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Sam Vaknin Quick Facts

Main Areas: Personality disorders, abusive relationships with narcissists and psychopaths
Best Sellers: Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited, The Narcissism Series
Career Focus: Author
Affiliation: Narcissus Publications

The Web site "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" was, for many years, an Open Directory Cool Site and is a Psych-UK recommended Site.

I am not a mental health professional though I am certified in psychological counseling techniques byBrainbench.

I served as the editor of Mental Health Disorders categories in the Open Directory Project and onMentalhelp.net. I maintain my own Websites about the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and aboutrelationships with abusive narcissists and psychopaths here and in HealthyPlace.

You can read my work on many other Web sites: Mental Health Matters, Mental Health Sanctuary, Mental Health Today, Kathi's Mental Health Review and others. I write a column for Bellaonline on Narcissism and Abusive Relationships and am a frequent contributor to Websites such as Self-growth.com and Bizymoms(where I am an expert on personality disorders).

I served as the author of the Personality Disorders topic, Narcissistic Personality Disorder topic, the Verbal and Emotional Abuse topic, and the Spousal Abuse and Domestic Violence topic, all four on Suite101. I am the moderator of the Narcissistic Abuse Study List , the Toxic Relationships Study List, and other mailing lists with a total of c. 20,000 members. I also publish a bi-weekly Abusive Relationships Newsletter.

You can view my biography here.

I suggest you read this first, "What is Pathological Narcissism?"

"A pattern of traits and behaviours which signify infatuation and obsession with one's self to the exclusion of all others and the egotistic and ruthless pursuit of one's gratification, dominance and ambition.

Narcissism is named after the ancient Greek myth of Narcissus who was a handsome Greek youth who rejected the desperate advances of the nymph Echo. In punishment of his cruelty, he was doomed to fall in love with his own reflection in a pool of water. Unable to consummate his love, he pined away and changed into the flower that bears his name to this very day."

Feel free to ask me your questions about pathological narcissism, abusive relationships, and the Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Send your questions to: palma@unet.com.mk or narcissisticabuse-owner@yahoogroups.com

Free Articles & Book Excerpts

Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited

http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com

HealthyPlace Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) Community

http://www.healthyplace.com/personality-disorders/malignant-self-love/narcissism-narcissistic-personality-disorder-npd/menu-id-1469/

World in Conflict and Transition

http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/guide.html

Philosophical Essays and Musings

http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/culture.html

Free e-books about psychology, philosophy, economics, international affairs, and short fiction

http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/freebooks.html

Free Audio & Video Samples

Narcissist, Psychopath, Abuse YouTube Channel

http://www.youtube.com/samvaknin

Videos about narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships

http://samvak.tripod.com/narcissismvideos.html

Sam Vaknin Audio & Video Programs

3 DVDs with 12 hours of video lectures on narcissists, psychopaths, and abuse in relationships

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_DVD

3 DVDs (12 hours of video lectures) + The Narcissism, Psychopathy and Abuse in Relationships Series of SIXTEEN e-BOOKS

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_DVDSERIES

3 DVDs (12 hours of video lectures) + the print book "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited"

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_DVDPRINT

Sam Vaknin Books

Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited (Barnes and Noble)

http://search.ba esandnoble.com/bookSearch/isb Inquiry.asp?r=1&ISBN=9788023833843

Narcissism and Psychopathy Series of 16 e-books

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_SERIES

Personality Disorders Revisited (e-book)

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_PERSONALITY

Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited (Narcissus Publications)

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_MSL

Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited (e-book)

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_MSL-EBOOK

Toxic Relationships: Abuse and its Aftermath (e-book)

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_ABUSE

The Narcissist and Psychopath in the Workplace

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_WORKPLACE

Abusive Relationships Workbook (e-book)

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_WORKBOOK

Pathological Narcissism FAQs (e-book)

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_FAQS

The World of the Narcissist (e-book)

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_ESSAY

Excerpts from the Archives of the Narcissism List (e-book)

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_EXCERPTS

Diary of a Narcissist (e-book)

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_JOU AL

The Narcissist and Psychopath in Therapy (e-book)

http://www.ccnow.com/cgi-local/cart.cgi?vaksam_THERAPY

Articles by this expert

SelfGrowth articles and saved writing connected to this expert.

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Narcissistic Mothers and Their Children

Interview granted to Samantha Cleaver for YourTango.com Q. What are some common ways that a mother's narcissism can affect her daughter's relationships? A. Depends on how narcissistic the mother is. Narcissistic parents fail to recognize and accept the personal autonomy and boundaries of their offspring. They treat them as instruments of gratification or extensions of themselves.

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A Typology of Codependence and the Dependent Personality Disorder

Typology of Codependents Codependence is a complex, multi-faceted, and multi-dimensional defence against the codependent's fears and needs. There are four categories of codependence, stemming from their respective aetiologies: (i) Codependence that aims to fend of anxieties related to abandonment. These codependents are clingy, smothering, prone to panic, are plagued with ideas of reference, and display self-negating submissiveness.

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Why Do We Love Pets?

The presence of pets activates in us two primitive psychological defense mechanisms: projection and narcissism. Projection is a defense mechanism intended to cope with internal or exte al stressors and emotional conflict by attributing to another person or object (such as a pet) - usually falsely - thoughts, feelings, wishes, impulses, needs, and hopes deemed forbidden or unacceptable by the projecting party. In the case of pets, projection works through anthropomorphism: we attribute to animals our traits, behavior patterns, needs, wishes, emotions, and cognitive processes.

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Why Do We Love Sports?

The love of - nay, addiction to - competitive and solitary sports cuts across all social-economic strata and throughout all the demographics. Whether as a passive consumer (spectator), a fan, or as a participant and practitioner, everyone enjoys one form of sport or another. Wherefrom this universal propensity? Sports cater to multiple psychological and physiological deep-set needs. In this they are unique: no other activity responds as do sports to so many dimensions of one's person, both emotional, and physical.

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The Narcissist's False Modesty

Question: I met many narcissists who are modest – even self-effacing. This seems to conflict with your observations. How do you reconcile the two? Answer: The "modesty" displayed by narcissists is false. It is mostly and merely verbal. It is couched in flourishing phrases, emphasised to ...

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Do Narcissists Have Friends?

Question: Do narcissists have friends? Answer: Not in the usual sense of the word and not that they know of. The narcissist is one track minded. He is interested in securing the provision of Narcissistic Supply emanating from Narcissistic Supply Sources. His world is as narrow as an ant's, to ...

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A Classification of Abusive Behaviors

Abusive conduct is not a uniform, homogeneous phenomenon. It stems and emanates from multiples sources and manifests in a myriad ways. Following are a few useful distinctions which pertain to abuse and could serve as organizing, taxonomical principles (dimensional typologies) in a kind of ...

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Narcissistic Injury, Narcissistic Wound, and Narcissistic Scar

Narcissistic Injury An occasional or circumstantial threat (real or imagined) to the narcissist's grandiose and fantastic self-perception (False Self) as perfect, omnipotent, omniscient, and entitled to special treatment and recognition, regardless of his actual accomplishments (or lack ...

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The Erotomaniac Stalker

This kind of stalker believes that he is in love with you. To show his keen interest, he keeps calling you, dropping by, writing e-mails, doing unsolicited errands "on your behalf", talking to your friends, co-workers, and family, and, in general, making himself available at all times. The ...

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The Narcissistic Stalker

"Such a one (the narcissist – SV) is encased, is he not, in an armour – such an armour! The armour of the crusaders was nothing to it – an armour of arrogance, of pride, of complete self-esteem. This armour, it is in some ways a protection, the arrows, the everyday arrows of life glance off it. ...

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The Psychopathic (Antisocial) Stalker

Stalking is a crime and stalkers are criminals. This simple truth is often ignored by mental health practitioners, by law enforcement agencies, and by the media. The horrid consequences of stalking are typically underestimated and stalkers are mocked as eccentric and lonely weirdoes. Yet, ...

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Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)

(I use "she" throughout this article but it applies to male victims as well) Contrary to popular misconceptions, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Acute Stress Disorder (or Reaction) are not typical responses to prolonged abuse. They are the outcomes of sudden exposure to severe or ...

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Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from Sam Vaknin

Dear Author/Editor,

I am Sam Vaknin, author of "Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited" , a work of reference about the Narcissistic Personality Disorder and eight other books about personality disorders.

I have been studying pathological, malignant narcissism for several years now, mostly in the following contexts:

I. Corporate settings and in Politics - click HERE for online resources

II. Abusive and Dysfunctional relationships - click HERE for online resources

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a serious, often undiagnosed condition, frequently related to abuse in childhood.

In many cases the disorder compels the sufferer to become the abuser in turn.

Once almost unheard of,pathological narcissism is now considered to be at the heart of phenomena as diverse as corporate malfeasance, workplace bullying, the emergence of murderous dictatorships, domestic violence, and serial killings.

I would be delighted to assist you in putting together a report, a segment, an issue, an article, or series of articles - regarding this disorder.

Click here to review some ideas for articles!

I am also available for interviews.

Click here to download extensive excerpts from my book, or the full text of "The Narcissism Book of Quotes".

Review copies of my book are available upon request - click here to write to my publisher and read some Testimonials.

Kindly scroll down to learn more about me, how I can help you, my contact details and additional online resources.

Online Photo Exhibition: The Old-New Face of the Narcissist - Click HERE!!!

About Me

I am the author of Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited. (number 1 bestseller in its category in Barnes and Noble). My work is quoted in well over 1000 scholarly publications and in over 5000 books (full list here).

The Web site "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" was, for many years, an Open Directory Cool Site and is a Psych-UK recommended Site.

I am not a mental health professional though I am certified in psychological counseling techniques by Brainbench.

I served as the editor of Mental Health Disorders categories in the Open Directory Project and on Mentalhelp.net. I maintain my own Websites about the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and about relationships with abusive narcissists and psychopaths here and in HealthyPlace.

You can read my work on many other Web sites: Mental Health Matters, Mental Health Sanctuary, Mental Health Today, Kathi's Mental Health Reviewand others. I write a column for Bellaonline on Narcissism and Abusive Relationships and am a frequent contributor to Websites such as Self-growth.com and Bizymoms (where I am an expert on personality disorders).

You can view my biography here.

I suggest you read this first, "What is Pathological Narcissism?"

How Can I help

Subject to appropriate credit, I would be happy:

I. To write materials for the article/issue

II. Collaborate with the authors/editors of the article/issue

III. Participate with an interview

IV. Grant you access to the members of my extensive e-mail lists (more than 6000 members)

V. Grant you permission to quote, at any length, from my books about narcissism (and especially from "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited")

VI. Provide oral or written background material.

Contacting Sam Vaknin

Contact Details

I travel often but you can always contact me through my numbers in Macedonia.

The local time is GMT+1 or EST+6.

I can be contacted by phone (or via Skype - click HERE to learn more):

(From the USA)

011-389-70-565-488

(From outside the USA)

+389-70-565-488

E-mail:

palma@unet.com.mk

vaksam@mt.net.mk (Backup address. Kindly copy all correspondence to both e-mail addresses)

How to Use Skype to Interview me:

1. You can simply use Skype to call my landline, or my cell phone.

2. OR:

You can download Skype 4.0 or later and establish a 3-way connection to Sam Vaknin by first calling Sam, then calling/adding in your show's call-in number.

You can place a 3-way call to Sam Vaknin. Your Skype (computer) is able to connect your U.S. land phone with Sam's land phone (Macedonia). It should be done as a Skype 3-way 'conference' call.

For Sam to 'call in' to your radio show, this is what to do:

Call Sam's land phone (using Skype on your computer), then call your show's call-in number. The call then becomes a 3-way 'conference' call. If you put your own Skype microphone on 'mute', you can eliminate all background noise from your end of the 'conference.'

Summary:

Either, use Skype to call Sam's landline, or his cell phone.

OR:

Use Skype on your computer, call your own #, then call (add in) Sam's number in Macedonia.

You can also use your land line phone for a 3-way (no Skype). Just add an international long-distance plan to your account and try a 3-way using your own phone.