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Time Control
More work for the overworked. If you have plenty of time, you donât need time management. If you are overworked, you donât have time for time management. Life is not fair. Hasnât been since you left the first grade.nnFeel overworked if you like. Complain. Or fix it. Complaining is easier. And lasts longer.nnThe time, the job, and you. nYou have noticed that you are better at some things in the morning. Or in the evening. But not all over the day. You have noticed that s
February 10, 2006
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Famous fables about personal psychology
And the rest of the story.nn 1. Long-term goals are valuable even if you donât pursue them now. nWhere is the value? If you ignore them completely, what will they do for you? If you donât forget them completely, you are using up some brainpower to keep them. You probably have something more valuable to do with that brainpower. Like putting it to work on more urgent goals. nn 2. If a thing is worth doing, it is worth doing well.nWho runs the definition of well? If you run
December 2, 2005
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The truth about homework
Why do children have to do homework? Who would ask a question like that? Children? Parents? Teachers? You be the judge. Or maybe you know from experience.nnYou hear a lot of complaining about homework. You would think somebody would fix it. Unless it is just there to complain about.nn"I think we developed language because of our deep need to complain." --Lily TomlinnnBut logic suggests that when people keep doing something long enough to see the result, they probably have a g
August 24, 2005
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The Startalittles versus the Putitovs
Everybody knows the Putitovs. They are those voices in your head telling you that you can put it off until later. People who really have trouble with the Putitovs call themselves procrastinators. Some people bring in the Head Nazis to give orders about starting.nnIn the fullness of time, most people learn to deal with the Putitovs with some kind of scheduling. But maybe you donât want to wait for the fullness of time. And maybe you arenât all that good at taking orders. T
May 20, 2005
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Reading and the four doors to memory
Do you ever complain that you donât remember enough of what you read? Hereâs what to do about it. Think of your memory as having four doors. You brain automatically stores experiences by using one or more of these doors. If you decide to remember something, you can decide which of these doors you will use. Preferable more than one. nnYou canât choose the doors till you know how they are different. So we have laid them out below. People who use cars with right-hand drive
April 19, 2005
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Unity
Being OnennUnity. Here is a subversive idea for self-growth. Most self-improvement material is written by the writerâs language channel, for other language channels to read. Your language channel is the part of your brain that talks and reads. Other modules in your brain handle the job of doing things. The modules donât always work together. Self-improvement material has to get past your language channel if it going to help the parts of your brain that get things done.n n
March 18, 2005
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How to Plan for Effective Screw-Ups
Silly idea. People donât need to plan screw-ups. They get plenty of experience at it. But you can get more out of screw-ups by planning. Start by knowing what you are dealing with. nnWhat is a screw-up? It is when things are not working out the way you intended. And you are going to have to fix things or give up, And you sort of feel it is your fault. Some examples:nnMake a resolution. Break it.nMiss a deadline.nMake a promise and fail to keep it.nBe late for an appointment
February 17, 2005
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If anything is worth doing, itâs worth screwing up
(Another collaboration of the Engineer and the Un.)nnOh, sure. The Shudoffs would say itâs worth doing well. Well, thatâs their job. They sit around in your head and tell you what you should do. Or, better yet, what you should have done. They want you to wait till you are sure you can to it. And if that waiting takes too long, the Shudoffs will complain that you should have started sooner.nnBut nobody wants to screw up.nnAnd nobody does screw up. It takes somebody to deci
January 16, 2005
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Dump those Goals!
(A collaboration of the Engineer and the Un. The Un is the perpetual adolescent in all of us. The Uns want to do things differently, bass-ackwards. The Engineer is the practical problem-solver in all of us. The Engineers are always finding ways to get things done.)nnWhich goals? nThe big Goals, of course. The Goals everybody said you are supposed to have. The Goals you havenât looked at in a while. Housecleaning you save for spring. But goal cleaning you can do any time.nnI
December 15, 2004
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The Canter and the Can
Scene: the Head Office. The Vulcan and the Engineer sit at small desks. The Canter and the Shudoff sit properly erect in straight-backed chairs. Others lounge in comfortable chairs.nnNetworker: We were talking about people with options. nVulcan: And about people making choices.nCanter: After they decide, they will probably realize they can't do it.nEngineer: They will have to plan. If they plan, they know what they can do.nCanter: And what they can't do. nStoryborder: And wha
November 15, 2004
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Deciding about Indecision.
Deciding about indecision.nScene: the Head Office. The Vulcan and the Engineer sit at small desks. The Canter and the Shudoff sit properly erect in straight-backed chairs. Others lounge in comfortable chairs.nnNetworker: In our last episode, we decided that the main obstacle to guided self-growth is indecision.nUn: And that the key to that gate lies in decison.nCanter: We can't help people that way. They can't decide.nShudoff: If they donât know what to decide, they should
October 13, 2004
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The Head Team Mulls in Decision
Scene: the Head Office. The Vulcan and the Engineer sit at small desks. The Canter and the Shudoff sit properly erect in straight-backed chairs. Others lounge in comfortable chairs.nnVulcan: We were mulling about self-growth.nEngineer: We found some parts of the head that might help people with self-growth.nCanter: We canât help them. Itâs too complicated. We can't be sure we found all the parts. nUn: If there are parts we have not found, the Canter can show them to us.nC
September 12, 2004
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