Tama J. Kieves
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Your Alternative Career Search: Relax, Heal, and Play
A âpracticalâ career search wonât lead to an inspired outcome. I want you to have an inspired outcome. Thatâs because you have a calling inside you as bright as ten thousand shooting stars. You are not empty or misaligned or born in the wrong time. Itâs not like the world doesnât need exactly what you have to give us, and desperately, I might add. But you are searching with the wrong tools. You are looking for butterflies with a shovel and a pick axe. You probably
February 15, 2010
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Your Divine Assignment: Doing the Work You Love
(this piece originally appeared in the Omega Institute's online publication) When I had my career melt-down and fled the life of being an elite-law-firm-corporate-lawyer, (an honors graduate of Harvard Law School) I thought I was changing careers. I had no idea I was changing my definition of the Divine. I was leaving behind the Big Removed Guy in the sky, more concerned with the next life than the wonder of this one. In doing the work I love, I discovered a fresh Astonishing
November 9, 2009
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Life Can Be Fantastic: Your Joy is Your Power
I am committed to allowing myself to receive more freaking goodness than I can imagine. To start with, I am going to know that, independent of anyone else's predictions or convictions, my life can be fantastic. I am going to stop calling negativity and limitation "realism." I'm going to just start calling them negativity and limitation. We have all bought into the superstition that goodness is a soap bubble about to burst. But I challenge you to think of sadness and strain as
November 9, 2009
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Floundering Towards Grace: Making Big Moves with Small Steps
I think one of the things that has made me successful in life is Iâm willing to do things that are not flattering. I have been willing to not have it âall together,â and to still believe I stood on a path that promised more security than any other road in the world. I left a fancy legal career and waited tables, yes, touched food, so I could explore my life and my writing. I counted my dimes and quarters. I lived in a tiny hat-sized apartment. I lived a life that did no
August 17, 2009
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Perfect Timing: All the Way to Heaven is Heaven
Recently a client of mine was sick of "having faith" while it seemed she slogged towards her dream in thick molasses. "I just want to get there now," she screeched, scoffing at all her previous progress. I felt sad. This wasnât the combustible kind of frustration that would help her take constructive bold action. Rather it seemed like she was stomping on all the flowers in the garden, breaking the china in her house, ripping up poems and short stories, and screaming about t
August 2, 2009
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Diary of a Creative Mind
Week One:rnGet a creative idea and the slightest bit of encouragement and feel on top of the world, burning, singing, dancing, and feeling as though it all makes sense now and everything will come together. You are magnificent. You will be rich. Life is so beautiful. You will never be stopped. How could you have ever doubted? Week Two:rnGet a cancellation from a client or a form letter back from your proposal, query, or inquiry and feel the world is harsh, cruel, sick, and sc
August 2, 2009
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Go Green: Turning Your Jealousy into Strength
The other day I read about an acquaintance, another author, I know who was featured in The New York Times. As I came upon the story, try as I might to fill my mind with the bird songs and daisies of good will, I felt sandpaper scrape my soul. Immediately, her shiny success became my failure. Jealousy stung me like tear gas, laced with longing and sadness. Yes, of course, Iâd much prefer you think Iâm someone who levitates on my good desires for everyone else. And, really,
July 15, 2009
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Stop Comparing Yourself: Dive into Your Own Sweet Life!
Some years ago, I sat at this wedding and met a younger woman who had gone to two Ivy League schools and had a masters and a doctorate and had run marathons and traveled in countries like Cambodia and Vietnam. Not only that, but she was strikingly pretty, could belt out Hip Hop at the karaoke bar, had a disarming sense of humor and a sweet husband with buckets of money. Clearly, sheâd gotten quite the package deal from the Big Cosmic Travel Agent in the sky. The encounter m
July 15, 2009
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Allowing Life to Change You: Choosing Trust instead of Control
I saw a coaching client recently who wanted to get right down to business and plan out her new, bold life. She wasnât sure what that life was, but she wanted to map it out, pin it down, and make it happen. She looked at me with exhausted eyes and silently begged me for light. I wanted to tell her, âPut down your organizer and step into chaos.â But she may have smacked me with that eight pound black leather day timer, so I chose another way to suggest that she let go of
June 29, 2009
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Your Secret Self: Awakening the Powers of the Inspired Self
You have no idea how strangely magical you are. Most of us could never imagine the fire and promise we hold. We live in a culture that tells us to be ârealistic.â That means dampen our enthusiasms and compromise our vision. We are encouraged to bow to the known world, and shun our unknown powers. But thatâs not why weâre here. Weâre here to listen to our inspired hearts, spread our full peacock feathers, and awaken the invincible love inside us. Weâre here to disc
June 29, 2009
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Mothering Ourselves: Nurturing Yourself, Your Dreams and the World
I have had to learn how to mother myself in this lifetime. I love my mother, more so these days than ever before, but for many years I felt like I got the short end of the umbilical cord. Like many of us, I didnât get the movie mother in this lifetime, the tireless cheerleader, the fierce cub-protector, or the one who listened deeply to all my secret places and saw colors in me, I had yet to see. That mother was on back order when I was placing my cosmic selection. Instead,
May 11, 2009
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Getting Answers: You Canât Figure it Out. You Can Only Let it Out.
As a coach, Iâm in the business of helping people get answers to their most pressing decisions in life. Now, itâs not uncommon for a client to come or call and say, âI like gardening, playing the cymbals, hiking in the backcountry, helping people, and learning about color theory, healing energy techniques, and Russian Poetry. So how do I put that all together?â Then they pause and wait for their magic answer. They will be pausing a long time, I assure you.nnI will tel
April 19, 2009
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