3 Steps to Change - Ready, Willing and Able

We are creatures of habit, and therefore we may forget that we have the ability to change our old patterns, behaviours, and mindsets.

Whether it’s things from yesterday, a month ago, or a year(s) ago, it is possible to make some changes starting today.

Maybe you have been putting off things until tomorrow that you can do today, or you’ve been waiting for something to happen before you take the next step(s), or some of your patterns or behaviours are so ingrained that you feel you can’t change them.

Perhaps you haven’t been taking enough time for yourself or spending time with others, or you’ve been meaning or attempting to commit to something but you haven’t had very much success, or you have been feeling stuck or unsatisfied at work or home.

There maybe something going on for you personally, or there may be someone you need to forgive, or you are holding onto past hurts, resentments, or grievances.

Just about anything, including excuses, can become a deterrent to taking steps forward if you let them.

No matter what’s going on, or what you are holding onto, or what you aren’t doing, it’s not too late to make a change!

The question is, “Are you willing to?”

Do you really want to do what you are saying you want to do?

Have you heard the saying, “Ready, willing and able”? This is what you want to ask yourself.

Are you ready to take a step, and it doesn’t have to be a gigantic one, towards that which you would like to change?

Are you willing to do what is necessary to move forward even if it’s uncomfortable or difficult to do?

Are you able to accept the setbacks, fears, trials and errors, rejections, disappointments, tough conversations, etc., that at first may accompany what you want to change? This can be the tough step and the one that holds you back the most.

Being “able” to accept what’s holding you back is exactly what needs to be looked at in order for you to make that move forward again.

You don’t have to change anything if you don’t want to. But, if you recognize something within you that is stopping your growth, or creating unhappiness in your life/relationships, or something you are complaining about, or you hear yourself saying something repeatedly that you want to do or commit to, then it’s time to do something about it, and now is the time.

It may not be easy to change some things, and others may be easier than you think. Either way, you won’t know until you try.

What’s the worst that can happen? If you try something and it doesn’t work, then you have a stepping stone for your next step.

If you really want to change something then you can do it!

If you are willing to do what’s required then you will do it!

If you are able to accept that things will be different and maybe even difficult at first, than you are able to do it.

If you are can do all three steps, then you are capable of making a change.

Look over the last month or previous couple of months. What have you been saying or wanting to do and haven’t, or what do you want to change about yourself or something in your life?

If there is more than one thing you want to work with, choose the one that you feel is the most important, or you think the most about, or weighs the heaviest on you.

What step(s) can you take to bring about this change?

When you took that step, what happened?

What, if anything, surfaced for you?

What did you learn?

Are there any other steps you need to take next to implement that change further?

Remember, change may not be easy, but you will never know what lies around the next corner if you don’t take the step(s) to see.

Use these techniques to help you find the insight to assist you in taking the next steps to change and facing what is holding you back, or surfaces, and then using that knowledge as a stepping stone for your next step(s).