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A Surprising Reason for Conflict in Relationships

Written by Geoff Laughton

Topic: Relationship AdvicePublished December 7, 2018
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I bet you haven’t even thought about this reason for relationship conflict! I remember learning this theory 25 years ago, and it’s still not really “out there” in the mainstream.

So many of us have stuff we haven’t worked through or resolved. As a result, we may feel let down and reactive towards our partner for not giving us what we need, leading to arguments and resentment.

What we don’t realize is that this relationship conflict is not about them, it’s about us. There’s a far deeper catalyst for this relationship conflict than we ever realized, and it goes way, way back in time.

It all started in the first 7 years of your life, when your brain picked up the majority of the programming that was going to drive your behaviour. Something big happened, and it happened to everyone in one way or another.

I’m going to tell you that the part of you that’s looking for a partner, or part of why you chose the partner you have, is directly related to what unconsciously happened in those first 7 years. To be able to work through conflict in relationships in the healthiest way, both people have to uncover the true reason.

Don’t you want to find out what it is and stop it? Watch the video to discover how this relationship conflict came about before you were even old enough to be in a relationship! And, how to put a stop to it so you don’t keep making the same mistakes over and over again.

Check out this video for a discussion
https://youtu.be/hsb6MrOVm3A

I also encourage you to leave your questions in the comments or email me. Or, connect with me for a 60- to 75-minute Complimentary Relationship Design Review.

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About the Author

To-date, Geoff has worked with hundreds of private clients and couples; has led over 300 workshops; facilitated numerous life-altering retreats around the country for men, women and couples; and has spoken at numerous live and online events. Geoff is also delighted to debut his first book, Built To Last: Designing & Maintaining A Passionate, Loving and Lasting Relationship. https://yourrelationshiparchitect.com

If you’re looking for more advice on healthy relationships, check out my website to see my books, videos, blog and more. Also, like my Facebook page. https://www.facebook.com/BuildYourDreamRelationship/?ref=br_rs

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