Are You Hiding? Thoughts From a Life Coach

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.” Marianne Williamson

“To change the printout of the body, you must learn to rewrite the software of the mind.” Deepak Chopra

“Ever try to change your mind, only to find out that your mind has a mind of its own?” Robert Williams

Thinking it Through…

Self sabotage. Are you familiar with it? I sure am! I’ve often heard that if you want to grow as a person start your own business or go further in your career then you ever thought you could. Taking a leap like that has the nasty side effect of bringing out more mental blocks and limiting beliefs then you can shake a stick at. I’ll just choose one of my personal favorites to talk about today. This is a belief that has blocked my way so many times that it feels like an old friend (or enemy.) It is the belief that “It is not safe to stand out.” It also ties very neatly with the belief that “It is not right to stand out.” Does this sound familiar to you? In our society we honor those that stand out, at least for good things, and hold them on a pedestal until they fall. Then it’s not pretty. Many of us remember experiences in school where we stood out as special and were quickly put in our place by teachers or peers. Most of us have been exposed to criticisms when we were in positions where we were noticed. Perhaps you heard from your parents or relatives that “The tall blade gets cut first” or ” Don’t get too big for your britches.” No wonder so many of us find ways to disappear and sabotage when our career or business requires us to stand out, speak out and be noticed.

If you can relate to these beliefs you are probably wondering what you can do about it. The first step is to realize that you have the beliefs and take a good look at them. Do they make sense for you now? If you stand out you probably WILL get criticized once in a while. Can you keep yourself safe? Do you have strategies in place so you can handle it? A tool I most often use to remove the power from my limiting beliefs is EFT. It is very simple to learn and extremely effective. Whatever you choose to do, take a good look at your beliefs and make sure they are working for you not against you. It is time to live large, contribute lavishly and enjoy life to its fullest.

Challenge:

1. Are you afraid to stand out? What do you think will happen?

2. How has that belief held you back?

3. When have you sabotaged your success?

4. What is the downside of changing your limiting belief?

5. What new belief will you choose to have?