Are you Tired of Worrying What Wour Date Thinks of You?

In talking to clients I often hear them share that they don’t like dating because they feel awkward. One client mentioned that it feels like being back in High School. Thinking back of High School I remember worrying about what my date is thinking about how I look, what I say, or what I do – and that was exhausting.

Today 15 years later I’m glad I’m not in High School anymore and I’m in relationship with a wonderful man. One of the things I love most about the relationship is who I am. I’m being authentic. It wasn’t always like that. It seemed that even though I had left High School I was still at times acting like the love-struck teenager who was pre-occupied with worrying about what her partner thought. Do you sometimes find yourself not saying something because you are worried what your date/partner will say? Well I used to all the time. Then one day I was sitting watching the movie “Pride and Prejudice” (yeah I like period pieces from time to time) and realized that if I don’t give myself permission to be who I am no one will. The men in my life sure won’t, nor is it their job. Right there and then I decided I will express myself authentically for the sheer liberation of all of me. Now a few years later I really enjoy who I am and how express myself in my relationship.

So how can you start to find out who you truly want to be in your relationship? Well let’s do a little Mini Exercise. Ask yourself these questions:
1. If no one were watching and judging, what would I love to do?

2. If no one were watching or judging what is one thing that makes me feel very happy.

3. If no one were watching or judging how would I share my thoughts, ideas with others?

The answers to these questions start giving you clues to how you want to feel in relationship with your partner/date. Notice that these questions are not asking you to think about what you would love to do, if your partner/date approved. No it is about what you love to do regardless of what your partner/date thinks or says. Beginning to think of who you want to be in the relationship will support you on your journey to attracting real love.

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