Boundaries: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Walk Over Others?

When an area of land has been fenced off, it is likely to show that it is private property. As a result of this, someone is going to need permission in order to walk on the land; that is, of course, unless they own it or know the person who does.

If someone was to ignore this and used the land anyway, they will have ignored the boundary that had been created. This could be just a one-off, or not something that they do very often.

A Big Difference

Even if they have done this before, it doesn’t mean that they won’t respect other people’s boundaries. They could generally do what they can to make sure that they don’t walk over others.

If this is the case, it is likely to show that one has a clear sense of where they begin and end, and where other people begin and end. This will give them the ability to realise if they are trying to walk over someone else or if someone else is trying to walk over them.

Empathy

Ultimately, being this way will make it easier for them to put themselves in another person’s shoes. As if they were to simply walk over someone, they would soon end up feeling guilty about it.

They would know that they have violated another person’s personal pace, and this would soon cause them to change their behaviour. Though being this way, it is likely to be normal for someone to feel safe in their presence.

Intimacy

Unless someone feels uncomfortable with opening up, there will be no reason for them to hold back. They will know that one is going to allow them to express themselves and is not going to talk over them or judge them.

What this can then mean is that their relationships are going to be very fulfilling, with this having a positive effect on their wellbeing. And through having good boundaries themselves, they will also feel safe enough to share their inner world with the right people.

The Right Upbringing

When one experiences life in this way, it could show that this is how they have been for most of their life. Perhaps their early years were a time when their boundaries were generally respected, thereby allowing them to develop in the right way.

They would then have been brought up by people who had good boundaries themselves, which is why they were able to develop boundaries. Then again, they may have had to develop boundaries in their later years.

A Different Reality

On the other hand, when someone has the tendency to walk on other people’s property, they could also be this way in their day-to-day life. Walking on land that isn’t theirs or violating someone’s personal space is going to be the norm.

Their modus operandi could be: I will do what I want, when I want, and I don’t care what the consequences are. One is then not going to have a clear idea of where they begin and end, and where other people begin and end.

A Lack of Empathy

What is also likely to play a part here is that they might find it hard to empathise with others. Through being cut-off from their own feelings, it is going to be a lot easier for them to behave in this manner.

So, when they are violating other people’s personal space, they won’t feel bad, and, after this has taken place, they probably won’t feel bad either. Or, if they do feel bad, they could rationalise what they have done.

Revenge

Due to how they behave, they could be used to being treated badly by others, and this can cause them to experience a lot of anger and even rage. Treating other people badly and doing whatever they want can be seen as a way for them to get their own back.

It won’t matter that most of the people they harm haven’t done anything to them, as they could put everyone in the same box. One might believe that the world is out to get them, while being completely oblivious to the part that they play in their own downfall.

Attack or Be Attacked

Deep down, one might believe that walking over others is the only way for them to stop other people form walking over them. One is then not behaving in this way just for the sake of it; it is a matter of survival.

If they were to no longer behave in this way, they might end up feeling extremely vulnerable and exposed. The impression that they give off is that they are strong, but this is going to be nothing more than an illusio

A Wounded Child

One is going to be boundaryless and, until they feel safe in their own body, their behaviour is unlikely to change. What this can show is that their early years were a time when they were brought up by at least one person who walked over them.

This may have meant that they were abused and/or neglected, and this would have been incredibly traumatising. The people, who were supposed to love and protect them, would have been the ones who violated them.

Awareness

Deep within them can be a wounded a child, a child that wants to feel safe, loved, protected, and heard. This can be hard to believe; especially if one has been walked over by someone like this.

If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be a good idea for them to reach out for exte
al support. This can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.