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I want to get straight to the heart of this topic, because I firmly believe that there is a simple three-step approach that can cure feelings of worthlessness, even if you've felt crushed by those feelings for many years. That's right: a cure. It may not surprise you to learn that feeling worthless is very common among women. You almost certainly know that. In fact, feeling worthless is possibly the most obvious symptom of low self-esteem. But it's also one of the easiest to

When it comes to understanding what enmeshment is, it helps to look at what boundaries are. Boundaries are what create a sense of individuality between people. And although we are all physically separate, it does not mean that we are emotionally separate from another person. This becomes what is known as enmeshment, here one will look physically separate, but emotionally they will feel attached to the other person. One will feel that they have no boundaries between them and as a result that their not an individual.

A lot of people might believe they are confident, depending on how they feel on any given day. But confidence is not a fleeting thing that is here today and takes a holiday tomorrow. Confidence is all pervasive.

Do you know how to focus? No? Well, if you did know how, would it help you remember people's names? Would it stop you from being nervous, or at least help you control your thoughts so your thoughts don't make you nervous? You Bet! How about if you talk too much or too loud? Would ...

Low self-esteem as an illness nnLow self-esteem meets the criteria for an illness or disease because:nn Low self-esteem is uncontrollable in nature : People with low self-esteem feel insecure. They are not sure what normal is, and they are not comfortable with themselves or with others. They are experiencing behavior over which they have no control, just as a person with cancer has no control over the cancer. This uncontrollable nature of the behavior makes it an illness; the

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How To Develop A "Wealth" Mindsetnnn In this article, I’m going to explain to you how to achieve the mindset of wealth. For people who have this mindset, they can create money out of thin air and basically at will. For people lacking this mindset, they won’t enjoy the same level ...

Do you ever feel empty and alone, sometimes even when you're surrounded by people? If so, be sure to read on, because we have some really useful information and advice to help you understand and cope better with those dreadful feelings that seem to claw at you from within. Most people feel alone at some points in their lives, but for some these feelings seem to be deeply ingrained to the point where it seems part of their identity - but it doesn't have to be this way! Sometim

Sometimes you may want to start a new good habit and it’s difficult to do. You want to get out of bed earlier to exercise, you want to iron your clothes while you’re watching television, you want to do homework for your class instead of watching a movie, you want to eat more vegetables and fruits. You have good intentions, but your body just doesn’t do what you want it to do. You have a vision of where you want to go and what you want to do, but doing it isn’t easy.

You may have heard about the Law of Attraction, also known as Karma, one of the universal laws that govern the human experience. Here’s my take on the universal laws that govern relationships. The Master Law: Cause and Effect, or Flash Karmar

"You'll never guess what happened to me?" I'm a professional intuitive consultant and when someone says that to me on the phone, it's never good news. I'm one of the first people someone calls when they've been visited with a car accident by the fickle finger of fate. Car accidents are ...

There are people who take just about everything personally and this doesn’t have to be the words that other people say. It could relate to how another person looks at them and what one experiences in the world around them. This can also relate to specific situations where one is being given feedback from another; how they are performing at work or the views from their family and friends for example. Two Sides

On the welcoming page of my Relationship website I have 12 Lessons in Life which are very important to me. Among them is the statement: Never make someone your priority when to them you're only an option. Those words have ended up being the most popular search key words for the website, especially from North America! I am not sure why that is. However, my own instinct tells me that a few people have read the 12 Lessons, then cannot remember the website but remembered those awesome words and are passing them on to friends or colleagues, who are then trying to find them.

Behind the desire to achieve and to have more can be the need for someone to fulfil their own wants and needs. And other people are also going to provide inspiration. No one is their own island and it is only natural that other people are going to play a part in what one does or doesn’t do in life. But while other people will play a part it what one does with their life, there is also the chance that one will allow their whole life to be defined by others. Disconnected

The true meaning of "It’s always Darkest before the Dawn" This famous quote is truly rooted in energy healing. (Quantum physics) It is a Universal concept of cleansing of the "Self" and ascending to a higher level of consciousness. In his lecture on Nichiren Daishonin's teachingrn(*A Buddhist monk who lived in thirteenth-century Japan) in the May-June issue of Living Buddhism:r

Many people believe a number of myths about self-confidence. They’ve heard these myths from relatives or friends, or perhaps they’ve read them in books or in articles. These myths can be very damaging because they keep people from developing their self-confidence. They make people feel they can’t move forward, they can’t grow, and they can’t become who they dream to be. Let’s review these myths and why they’re patently untrue. Myth 1: Self-Confidence is Determined at Birth

A lot of our members have requested some guidance on how to answer this question, because it's a question that a great many women struggle to answer with conviction. Of course, there is no infallible litmus test. How boring life would be if there were! So this article is not intended to give you any sort of checklist that leads you to an easy answer. I'll leave such contrivances to the teenage magazines. What I aim to do is provide you with some food-for-thought that will hel

When it comes to the psychological development of a child, the needs of the child are of the upmost importance. And not only are they important in the child's journey to becoming a functional adult; as extreme as this sounds, they can also be the difference between whether a child lives or dies. In an ideal world, the child's needs would be met when the child needs them to be fulfilled. But this is something that doesn't always happen and as a result of this, the child's needs often end up being neglected. child Abuse

Learning how to become an extrovert can be a daunting task. And if you're anything like me, just being told to "get off the couch" and "get out more" doesn't quite seem to cut it. So I'm here to offer some tips and strategies you can implement into your life immediately to get some more results with your social life. And whether or not you're extremely shy, nervous in front of others, or already pretty confident and are just looking for the next level, you should benefit fro

Emotional security is something that few individuals have and what many would like to have; for the latter, it often seems elusive and hard to come by. And that’s if one has even challenged their instability; for these people it may appear to be how life is and this means that it is often accepted. If one is emotional insecure it is going to affect many areas of life. There is of course the inner stress that will be created and this will then lead to outer stress. So, the inner instability that one feels always has the potential to increase through the combination of the two sides.

We live in a time where brands are everywhere and there is more or less a brand for everything. From branded water; to branded clothes and anything else that one could imagine. Part of the brand experience is that it creates sense of trust for people; that they can rely on the brand to deliver on its promise. And based on these associations that the brand creates, one can then feel safe through using the brand.

Let me ask you a question. Are you ashamed that your child is an introvert? An honest answer to this question is a positive step toward improving your relationship with your introverted child, now and forever. How can you support your child in finding his or her place in this world if you ...

Do you lash out when you feel criticized? Everyone can get defensive in certain situations, but if you're getting defensive most of the time you feel criticized you may be damaging your relationships or your chance for raises and promotions at work. There are several things you can do when you feel criticized that can make you feel better about yourself. If you get defensive before you even have time to think, you'll have to work backwards. As soon as possible after a situation where you were defensive, take a minute to think about where you felt it in your body.

While it is true that your confidence was especially vulnerable to exte al influences when you were a child, as you grow older, you can gain awareness and perspective on what those influences were and how they were received. When you begin to do this, you can choose which influences you will continue to allow to have an effect on your life. You don’t have to be helpless to what happened to you in the past. Exercise

During the past couple of weeks several readers have asked me: “What’s so new about this ‘occurring’ distinction? Haven’t you been saying for years that our beliefs and conditionings determine our behavior and emotions?” Yes and no. I have said that our specific behavior and emotions are caused primarily by our beliefs and conditionings. But how things occur for us is a different phenomenon.

If you remain with low self-confidence, you can expect your life to continue as it is. Nothing will change. You will think poorly of yourself and, following your lead, others will too. What to Expect with Low Self-Confidence There are many costs associated with low self-confidence. Having a sour mood and misinterpreting what other people say and do will lead to unworkable relationships. You’ll expect people to reject you because you’re unworthy. Others will distance themselves from you and you’ll spend most of your time alone.

Every once in a while after someone asks me what I do and I reply, “I help people eliminate beliefs,” I am asked: “Why would I want to eliminate a belief?” There are at least good four answers to that question, which I will describe here. If you would like to improve the quality of your life and increase your range of possibilities, I think you will find this discussion very useful. 1. Virtually all the problems you have in life, behavioral or emotional, stem mainly from your beliefs (and sometimes some conditioning).

Building confidence is much like learning any new skill. There are the basics, then there are the higher level nuances. This article will share with you the 6 stages that you want to journey through to build your confidence. Each stage begins with the basics. Go through all six stages simply getting down the basics at first. Once you complete that first cycle, you can go back and use the steps to focus on specific details of building confidence whether it be in your communic

Did you know that we’re physically and mentally healthier when we have meaningful and fulfilling relationships? People who are ill get better more quickly when they have a loving support system. People who are broken-hearted from a romantic breakup get back to normal more quickly if they have someone to talk to and pour their hearts out to. Relationships are crucial to having a balanced, happy and healthy life. Two-Way Conversations Are Best

As children, you rode in cars with no seat belts or air bags. Riding in the back of a pickup truck on a warm day was always a special treat. You drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle. You shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle, and no one actually died from ...

Although relationships are often seen as two people sharing who they are with the other each and with both of them being on the same level; this doesn’t always take place. And when this doesn’t happen, one of the reasons can be due to one person trying to rescue the other. Now, in order for one to be a rescuer, there needs to be someone who needs rescuing. There can’t be one without the other. And while it may seem that the rescuer possesses a lot more power than the person that they are rescuing; these are ultimately two sides of the same coin.

Do you think people resist change? ... Most people answer with an emphatic: “Yes.” I don’t think people resist change at all. To which you might respond: “Well if people don’t resist change, why do most people not change when given reason to change?” Good question. Here’s my answer: Imagine that you had been doing something a certain way for a long time and you believed that you were doing it the right way. Now imagine that I come along and tell you not to do that way any more.

Boundaries: The importance of choosing to value ourselvesnn“Your personal boundaries protect the inner core of your identity and your right to choices.”n-Gerard Manley HopkinsnnWhat are boundaries?nnThe easiest boundary to define is the property line. Most people have seen a no trespassing sign posted on private property at one time or another. This sign sends a clear message, “if you cross the line you will be prosecuted!” This type of boundary is easy to picture and

Many people who have eliminated at least one belief using the Lefkoe Belief Process have asked me for more details on how it actually works. In order to provide you with a relatively complete answer (it would take me several days to teach you how to use it effectively), I’ve written a two-part article. The Lefkoe Belief Process (LBP) begins with the client describing an undesirable pattern of behavior or feelings that he has been trying unsuccessfully to change. Feeling patterns could include fear, hostility, shyness, anxiety, depression, or worrying about what people think of you.

Affirmations and visualisation are sometimes seen as the tools of those self help junkies who meditate at dawn and don't wear deodorant - not really used everyone in daily lives. Affirmations are positive statements which we repeat and write down in order to give the thinking patterns a more positive slant. So how can repeating a phrase, and one you don't really believe at that, change your outlook? We are drawn to what we think about most (or the things we think about most are attracted to us!).

Speaking up in meetings is crucial if you want to be promoted at work. People will see you as being smart, energetic, and sharp. Your inner confidence will help you express yourself, and the respect others will have for you will add to your confidence even further. The Problem

Often when I start to explain to someone how the Lefkoe Belief Process (LBP) works, they quickly respond, “Oh, you’re just doing Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT)!” Although the LBP is similar in some ways to CBT (of which there are several variations), there are more things that are different than the same. (Because I am not trained in CBT, I have no first hand knowledge of it.

For many years there has been an understanding that child abuse is very often passed from one generation to another. And as to how far back some of these cycles of abuse go is anyone's guess. It is then not surprising for one to be left confused and astounded, at how something so pernicious, can be passed on so many times without ever coming to an end. So many questions can be asked and contemplated. Are some human beings robots who don't think for themselves and who have no control over their own actions? Are some human beings inherently bad? Change

There are so many ways that your self-talk can add to your life or subtract to it. In this article, I’ll explain two types of mind games your self-talk can play with you: labeling and comparing yourself with others. Let’s start with labeling. Labeling

Having confidence in the workplace begins with having the type of job that fits your skills, talents and interests. If there is a mismatch between your personality and your job, you’ll most likely be unhappy and you’ll have additional stress in your life. Determine Your Preference: Data, People or Things

When a man and a woman first get together it can be going along nicely and as soon as things start to become a little more serious, a man can begin to pull away. This is naturally going to be confusing for the woman and may make no sense whatsoever. And it can depend on how connected the woman felt to the man, as to how she responds to what took place. If everything was going well and there was the potential for so much more to occur, then there is higher chance that there will not only be anger and frustration, but also a sense of sadness and even loss.

Remember the last time you heard a parent say: "My kids are wonderful. They always obey me." Or, "They never talk back." Or, "They are never a problem." Did you sigh with envy and say, "Oh, I wish my kids were like that"? Think again. What would children have to believe about themselves to always obey, never talk back, or never be a problem? I started out as a typical parent who sometimes envied those parents with “perfect” children.

With all the information now available on the adverse side-effects of medical intervention into depressive states many people are looking to Complementary and Alternative Medicine (CAM) to help. I am often asked about alternate or complementReflexology can aid in treating depressionary practices that can alleviate the symptoms of depression. Although there are many holistic treatments that can help, one of the favorites is Reflexology. Reflexology has been well documented by science to relieve symptoms of depression.(1) Let's look at depression and reflexology:

Self esteem building activities come in many different forms. Activities such as sports, dramatic performances and cooking are just a few of the many ways people seek to improve their self confidence. In fact, there are so many options that a simple search query on Google will produce thousands of ideas just like these. The trick, though, is to find something that is personal and designed entirely with you in mind.

Contrary to popular belief, a certain amount of stress is necessary and even beneficial in life. When you experience stress, your brain gets a surge of adrenaline which can lead to quick thinking and creative solutions. The glitch occurs when a situation creates anxiety because the demands of the situation exceed your perceived ability to cope. Most stress is caused by anticipation of the event rather than the event itself and is influenced by your feelings of control. Those who allow others to make decisions for them feel relaxed at the onset but eventually powerless.

Life is full of surprises and packed full of so many challenges that can, and sometimes will shake the confidence of even the most confident people. Have seen confident and successful people turn into an introvert due to circumstances. But why? Well, a lot of it has to do with the meaning they attach to the events, or circumstances that surrounds them. A lot of people walk around with a belief that life owes them something.

Statistics indicate that introverts make up 10-30% of the general population but as IQ increases, the proportion of introverts rises dramatically. Since there is a correlation between intelligence and income, you target more introverts as buying power rises. The greater the price of the product ...

“Why don’t you have a belief-elimination package that will help me get or improve my relationship?” we are asked regularly. Most of the eight packages we offer will significantly improve your sense of your self-confidence, which obviously will help you improve your relationships, but none of the existing packages deals specifically with relationships. We aren’t holding out on you. If we could create such a package, we would.

One of my favorite things to do is spend time with good friends and family. As barbecue season is in full force, you can often find us sharing stories and laughter in the back yard while someone mans the barbecue. I normally get out of that duty myself, as my barbecue skills are somewhat limited. But I do get involved with the preparation. So, this month for a change I thought I’d share some healthy outdoor eating options.

Low Self Esteem and EgonnThe first step is to understand that self-esteem is your opinion of yourself. Once you appreciate this, you are well on the road to strengthening that self-esteem. Next, ask yourself why would you have a poor opinion of yourself in any area of your life? One reason might be that you have compared yourself with other people. If you come up short in that comparison, your opinion of yourself is diminished and problems arise. What you must do now is to en

Children need to feel good about themselves. They need to be accepted and valued by the adults in their lives and their peers. Children with high self-confidence feel that the important adults in their lives care about them and would go out of their way to make them safe and well. They feel that these adults would be upset and miss them terribly if anything were to happen to them. Here are some tips in encouraging self-confidence in children. Make Them Feel Valued

You can tell for sure. Introverted babies and toddlers move away from lights, noise, motion and people. Extroverted babies move toward them. If your baby moves away from people, it doesn't mean your little one is going to be unsociable, it just means he or she is going to be an ...

There is said to be two types of shame. One is described as normal and healthy and the other is said to be abnormal and dysfunctional. Healthy Shame This shame is part of having a healthy conscience; with certain behaviours and actions being kept in check by this feeling. And when ones behaviour is out of place or inappropriate one will feel healthy shame. However, this shame will usually only last so long and it will be felt as a consequence of one’s actions.

THIS IS PART 2 OF “HOW THE LEFKOE BELIEF PROCESS WORKS. Read Part 1 first. For many years we thought that this was all that was necessary to eliminate a belief. A few years ago we realized that it was enough for “visual” people, people who know reality by seeing it, who are about 80% of the population. But a significant number of people are emotionally kinesthetic: they know reality through their feelings.

How can you tell if someone has low self esteem? Are there some tell-tale signs you can easily recognize? Actually, there are. People with low self-esteem, or lacking in self confidence, will usually exhibit certain verbal and non-verbal behaviour which points to their insecurity—clues you can learn to recognize and use to try to help your friend or loved one. How Can You Tell if Someone Has Low Self-Esteem: The Signs Some of the signs of low self-esteem are relatively easy to spot while others may be a bit more obscure.

Over the past 18 years I have had a private practice working in and teaching holistic health care, which gives me quite a bit of experience in working with people. One of the things I would like to share with you is how often I meet clients and /or students who have difficulty expressing their anger. They end up holding it in and bottling it up instead of letting it out in manageable ways.

Do you want to make a change? You can, and very easily too. Did you know that your penmanship tells a lot about you? If you are flamboyant, your writing will be flamboyant also. If you draw within yourself, your writing will be small, self-contained. Therefore, it stands to reason, if ...

“How many times do I have to tell you?” “What am I ever going to do with you?” “What’s wrong with you?” “Don’t you ever listen?” Imagine yourself to be a young child listening to your parents repeatedly ask you questions like these. … If you stop for a few moments, listen to these words inside your head, and experience what it feels like, you will have a clear picture of what far too many children feel every day.

While one can be friends with people who put in as much effort as they do, there is also the chance that this isn’t the case. It could then be said that some of their relationships will be out of balance. And not only might this apply to their friends, it could also be something that they experience in their intimate relationships. These relationships are then unlikely to be very fulfilling, and one could wonder what is going on. Part of Life

Self-esteem is a condition, a state of being. Unfortunately, it is not something we can put in a box with a fancy ribbon and hand out on occasion. It is observable in behaviors, but other than that, it's an inside job. According to the National Association of Self Esteem (NASE), self esteem is, "The experience of being capable of meeting life's challenges and being worthy of happiness." nn How we arrive at a condition of high or low self-esteem has been the subject of extensi

Self-esteem might sound pretty complicated, but not if you break it into two words. Let's take a look at the word esteem first. Esteem (say: ehs-teem) is a fancy word for valuing someone or something or thinking that someone or something is important. For example, if you really admire your friend's dad because of all his great work at the volunteer fire department, it means you hold him in high esteem. Or the special trophy for the MVP of a team is often called "an esteemed

“The Lefkoe Method is very effective at eliminating negative beliefs.

To be human means to be vulnerable and so it is incredibly important that we look after ourselves and don’t allow people to compromise who we are. Physically we are vulnerable and this also applies to our mental and emotional sides. Each one of these needs to be looked after and protected from what is or what may be harmful to our wellbeing. And what boundaries do is allow one to protect their personal space; without them one is wide open to all kinds of things. But just because this is the case, it doesn’t mean that everyone has strong and healthy boundaries.

Firstly, you need to realise that you have the ability to achieve your main aim in life so you must have a continual persistent attitude when applying yourself to attain the goal. Secondly, you must contribute some of your daily time towards positive thinking in relation to who you want to be. Realise that these dominant thoughts will eventually be expressed in the physical actions that will get you where you want to go. Thirdly, through auto suggestion you need to know how

Codependent behavior can definitely impact ones quality of life in a very negative fashion. In my own example it was very clear about the kind of men I attracted into my life before I "let go of my need to rescue." I attracted men who were distant or obsessed or addicted. I found men who needed my fixing. "Why?" I would ask myself; “am I a virtual magnet to these bad boys?” I know now that there was a deep, unconscious yearning to feel better about myself by fulfilling my “mission” to save these poor suckers. This has all the earmarks of a form of mental illness.

Since we first offered belief-elimination programs on the Internet in November, 2008, many people have said to me: The source of the beliefs you give in the belief-elimination videos might be the source for most people, but not all are true for me. Please help me find the source of my beliefs. So I decided to provide you with the principles we teach Certified Lefkoe Method facilitators, so that you will be more effective in finding the source of your beliefs when the sources we suggest on the videos aren’t true for you. 1.

What parents do and don't do, say and don't say, provide their children with the experiences that their children interpret into beliefs. Those beliefs, in turn, then determine their behavior and emotions and, ultimately, their lives for better or for worse. Most parents at this point respond: "I’ve never thought about my children’s beliefs before. Isn't our job as parents to get our children to do the right thing, to teach them, and to make them happy?" At What Cost?

How many times have you attended a personal growth workshop, or listened to a self-help audio course, or viewed a set of DVDs designed to change your life? Given the type of people who usually read my blog, probably most of you. And how many times did you get a high when you completed the program … that dissipated shortly, leaving you almost where you were before you started? Based on what many of you have told me, an awful lot of you. Why don’t these courses that usually offer such valuable information produce lasting change?

You probably already know that without confidence, you have MUCH fewer options in your life. In fact, self-doubt might just be the most crippling limitation that you’ll ever face in life. It limits your ability to ask for and to receive the things that you want and to assert and stand up for yourself. Self-doubt can limit your options for having good romantic relationships, earning respect from others, earning career opportunities and so many other things. Nevertheless, as im

Once you understand the power that beliefs have to shape behavior and limit possibilities, you can begin to see why so many of society’s problems seem insoluble. Societal beliefs prevent change in society just like individual beliefs prevent change in individuals. For example, if you have the belief Relationships don‘t work, your options are limited. You can avoid relationships altogether, not work very hard to make them work because you already know they won’t, not leave a bad relationship because you’ll never find a better one, and so on.

When people think of a relationship, they often think about not only receiving, but also giving. These two parts come together to form a relationship and while it is not always possible to give and receive in each moment, this doesn’t mean that one of these aspects will then be ignored overall. However, there will be relationships where one person always takes and the other person will then either have to always give or leave the relationship completely. One could try to bring this observation to the other person’s attention and yet it won’t always have an effect on their behaviour.

It doesn’t take much effort to notice how powerful and influential actors and actresses are in today’s world. And although they have had this power for a number of years; with the assistance of the mainstream media, this has gradually increased as time has gone by. One only has to go a film premier or to watch a film premier on TV, to witness how people are affected by them. They are often looked upon with reverence and awe. While it is clear that these people are human beings, to some people they are more than human and larger than life itself. Films

One of the biggest differences between introverts and extroverts is how they react to stress. Some people don’t understand how introverts react to stress. Because of this, they think that all introverts are “neurotic” or mentally ill. Let me explain why this is a misperception. When ...

Sue was totally in love with Jim. The couple met in high school and dated for eight years. Everyone who knew them expected them to get married and live happily ever after together. Then Jim met Karen. Before anyone knew what was happening - including Sue - Jim had eloped with Karen, putting an ...

I generally know when I’m about to have a breakthrough, when there is a new process or way of understanding something that is on the verge of taking shape. I have glimpses of ideas and I have a sense of connections that I can’t quite put my finger on. But I know if I stay with it, something new and useful ultimately will take shape. That’s where I am now. I think I’m about to come up with something very useful, and I’m not sure what it is yet.

The word selfish has all kind of associations, however I’m sure one of the images that comes to mind for most of us, is of the person who only thinks about themselves and is extremely self centred. This person only seems to think about what is in it for them and how it will benefit their own life. On the other side we have the person who only thinks about others and is shown to be completely selfless. These kinds of people are typically lauded by our society for what they offer and for the many people they routinely help.r

ARE YOU CO-DEPENDENT AND DO YOU ENABLE OTHERS? Discover why, learn to stop and gain life balance. “We are all here on earth to help others; what on earth the others are here for I don’t know”. W.H. Auden Do you sometimes feel as if you were put on earth to serve others? Are you overly accommodating and find it difficult to say no? Are you drained from overdoing for others? When you complain, are you told that you sound like a martyr?

Writing is a good way to get to know yourself, solve your problems, lower your stress level, and balance yourself emotionally. If you are new to this, buy a notebook to begin keeping a journal, not a diary, a journal. What is the difference? A diary reports events and usually makes sense if another were going to read it. A journal, on the other hand, is about your emotional reactions to people and events, insights you have in understanding yourself, lists of your needs, wants, values, and goals.

Before describing how to use dialoguing with your Inner Child to increase self esteem, I'd better say what your Inner Child is, for those who may not be familiar with the term. What is an Inner Child? We all have an Inner Child. It is who we are when we were born, our natural core self. That ...

Self Realisation: The Journey One Must Take Alone I believe that the journey one embarks on to understand who and what they are; is one that could be classed as an individual journey. There will of course be many people who one encounters during this journey. And the amount of time that these people will be around for will depend on various factors.

I come from a family with a codependent mother. I am neither judging her nor blaming. But identifying codependency symptoms in her helped me a lot to overcome low self esteem. Codependency definition : Codependency is not a disease, it is an emotional and behavioural condition that is learned ...

When someone talks to people over social media, it is not going to be the same as talking to them in person. It could be said that this is pretty obvious, and that it is not something that needs to be pointed out. What this primarily comes down to is that one is going to be using a device to talk to people. Through being in front of a screen, the people they are talking to could be miles away from them. Another Way

If you think about it, you'll find that low self esteem is like a mental jail, a set of rules, opinions and values, imposed by our own mind, which limit our abilities, our way of thinking and our life. Do you like what you see in that mirror? Do you feel pride, compassion and respect about yourself most of the time? Or do you wish for someone else's traits and accomplishments?

It could be said that to some degree all mothers are controlling and that they have to be. From the very beginning a child has to have the right discipline and guidance to develop. However, what happens when this control is taken to the extreme and the child is taken advantage of? A special Relationship The relationship a child has with its mother is usually the most important relationship. And this relationship not only plays a massive role in the Childs development; it also goes a long way in defining what kind of adult the child will later become.

We all like to be appreciated. Everyone understands the value of acknowledging others, too. And yet, I observe others passing up hundreds of opportunities to appreciate every day. At this point in my life, I actively look for and pounce on chances to groove on others. But I wasn’t always so magnanimous. There was a time when I would keep score. When I didn’t feel confident or powerful, appreciating others felt like giving away my power. I felt that I was diminished somehow by the act of giving.

Most of the behavioral or emotional problems we want to get rid of are relatively simple to deal with. We procrastinate. We worry all the time about what people think of us. We lack confidence. Using The Lefkoe Method you can find and eliminate the beliefs and conditionings that cause these problems. As a result, the problems will disappear. Unfortunately overeating and weighing too much are not as simple.

The Inner Critic is the part of you that judges you, demeans you, and pushes you to do things. It lowers your self-esteem and makes you feel bad about yourself. This is one of the most difficult and tenacious issues that people face. The Inner Critic is actually not a single part of you; there can be a number of critical parts that judge you in different ways or for different reasons. In our study of the Inner Critic, we have identified seven types of Inner Critics that people are troubled by. Perfectionistr

You just submitted that article or book and some of the reviews are not very nice. Or even just getting 4 out of 5 stars can get you going- why did they give me 4 and not 5??? You can even feel a certain rage for the person. This guy wants to put me down to make himself look intelligent,” you think. Yes, lots of people will do that. There are those out there who will try to fault what you have created because it makes them feel better about themselves.

I've been looking forward to writing this article because Sir Isaac Newton personifies some of the outstanding introvert characteristics that you can learn to prize in yourself, your introverted child or your introverted lover. If you're an employer, you can also learn to identify two of these ...

Family relationships are some of the most important in your life. There are many families that you may be relating to: • the family you grew up in • your extended family of aunts, uncles, grandparents, nieces, nephews, and all their husbands and wives • your current family • perhaps the family members of your ex To have significant relationships with people in your family, you need to connect with them often, whether in person, on the phone, e-mailing, or texting. Whatever way is best for you, making that contact on a regular basis is crucial.

In order to be as effective as possible with your confident statements, you need to learn how to hold your body and use your voice. If you’re saying confident words, but your body or voice show that you’re unsure of yourself, people will believe your nonverbal communication instead of your words. Your Body Posture

Although assertiveness is largely described as the ideal, what is often found is either submissive or aggressive behaviour. So if submissive behaviour was at one end of the spectrum; aggressive behaviour would be at the other end of the spectrum. This means that assertive behaviour would be in the middle of the two extremes. By themselves, they are dysfunctional and out of balance. And yet these two extremes can often seem to be the only options available.

What is Multitasking? Multitasking is when you handle more than one task at the same time or perform multiple projects on parallel tracks. Society now functions at a very fast pace and continues to move exponentially using many gadgets and internet sites. We are now connected to the world 24/7 and this instant information makes us feel on top of everything that is going on yet multitasking has been criticized as a hindrance to feeling happy. In addition, Western society gives the message that to day dream wastes time and to be busy and productive is of value.

The name of this article might sound a bit extreme and over the top, however I thought it was relevant to create awareness around this often overlooked area. This is a general description of Emotional Abuse, which is based on my current awareness and observations. Physical Abuse Very often the most recognised form of abuse is the physical side; the type of abuse that is visible to the eye and can be easily observed. When the body is hurt it is clear to see, unlike when we are emotionally hurt. Emotional Abuse

We all have Inner Critics. Some of us have several of them. journal therapy practice helps us to plow through the Critic's debilitating tactics, and transform them into useful coaching. The recipe calls for plenty of pen, paper, and jou aling, tunneling through the morass of inner doubt, guilt, and fear until we can begin to see the light of day with greater consistency. The process involves intentional role playing, as you conduct conversations in your journal with your Cri

Do you often walk away from people thinking, “Did I say the right thing”; did I offend someone”; “should I have said or asked …”? Do you frequently hear that “little voice” in your head saying: “What will they think?”? Do you often feel you need to be a certain way and you can’t just be yourself? Most people are concerned about what others think about them and many say and do things just to get the approval of others. These thoughts and behaviors seem to

The word anger and the behaviour that it creates is not something that is typically looked upon with acceptance or positivity. Anger is often portrayed as a troublesome emotion; an emotion that leads to destructive and abusive behaviour. And there is no denying that anger can be extremely destructive when expressed in a certain way or when it is taken to the extreme. However, I believe that if we look at the world and our own individual lives, we will see many examples when anger has been appropriate and has lead to positive action and change. Neutral Behaviour

Every woman has done it. Uttered those words that undermine the image we have of ourselves and our bodies. I’m too fat. I hate the way I look. If only I my breasts were larger, or I were taller, shorter, had longer legs, had curly hair, straight hair, a smaller nose, bigger muscles …and the list goes on and on. Do any of these statements sound familiar? If so, you are not alone. In our society, thin figures, youth, and fitness are considered to be more valuable. But throughout history, most societies valued fat bodies and fat diets. The fat people were rich, the thin were poor.

Are you a perfectionist? Is the need for other people's approval a driving force in all that you do? Do you feel like nothing is ever good enough? While some aspects of being a perfectionist are healthy, feeling the obsessive need to be perfect with everything can negatively affect our self-esteem and livelihood. Altho

The pace of change in today’s world can leave us all feeling a bit shell-shocked, insecure and fearful of losing what we’ve worked so hard to accumulate. If you’re feeling trapped by the trappings of modern life, forced to choose between spending precious time with the people you love or earning a paycheck, it might seem impossible to even consider the fact that you have other work options.

The whole idea of someone losing themselves in a relationship may sound completely ridiculous. And if this was to be taken literally, then yes, it does sound crazy. Because physically it is impossible to lose oneself in another person; there is nowhere to go and it is clearly not possible. And if this is the perception that one has, it is a result of a lack of understanding of what it actually means.

One of the most common questions we get from people who use our free belief-elimination site is, “I don’t think I got my beliefs from my parents. Can’t negative self-esteem beliefs be formed from interactions with siblings or later in life from teachers or peers?”

Abusive parenting if often something that goes on covertly in our society. To the outsider it might not even be noticed. With how a family or parent presents themselves to the outside world being the complete opposite of how they our behind closed doors. These people can hold positions of great responsibility and even socially acceptable roles. Making them appear to be highly unlikely to be abusive to their children. Then there are parents who don’t hold such high positions and these are the ones that are often portrayed as more likely to be abusive.

Although some people feel comfortable with themselves, there are others who experience life differently. And it could be said that one will achieve more when they feel comfortable in their own skin, so to speak. Based on this, if one doesn’t feel comfortable with themselves, it will then be normal for them to be in a position where they haven’t achieved very much. Yet while this can sound accurate, it doesn’t mean that this is always going to be the case. High Achievers

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What is “dialoguing” with my Inner Child? Dialoguing is talking with your Inner Child, caring for her/him non-verbally. The word dialogue implies a back and forth exchange between the two of you, rather than just “talking” which could be understood as a one-way communication. When do I do ...

It seems that at least 42% of people fear ageing. That's nearly half of our population in the UK. Yet, like death, age is an inevitable part of our existence. We cannot NOT age just as we have to die. So the only way to treat those two elements of our existence is to accept them as willingly, happily and joyously as we do life because ALL THREE come as a package. We cannot have any one without the other. The minute we accept life, we accept ageing and death.

The more we work with clients who have a problem of overeating, the more convinced I am that we have come up with an effective solution to a major health crisis. Over 70% of American adults are either overweight or obese. That is a disastrous situation for those people who have an eating/weight problem and a serious crisis for society as a whole.

In order to get anything we want in life, we negotiate. Negotiating affects each areas of our lives—from business or career, social or personal. We're all endlessly and continually negotiating about all types of situations and under different circumstances. In general, your success to negotiate would determine your success in life. So if you really aspire for success, try to increase your negotiation skills today. There are numerous articles and books on all kinds and aspec

Well, it's been a month since you made your New Year’s resolutions. How's it going? Are you making steady progress? Or, like most of us, have you given up on them? When you made your New Year’s resolutions for this year, you might have used the formula that is very popular these days among the goal-setting gurus, called SMART: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant and Time Specific. This process works well for helping you track your progress toward your goals, but it skips the critical step of helping you identify a goal you really want to get to.

Whether it is relationships with friends, acquaintances or spousal for example; they all have the potential for healing and consequently growth to occur. Opportunities are presented for one to integrate and process those parts that lay dormant; that are waiting to be realised. We are also given the chance to heal or let go of those parts that are negative or dysfunctional. Happiness, Suffering And Pain This also means that relationships have the power to create not only incredible happiness; but also unbelievable amounts of suffering and pain. Relationships

Our behaviour is a reflection of our emotions; how we feel. And the feelings come from our thoughts and our environmental experiences. Would it be fair to say that when you think about something very sad (tsunami, earthquakes) your feelings tend to tune in with the thought? For a lot of people this happens automatically, they don’t even realise that’s what they are doing. That is the power of a thought. In the same vein if you are focused on something jubilant (a wedding, a holiday or a new career move) the waves of joy you feel and the things you notice tend to be uplifting.

Eat, Drink and Be Merry To Boost Your Health and Fight H1N1 I thought I’d send you this helpful Special Article before we go into the stresses of the Holiday Season. The body responds to all changes as stress, (for more information about what stress does to you http://schoolofct.com/articles/a_oct06.php) and the holidays are no exception, whether you are having a good time or a bad time it’s ‘change’. So you may feel extra tired, get a little snarky with your boss (spouse, kids, fill-in-the-blank!), and you may find that you are stressing out your immune system.

The Lefkoe Stimulus Process (LStP) is the most important process other than the Lefkoe Belief Process that we use to help people get rid of unwanted behavior and emotional problems. This process de-conditions common events that have been conditioned to cause fear and other negative emotions.

This is an area I have been reflecting on for many years, pondering and asking myself why such behaviour exists. And with my recent expression through writing, felt it was time to talk about this interesting and often confusing area of behaviour. So here, based on my experience and observation, I will describe what I believe are some of the reasons for such behaviour. These are not the right or only reasons and just my current views. Aloof

Have you ever wished that you had the CONFIDENCE TO SPEAK OUT about something you disapprove of or disagree with? Maybe you'd like to tell your boss that there's a better way to do something, or that you don't like being treated in a certain way. Maybe you're sick of people taking you for granted, or hurting your feelings without even caring to assess the damage they're doing to your self-esteem.nnIf you struggle to speak out, it's probably for one or more of these reasons:nn

It is often said that no one is their own island and each one of us in interdependent. This not only applies to people; it also includes the earth that one lives on, the air they breathe and the sun that creates light and gives off energy for instance. There is always going to be people who are more self sufficient than others and people who live in the country can usually relate to this more than people who live in a city. But no matter where someone lives, they are going to depend on certain things.

I recently came across a link that was called - 'creativity 'closely entwined with mental illness'. This was from the bbc website about a recent study that has connected creativity with mental health problems. The link can be found on the bbc website. And after reading all that was said, I thought I would use my creativity to write an article about this. As I don't believe that this is a discovery that is either new or groundbreaking; associating these two things together has been done for a very long time.

When I first started helping clients whose major complaint was emotional eating—eating for emotional reasons when they really weren’t hungry—I assumed that the problem was caused by beliefs and conditioning, like most other behavioral or emotional problems. But when all the beliefs and conditionings that appeared to be relevant had been eliminated, the problem usually was as bad as ever. At which point I went back to the drawing board.

It is not uncommon for someone to be told that they should just forgive and forget and simply move on from someone who has wronged them. This can seem to be the most logical thing that one can do; to put it behind them and carry on with their life. One could be told that they are bigger than what has taken place or that holding onto to what happened will be detrimental to their health and wellbeing. So one might then feel pressured to move on, or at least make other people believe they have moved on to keep them happy.

When it comes to the consequences of abuse, there are many and some will be more severe than others. One of these consequences is that it usually creates uncertainty in the victim. And this has the potential to create all kinds of problems, because to the degree that one feels uncertain within, will play a large role in how much power and control the abuser has. This uncertainly then becomes, if you will, the open door for them to enter and create all kinds of damage.

Being able to trust is an important part of life. And this not only relates to trusting other people, it also relates to trusting oneself. Having trust in life, is another expression of this. This could be trusting in some kind of god for some and for others it could simply be a sense of trust in life. Or what is known as faith to some people. Trust In Others For some people trusting others is a way of life and something that is rarely questioned. Whether it is a close friend, family member, or a spouse for example; the same outcome will be expected.

Although there is no such thing as a perfect childhood, that doesn’t mean that everyone is treated in the same way. There are going to be some people who were treated well on most occasions and there are going to be others who had the opposite experience. In this case, one would have been treated badly on most occasions and this is what was normal for them. There is also the chance that one had a certain stage in their life where they were mistreated.

The Lefkoe Institute has had a big marketing problem since its inception 24 years ago. People don’t believe we can do what we promise to do. Our unique distinction is that we can help people quickly and permanently eliminate all the relevant beliefs that cause virtually any behavioral or emotional problem in their lives. But most people have the belief: Change is difficult, takes a long time, and requires a lot of reinforcement.

Years ago I was locked in a worry habit. Each morning I would wake up and my mind would begin to scan the landscape of my life, the way a hawk scans land for food. I was not looking for food; I was looking for something to worry about. The enormity of this habit became apparent one day when I found myself laying in bed trying to choose which one of my three top worries I would feed on that day. One morning, I became aware of this practice and realized that I needed to stop the worry habit in order to have a happy day. Do you do that?

During the summer months, Nature provides you with a wonderful invitation to BE in the present moment and become mindful. Will you accept her invitation to enjoy what she offers you? Or will you be too busy “doing” and be unaware of the beauty of nature? In her book, Waking up to this Day, Paula D’Arcy writes that “awakening to the present moment – to now – is to look without filter.... (to) stop relating to life and others primarily through expectation or through mind activity... to meet each person, place, or thing directly.. (to) wake to the day.” What is mindfulness?

While one can think in ways that will enhance their life or at the very least not cause any harm, they can also think in a ways that will limit their quality of life. And the mind is like any other kind of tool out there; with one needing to know how to use it, in order to utilize its capabilities.

Anger: Friend or Foe? Anger management or Decreasing anger Is anger an uncomfortable emotion for you? Do you tend to deny and repress it because you have been socialized to believe it is not good to be angry? Emotions are neither good nor bad they just exist and you do not have control over them. The control you do have is deciding what to do with your anger. You can use it as an instrument of destruction or you can learn from it and use it for transformation.

As human beings, it is normal to want to look good, to give things, and to experience success for example. And yet, it is also possible for one to engage in each of these things just to impress others. To do this from time to time could be described as normal, but if one was to do this as a way of life, it is not going to be healthy. If one does do this as a way of life, they are going to end up being disconnected from their own needs and wants for one thing.

1. Learn to set reasonable goals. Whether it’s about your exercise routine or diet, don’t set the bar too high or you may find yourself resisting and then failing. Remember that a healthy, balanced life is a jou ey of steps. Give yourself permission to win by keeping a steady workable pace. 2. Single out what is beautiful about you. Perhaps you love your eyes, or your legs, but are unhappy with other parts. Keep your focus on those parts that work for you and know that everyone has parts they love and parts they wish they could change.

How do you feel about yourself? That is the question that needs to be asked and answered before embarking on any journey designed for increasing self-esteem. Never mind what others may think of you; it doesn’t matter. All that matters is how you perceive your own self worth and personal value. Only then can you begin the process of increasing your self esteem to the point where you feel confident and self-assured in every situation. The first step, then, is to evaluate how you currently perceive yourself.

Ah, the gentle pitter-patter of rain upon the roof of a mobile home! The sound can be so soothing that it lulls you to sleep. Who needs an expensive ambient sound machine? This is nature’s own. Just lie back, secure in your comfy nest of bed and blankets and let Mother Nature sing her watery lullaby. You haven’t a care in the world. You’re cuddling Lethe. All is well. Beep! Beep! Beep! Beep! Huh? What’s that? Is it time to get up already? No. It’s still dark, very dark, and

For some people, the term walls may bring up associations to do with the physical walls of a house or walls that divide one garden from another. However, the walls that this article will look into are not physical walls. They are not visible to the eye and yet this doesn’t mean that the impact they have is any different.

The Truth about Aging Gracefully Baby boomers long ago hit the first major speed bump on their collective path: They’re aging and there’s nothing they can do to stop it. Yes, we can use more make-up, hair dye and alpha-hydroxy creams. Yes, plastic surgeons and health related industries are making millions off of the insecurity of this age group. But whether or not we use any or all of the above products and services,we will get older. In another culture or time period in history, aging wasn’t a problem. Why? Because respect for someone grew with age. This isn’t true today.

There are many types of abuse; from child abuse, to abuse in relationships, abuse in the workplace and even through leaders of countries for example. And no matter what kind of abuse it is, people are put through pain and are made to suffer. One is then made to believe that something is wrong with them and to be responsible for how the abuser is behaving. Some people will naturally be more vulnerable to this than others. Vulnerable

While one can have grown into an adult and therefore left their childhood behind them, it doesn’t mean that they have completely moved on from those early years. Ones childhood influences them in ways that are obvious and in ways that are more or less oblivious. It is a time that plays a massive role in who one will become; either as a direct result of what happened or through or through one using what happened as a catalyst to be more. In one way or another, these years are fundamental and cannot be overlooked.

Many adults are going back to school or seeking active learning experiences. With our changing economy and culture, many adults who thought they were done with “school” are finding themselves back in the classroom. For some it’s a new adventure, for others their worst nightmare. Why are so many of us afraid to learn something new? Why do we feel it will be “hard” to change?

This is something that can affect someone in many ways and as a result of many things. Some losses can simply be ignored and forgotten about and then there are others can are harder to forget. One can also lose something and never forget the loss; regardless of how much times goes by or what else happens in their life. What will often define the impact that a loss has is how emotionally attached one was.

by Lynda Hudson Crown House Publishing Reviewed by Bryan M. Knight, MSW PhD. Wow. What a rich compendium of scripts for both novice and seasoned professional. Lynda Hudson provides such a valuable resource that it deserves to become a classic guide for the hypnotherapist who wonders what to say to help a client challenged with e.g., tics, illness, childbirth, unwanted habits, business fears, social anxiety, sports performance, or travel toilet phobia Those are just a few of the subjects the author tackles so adroitly.

There was a time in America when some people were treated as property, forced to do whatever other people wanted, abused without any ability to respond, and unable to obtain their freedom. Such behavior was legal and considered appropriate by the people practicing it. When we look at the people who exhibited that behavior we think with repulsion, “What could they possibly have been thinking?”

It has been said (and sang, of course) that we live in a material world and the nature of this world constantly requires us to look for ways of overcoming anger and irritability. This world is a place of “he said/ she said”, and everyone is always on the defensive, ready to protect themselves against some outward force that would bring darkness on their inner world. All this defensiveness causes you to become angry and irritable, and people take it out on each other. Anger and irritability are both contradictory emotions, and no one wants to be around people who exude such emotions.

Whether the economy goes up or down, it looks like stress is here to stay. In addition to putting a strain on your body, one of the many side effects of protracted stress can be diminished self-esteem. It may be subtle, but feeling overwhelmed by responsibility erodes our ability to love ourselves. How does this happen?

The fear of abandonment can affect someone's life in many different ways. There is the internal experience and the exte al experience. And this doesn't mean that abandonment actually has to occur, in order for one to feel abandoned. As a result of the power and the imagination that the mind has, an experience can just as easily be created through the ego minds interpretation. This may be far from the truth and simply a reaction. Pain

When a relationship comes to an end, it can often lead to pain. For some people the end of a relationship will be experienced solely as a loss and for others, although there is a sense of loss, it will also be coupled with a sense of freedom and that the time had come. This will of course depend on how the relationship was and if one felt it had come to its natural end or if it had ended too soon.

One of my deepest desires is to be a Blessing to others. It is no wonder that the Peace Prayer by Francis of Assisi is the blueprint for my life. Lord, make me an instrument of your peace, Where there is hatred, let me sow love; Where there is injury, pardon; Where there is doubt, faith; Where there is despair, hope; Where there is darkness, light; Where there is sadness, joy

“Whatever you think, whatever you feel, I know is your problem and not my problem. It is the way you see the world. It is nothing personal, because you are dealing with yourself, not with me.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements. Why do most of us find it so difficult in the face of an insult to not take it personally? The concept of “Not taking things personally,” is easy to understand but very hard to apply. The first thing to remember is that we can’t control what oth

It isn’t always easy to accept who or what we are. We all like to imagine ourselves through the lens of an ideal type rather than picturing our flaws and weaknesses. Of course, the truth is, people, including you, are not perfect. Being human means we make mistakes, period! Rather than dwelling on your errors of judgement, you need to become proactive in learning from mistakes. Like all animals, human beings learn through a process of trial and error. To get hung up on making a mistake is to be hung up on being a human being.

Are you between the ages of 28 and 30? Will you have your Satu Return in 2003 or 2004? Check the list at the end of this article to see if it applies to you. I have had so much response from my article on Satu Returns, I’m making this information available so you can check online while ...

One important concept, that helps you have a healthy sense of self-acceptance and self-esteem, is the knowledge that you are perfect, right now, just the way you are. This is true regardless of your problems, early childhood issues, body, I.Q., mistakes, etc. Consider a new definition of perfection which includes all of your imperfections. This is an important seed thought to hold in your mind as you go forward in life growing into your full potential Self. Accepting the truth of your beauty and perfection is best illustrated by looking at an acorn.

Passive-aggressive means that you first do something passive and then you do something aggressive. In other words, first you do something you don’t want to do, then you do something hostile. Let me give you an easy example first. Your friend tells you to wash her dishes. If you wash the dishes even though you feel this was an unjust demand, and then later blow up at her for telling you to do it, your action is passive-aggressive. A much better strategy is to neither be passive (you don’t wash her dishes in the first place) nor aggressive ( you don’t blow up at her).

People who put others first are often revered and are seen as an example of how to live. The fact that they appear to always put others first, is what makes them different to people who appear to always put themselves first. This could be to do with helping a friend, partner or colleague at a local level. And at a wider scale this could include some kind of charity work. Ultimately, their position is not important, because they are always on the look out to be there for another, regardless of their needs. The Right Thing

In my first session with a client we explored what made her realise that her chocolate consumption had become a problem, and the trigger for her to seek help from a Life Coach rather than her Doctor or a nutritionist. She had said that she eats when she feels depressed, she feels unattractive and she is currently unable to find a boyfriend. She claims to be a self confessed chocoholic, but the term itself is almost fashionable, and does not have the negative overtones of claiming to be an alcoholic. This is perhaps a smokescreen for her deeper unhappiness.

When people work together and are all on the same side, so much can be achieved. If there is disharmony amongst people, problems can appear and this can lead to things being slowed down, or stopped completely. One example that comes to mind here is a sports team. When everyone in the team works together, amazing things can happen. But when just one of those members in the team is out of alignment with the rest, it can disrupt the whole ream. And the same thing applies to someone’s life.

If you’re reading this article here you probably are interested in transformation. But I suspect that what you mean by transformation is very different from what others mean by the same word. I’m a member of the Transformational Leadership Council, a group of “transformational” leaders, and I’ll bet if I asked each member what he/she meant by the term transformation we would get almost as many definitions as there are members.

E.F.T. Tapping Wisdom re: Head Point My experience regarding: not tapping on "HEAD POINT" for everyone. I hope all my friends will find this beneficial. My life is an open book and it is my whole-hearted desire to help others by my own experiences. There is a saying that I love: “By learning from other people’s mistakes, you can save yourself a lot of time, effort and pain.” I need to share a bit of my psychological history with the reader. When I was around 19 years old I had a “so-called” Nervous Breakdown.

A few years ago while in the midst of a corporate consulting assignment I realized that there was one crippling belief that was rampant in every organizatio I had ever worked in. And this belief was not only the most common belief in organizations, it was, in my opinion, the biggest single barrier that most organizations have. What is this belief?

In every field you are involved in negotiations on a regular basis, whether you realize it or not. When people think of negotiations generally the term “high level” comes to mind. There is a group of cigar smoking men surrounding a table in a board room and the volume is loud and ...

If human beings were independent, it wouldn’t matter if other people validated them or not. They would be their own island and they would be able to give themselves all the validation they needed. But as human beings are interdependent, it means that they need to be validated by others. This is not to say that someone can’t validate themselves, what it means is that other people are just as important. Two Sides

Governing ourselves is central to being a good citizen of the world. Strengthened character, conformed conduct and adjusted attitudes are all critical to our proper growth and maturation. Perspectives and principles often vary, but there are common denominators of behaviors that foster healthy and harmonious development in everyone. Since its inception, NBC’s 20-year, award-winning show, Law & Order has been my personal favorite. Recent news that the show has been canceled for next season, provoked thoughts about the void that the drama’s ending might leave.

Hesitation leads to devastation. That was the main principle of an article I read recently on mountain biking. It is one of the most important principles when riding a technical mountain bike route. If you decided to ride the difficult, sandy or rocky or muddy section of the route instead of pushing or carrying your bike, like many of the others, you must “take it by the horns” and go through it. If you hesitate, even just for a moment, you can come down hard and fast, an

When it comes to raising a child that is mentally and emotionally healthy and has a strong sense of self, it is imperative that they are validated. This is not to say that they have to be validated at all times in order to become a functional adult, but in most cases, it is vital that this happens. If this doesn’t occur, it can be due to a number of reasons. And one of these reasons is the result of abuse taking place. The Childs caregiver may be the person who is abusive in some way or it could be another family member that causes the damage.

When it comes to understanding what is going on in the world, the media has generally been the source that one has looked to. This has been the case for many, many years. But this has very recently changed and this is primarily due to the fairly introduction of the internet. In the past, the main sources were Papers, Radio and Television. And in the modern day world, although these options still exist; there are numerous others sources that can be found on the internet.

Mike had become a wealthy entrepreneur, but he had a hard time enjoying his business success because it seemed that every minute he wasn’t solving a business problem he was worried about what others thought of him and what he could do to get their approval. Janet probably had as many good ideas as Mike, but because she was plagued with procrastination, she was nowhere near as successful. Roger always talked about his dream of doing something on his own, but he just didn’t have the confidence to leave his safe (and boring) job.

The Power of Negative Motivation It is interesting how we are accustomed to hearing and applying the concept of positive motivations in our lives to achieve our goals. It seems quite natural and comfortable to fall in line with this kind of thinking. We hear it from all walks of life and the first thing most people tell us when things are not going well is to think and stay positive.

Last fall I conducted a one-hour tele-seminar in which I answered questions I had been sent about beliefs. Because so many people have the same questions, I thought I would write an article answering a few of the most common questions I received. Question: Once you have eliminated a belief, what does one need to do to move forward and leave their dysfunctional behavior patterns behind? Answer: In a word, nothing.

There are many confusing and false messages bouncing around in cyberspace about life coaching. After coaching 600 people over the past 13 years, talking with dozens of coaches and surfing the websites of about 100 more, I'm sharing my take on what coaching is—and isn't. I'd like to say upfront that my intention is not to offend or denigrate. I'm simply stating my informed opinion, which is best taken with a grain of salt.

What frightens you? What shadows of your past are lurking in the deep recesses of your mind? What monsters do you fear are blocking your path to your future? We all have fears. It is what you believe about them and how you face them that will determine your course in life. There is a direct correlation between our achievement in life and the confidence we have in ourselves. And, our confidence is directly related to how focused we are on our fears. We perform as well as we b

What do you desperately desire, that the more you get, the harder it will be to achieve your goals in life? Answers. Let me explain. It seems that nothing would make most of us happier than getting the answer to our questions, such as how to improve our relationships, how to make more money, and how to get anything else we want in life. But answers are a type of belief. They are a solution to a problem, the way to do or get something.

When it comes to sticking to new years resolutions the majority of people fail no later than the six week mark. This can be seen everywhere, the best example of this is in the diet and exercise sector.

At times, one is going to feel the need to help another; either through someone asking for help or as a result of one offering their hand without being asked. And as human beings need help from time to time, it is good thing that there are people like this in the world. To help another person as a one off or to help someone on the odd occasion is likely to make a positive difference in another person’s life. However, if one is constantly ‘helping’ the same person, it could be doing more harm than good.

Are you struggling with a low self esteem and self confidence? If you have answered yes. Please do not despair because help is at hand. Below are some valuable tips on how to re-gain your self esteem and manage it. 1, Avoid the blame game: It's almost impossible to appreciate your individuality or to see the good in you if you are constantly putting your self down.

Claiming Your Life as Your Own becomes especially important during periods of transition. Outgrowing a career, retiring, entering a new relationship, leaving an old relationship to be single again, becoming a parent or residing as an empty nester after raising a family - all of these and more are rites of passage that may throw us off balance and challenge us to reclaim our lives in a new way. That question – ‘Who am I…really?’ – can emerge once again.

Many non-fident people will be familiar with depression. In fact, you could very well say that confidence and self-esteem are pretty safe antidotes for depression. — And vice versa. When we’re depressed, we have little faith in our abilities and our future. In our purpose, our entire existence, our very worth as human beings. Depression in its worst forms can be one of the most debilitating non-lethal illnesses ever known to mankind. In fact, according to the WHO, depress

The planet Mercury is a complex and enigmatic planet that has much more to do with our lives than just “communication”, like faxes, emails, answering machines, telephones and media. Mercury in ancient astrology was the Winged Messenger of the Gods. In the Iliad and the Odyssey when someone had ...

Roger Dawson is known as a real estate master and motivational speaker. He's been speaking professionally in public for almost three decades. Before his public speaking career commenced, he employed up to 540 people in 28 different offices, as a real estate master. If you've bought a home or another piece of property, you know that a lot of the process involves plenty of negotiation. Besides real estate, negotiating is an art many of us have to practice on a daily basis, ince

In consideration of the myriad challenges to having an enriching and enduring relationship, it seems practically oxy moronic to use “healthy, romantic and relationship” in the same context. As a human relations expert, I am often asked, “Is it possible to have an “ideal relationship / mate?” The desire to have that special someone who compliments, comforts and fulfills us is a fundamental human need. In pursuit of the desire for intimate emotional connection, the primary focus tends to be placed on identifying the qualities that an “ideal mate” must have in order to be acceptable to us.

It is often said that it is important for someone to make sure that they don’t allow ‘toxic’ people into their life. And upon reflection, it doesn’t take much thought to see why this is the case. Interdependent In a way, this is no different to one being told that they shouldn’t eat food that is unhealthy. Still, it can be far more common for one to hear about how they need to eat right, than it is for them to be told to be around the right people.

The first step to increasing your self-image is to know yourself. You need to understand your capabilities and skills. You also want to determine weaknesses to improve upon. But, don’t beat yourself up too much when identifying these. Weaknesses can easily be turned into strengths, if you work at them long enough. Determine what aspects about you are important to change and concentrate on those. There may be aspects that you are not conce ed with and won’t have much effect o

There are people in the world who have the ability to pick up information about others without needing to use their five senses. It is then as though part of them tunes into another person’s field or energy and shortly after this, their conscious mind is aware of this information. A Good Connection If someone was to utilize this information, it could be said that they have a good connection to this part of themselves. The reason for this is that even though someone has this ability, it doesn’t mean that they will pay attention to this information.

I was recently in Puerto Rico at the semi-annual meeting of the Transformational Leadership Council. This is a group of transformational leaders, formed by Chicken Soup for the Soul co-creator Jack Canfield, and includes John Gray, Paul Sheely, Joe Vitale, Steve Pavlina, and Stewart Emery. We have a lot of workshops where we learn from each other, but mainly we just enjoy each other’s company. Every six months when I arrive I feel as if I am coming home, because I am with people who have a similar vision, passion, and commitment in life: to improve the quality of people’s lives.

Why Wing Therapy™ makes people so happy? As a young girl one of the things I wanted to be when I grew up was a scientist. It didn’t quite work out that way as I turned out to be an artist. I’ve dedicated my life, for these almost 40 years, to the Performing Arts and Teaching these Arts. I am still a scientist however! I love studying and finding out what makes things tick. I sell Isis wings and teach Isis Wing dance. My method is beyond just dance. That’s why I received a divine inspiration from my S.G.I. Buddhist prayers to call it: Wing Therapy™.

The Angel Inside: Michelangelo, Il Gigante, and Creating a Life of Power and Beauty by Chris WidenernnThe following is an excerpt from The Angel InsidenThe Whole book can be found at www.TheAngelInside.comnn“Let us start with a story.” The old man began as he and Tom sat, looking at the David. “One day, Michelangelo was working on this marble that would become David and a young child came by where he was working. The young boy asked Michelangelo why he was working so ha

Globally we are facing tough times. But even in the midst of misery, you can have the confidence in knowing that no matter what happens – you can make it! – you will stand! In order to stay focused and fruitful during life’s rough spots, it is critical to build an infrastructure that will support you through the storms. There are certain choices that you are going to have to make that will greatly affect your outcome. How you respond to your tough times, will determine how you come out and where you’ll end up.

What I mean by this, is are we actually having an effect on our reality or environment or are we just bystanders in life, watching as situations and circumstances just ‘randomly’ happen, without us having any influence or control. Without even looking at whether this perception is right or wrong at the moment, it is easy to see that the potential consequences of perceiving life this way are not exactly empowering. Under this perception we can feel like a victim, lose all hope in life and feel that there is nothing we can do.

This is a term that is typically heard in the area of spirituality and self development; where someone can feel a bit spaced out and disconnected from the earth. Perhaps one has engaged in some kind of energy healing or spiritual practice. And it can also take place when one been reading for a while or has used a computer for a certain amount of time.

What is trust? How have we learned to define it? Is it really a concept that works? Trust this, don't trust that, this person is trustworthy, that person is not. You could liken it to using the crosswalk to safely cross the street, trust being the supposedly safe crossing through a potentially unsafe world. Yet how many of you readers have been hit by a car in this crosswalk of trust? I think I heard a resounding yes from everyone. Multiple yeses from most people.

It could be said that there will be moments when one is happy and moments when they are not. And if they were to reflect on their life, they may see that they spend more time in one state than they do in the other. This can be how their life has always been, or it could just be down to what they are currently going through. If one has the tendency to be happy, they are likely to be in a better position than if they were generally unhappy. Part of Life

When something is not working in life, it is common for blame to appear. And this can be towards: things, individuals and organisations. The opposite of this would be to take responsibility and to find out what the problems are and then to take the appropriate action. Through doing this, progress can often be made and although some things might not be able to be repaired or changed, there is likely to be some kind of resolution. This would generally be classed as a more mature approach, whereas using blame would be seen as a sign of immaturity.

There are so many things that can take place through exposing oneself to the mainstream media. And let’s face it, due to the power and influence that it has, it is more or less impossible to not be affected by it. For some people, their whole meaning of life, what’s going on in the world and what they should do, is defined by it. And even if one does think that their perception of life is not shaped by it, there is inevitably going to be some area of their life that has been.

It is often said that the opposite of love is hate and, therefore, if one doesn’t love someone, they are going to hate them. This is then going to be something that is black and white, and that will be the end of it. A Closer Look However, if one was to take the time to think about how they have been when they no longer love someone, they may find that there is more to it. Or, they could think about what has taken place when someone has no longer loved them.

While some people are able to maintain their sense of self when they are around others, there are going to be other people who are unable to do so. However, even though this is what is taking place, it doesn’t mean that someone realises what is happening. Part of Life For example, if someone can maintain their sense of self, it could be what is normal. It is then not something they ever think about; it is just part of their life.

When it comes to feeling connected to other people and having a sense of being understood, it is vital that one is not only honest with themselves about what they are going through, but that they are honest with others to. Now, this is going to be more relevant with the people that one is closest too, such as: friends, family, colleagues and their partner. One is not going to be able to experience this level of openness with everyone that they come across in life.

While there can be general meanings to words, there can also be personal meanings to words and intimacy is no different in this respect. Intimacy is generally described as what occurs when one person is close to another. And although one can be close to friend's, family or colleagues for example; when one thinks of intimacy, it usually relates to someone of the opposite sex. For some people intimacy can mean being close to another and sharing who they are. And this is in a way that one will feel safe and respected. It is something to be embraced and enjoyed.

The people you regularly associate with can and do have a huge impact on your self esteem. Whether you realize it or not. That’s why you should really limit the amount of time you spend with toxic people. You will do better and go farther if you consistently hang around loving, positive and uplifting individuals. They will provide support, love and encouragement. Nourishing people will also provide you with acceptance and honestly which are two things people with low self esteem need a lot of.

There is no doubting the importance that relationships have in life. They have the power to create incredible happiness, meaning and fulfilment. And they also have the power to create extreme unhappiness, pain and emptiness. For some people, the good that a relationship brings, outweighs the bad. They desire to be with a man or women, depending on their sexual preference. Although it may create challenges, these challenges are not enough to make one avoid a relationship altogether.

We've discovered that heredity is no longer synonymous with genetics. As a mere 4% of your DNA, genes are way overrated. Epigenetics, one of the hottest trends in scientific research, is trying to figure out what the other 96% is doing. Epigenetics studies how your genetic expression is affected by factors other than changes in the DNA sequence—things like toxic exposure, diet and exercise.

What does it mean to be grateful? What does gratitude feel like? How do you connect the word grateful to a feeling and even a state of being? There is a lot of talk today in the media, around the water cooler, etc. about gratitude. We’re told to be grateful for small things, for the love we have in our lives, for our health, for a sunrise or sunset; etc. How do we connect to this grateful feeling? Most people are bogged down with stresses and tensions, so gratitude for the small things feels fleeting and it is not something we feel as connected to emotionally as we think we should be.

I remember years ago when I bought my first self-esteem book. It was “Maximum Self-Esteem” by Jerry Minchinton and I would cover the book jacket with my hands as I read it on the New York City subways. I felt embarrassed and thought that other people would judge me and come to an erroneous conclusion that I suffered from low self- esteem. I hind sight I was partially wrong in that equation because the very act of me hiding the book only confirmed that my self-esteem was in need of repair because I was more conce ed about what strangers would think about me.

Because people are not used to permanently eliminating beliefs (processes that are guaranteed to totally and permanently eliminate long-standing beliefs are rare), people aren’t sure what to expect when a belief really is eradicated. Actually, there can be a wide variety of responses. We have had people tell us that they felt their life was transformed, like an oppressive weight had been lifted from their shoulders. They were clear their life would never be the same. Other people aren’t even sure the belief is gone. “I’m not sure” is their reaction.

If you asked someone, “Do things exist?” the response would probably be, “Of course things exist! The world is full of things. Everyone knows that there is physical stuff out there—that reality is tangible and real!” But what allows any thing—a hand, a chair, or any other object—to exist? One way to discover the answer is to imagine a specific thing—say, your hand—expanding and expanding until there is nothing in the universe except the hand. What would happen to it? … Really, just take a moment and try this.

"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." This is one of the most famous opening lines ever written. The author is a man consumed by horror and fascination with families and family life, a man who had 12 children and an intense relationship with his much ...

Confidence really is thrown around the place as something that everyone needs to have and should develop. “Be Confident” is the main piece of advice given to every nervous guy in the world. But confidence is this ethereal, intangible thing that’s so vast it makes it almost impossible to just “be confident”. Despite the well meaning intentions, “be confident” is usually bad advice because the follow up question is always “How do I be confident?” Well, if you

Because I’m in the change business I am frequently telling people that change is really easy if you first eliminate the relevant beliefs. Almost without exception, the response is: “But everyone knows that people resist change!” Don’t you think that people resist change? Don’t you notice that your friends, family and co-workers frequently know what to do and just don’t do it. Of course people resist change. It’s human nature. Maybe. Obviously I don’t agree with this common point of view. People do resist something, but it’s not change.

What parents do and don't do, say and don't say, provide their children with the experiences that their children interpret into beliefs. Those beliefs, in turn, then determine their behavior and emotions and, ultimately, their lives for better or for worse. Most parents at this point respond: "I’ve never thought about my children’s beliefs before. Isn't our job as parents to get our children to do the right thing, to teach them, and to make them happy?" At What Cost? The question we suggest you ask yourself is: At what cost?

Do you find that you're always criticizing and putting yourself down? Do you only see the bad qualities in yourself, never the good? If you answered yes to these questions, then you, like most people, are prone to self-criticism. We can be very judgmental when it comes to our own faults and shortcomings. Constantly thi

Whether we call it a woman’s intuition, mother wit or simply common sense, women definitely have an internal wellspring of wisdom. We have an amazing capacity for insight and awareness. This wisdom is not that which we receive through academic matriculation, but it is intelligence that emits from the heart and spirit of a woman. It is a reflection of the Creator’s omniscience. Just as biological DNA determines our physiological and, to some degree, our psychological make-up, wisdom is a component of the very fiber of a woman.

For Life Coaches: Is Life Coaching No Longer Fun For You? Many life coaches are terribly burned out on life coaching and afraid to admit it! Raise your hand if you’re experiencing this? Yes, you! What started off as a promising career where you thought (and perhaps occasionally did) that you would have tons of fun and that you’d make tons of money, has spiraled into a yucky marketing/networking/etc that didn’t bring you any clients and even unsatisfying sessions with client(s) you once enjoyed. Financially, you’re no better than you were a year ago or 5 years ago!

While some people have boundaries, there are others who don’t have them, and this is going to cause them to experience life differently. However, although one doesn’t have them, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. Instead, they can simply carry on with their life and continue to put up with all the challenges that will arise through not having them. The reason for this is that one is unlikely to realise why they are experiencing life as they are. Normal

Self-esteem is defined as a person’s overall “self-appraisal…their own level of competence, beauty and worth.” Interestingly, self-esteem can involve a person’s belief system, as well as their emotion. Self-esteem can be tied in with a person’s desires and belief-obligations, as well as what they feel is their own level of competence. Emotionally, self-esteem can be affected by feelings of pride and shame as well as joy and despair. You can tell a lot about a person’s self-es

The first thing that you should do is to take a quick step back and appraise your life. For too long you have been looking from the inside out of your life, and you may not be able to spot the mistakes that you have been making, so you need to get yourself out of this perspective and look at the big picture. When you are able to look at the blueprint of your life, then you will be able to see what areas you need to strategise.nnNext, you need to breathe deep and find a space

The best part is that you don't have to be miserable, unhappy, or stuck anymore if you listen to what I did and follow these same steps. How many times do you find yourself in situations - a job, or social group, or a way of life that you have NO business being in or around? This is NOT you! Your voice silenced? Your essence shunned? And your power, dormant? OR perhaps, you're going to the next level, and you're undertaking your biggest risk ever, but you're pressured by th

When one is happy, they can feel the need to share how they feel with others, and this can take place in a number of ways. Perhaps one will be more complimentary than they usually are. It can then be normal for them to say how good someone looks, or they might talk about how they appreciate what they do for them. They may even focus on a certain trait that they have and tell them how important this is. Good Vibes

Coaching can be described as: “Guiding individuals to recognize and value their inner ability to find ways to turn opportunities into successes. Coaching involves determining obstacles that hinder an individual from moving forward and empowering the client to eliminate these difficulties. Coaching aims to provide clarity and direction where there was bewilderment and hesitancy. Coaching is a partnership between client and coach, thus, selecting a coach that fits your individuality is very important.”

(in no particular order ... they are all great!) Who does not need a moment in life to reflect with the Self? I have searched the Internet for the best looking spiritual treats of all denominations, most are very reasonable in price and serve great food in a modest setting. Most are open to ...

You probably already know that The Lefkoe Method can improve your personal life. Did you also know that it can be used to improve your work environment?

Most of us would like to improve our level of confidence. But why? How does a low level of confidence affect us and what changes in our lives when we gain confidence? What is confidence anyway? Where does it come from? Why do some people have more of it than others? As someone who has helped literally thousands of people build more confidence, I think I am qualified to answer these questions. (By the way, I had very little self-confidence for most of my life but now I consistently experience a high level of confidence.) What is confidence?

A low self esteem will make it difficult for you to accept love from anyone else simply because, someone with a low self esteem already finds it difficult to love or appreciate themselves. Someone with a low self esteem does not know how to receive affection from anyone, especially someone they are romantically connected with. There are three main factors that can affect a relationship where one both partners suffer from a low self esteem: Feelings of insecurity Possesiveness Finance Feelings Of Insecurity: Someone who is insecure, has a negative perception of who the

Some say "Seeing is believing". The question is, does the accuracy of attentiveness influence perception? In this Conversation with V! you'll receive 8 vision enhancers to sharpen your awareness for greater life abundance. Do You See What I See... Have you ever wanted to have a full blown pity party? You know…in those moments when no matter how hard you try, things are just not going your way. In the times when it seems like you are channeling “Badluck Schleprock” (a character from one of the Flintstone cartoon series), a pity party may seem quite apropos.

Don’t believe you can be successful. Don’t set a goal. Don’t be grateful for what you have right now. Don’t visualise and imagine the life you want. Don’t be happy. Don’t have focus and clarity. Don’t have belief and confidence in yourself and your power within. Don’t take responsibility for your life. Don’t celebrate your success And above all Don’t think of a pink elephant! And what are you now thinking of? A pink elephant!

What makes you, you? Think about that for a moment... There's probably a bunch of characteristics that come to your mind. Sometimes, the most basic of traits we overlook. For example, did you think about your gender, your ethnicity, or your age? We tend not to describe ourselves with these attributes because we don't want other people to judge our character or our personality based on these attributes. And, these are attributes that we may not have any control over -- we cann

“Change is difficult, everyone knows that!” This is the response I frequently get when people ask me what I do and I reply that I can help them make fundamental life changes, easily, quickly and permanently. Why do so many people believe that they have to put in a lot of time and effort, and need a lot of reinforcement, in order to produce a lasting change in their life?

When it comes to people who are successful and those who are not, there are often a number of differences in how the behave. Some of these differences might stand out straight away, while others could take some time to appear. Clarity One thing that successful people often have in common is that they are clear about what they want out of life. Through being this way, it will allow them to do what they need to do to make progress.

If you've ever struggled with low self esteem then you know how difficult it is to overcome it by yourself. Sometimes you just need a little help. Once you begin the process of feeling better about yourself it becomes an ongoing endeavor. You must continually involve yourself in activities that build your self love and self acceptance to keep your self esteem high. Sound too hard or complicated? Trust me, it's not really once you get started.

School bullies have been all over the media lately. It’s a sad truth for today’s youth. Equally unfortunate is the truth that most adults are privy to... bullies exist in healthy numbers well beyond the high school years. Below are some thoughts on dealing with bullies from an energetic standpoint. rn rnThe Adult BullyrnHave you ever had to face an adult bully head on? The tactics of the bully (before they are seen clearly) can be so subtle, manipulative and confusing…

There are some people who say ‘yes’ from time to time, and then there are others who more or less always say it. One way of looking at this would be to say that the people who fall into the second group are going to be in a better position. This is because they can be seen as people who embrace life, and this is then going to make their life more enjoyable. However, when this doesnt take place, they can be seen as people who sit on the sidelines, so to speak. One Option

If one has a problem with their car, it can be normal for someone to ask them what is wrong with it. Through asking this question, they might be able to fix the problem for them, or they could tell them to go to a garage and get it fixed. However, even if they were to fix their car, they are unlikely to do this before they find out what is wrong with it. And as there are all kinds of things that can go wrong with a car, this is going to be the right approach to have. One Reason

There are a number of ways in which someone can see themselves, and while some of these ways are empowering there are others that are not. For example, if one was to see themselves as someone who is successful, it is likely to have a positive effect on their life. However, if they were to see themselves as someone who is not successful, it is likely to have a negative effect. Still, if one was saw themselves in this way and then started to change their life, it could be said that they are simply facing reality. The First Step

Getting Through Low Self-Esteem Days We've all been there. Days when you wish you didn't have to get out of bed because you're "just not feeling it". I had one of those days recently, and to add insult to injury I turned on the Channel 4 morning news and was emotionally assaulted by a morning weather girl who's perky perfectness made me immediately turn the channel in disgust to the Food Network so I could be soothed by gorgeously robust Paula Dean. In honor of these oh so wonderful days, I've come up with a few tips to get through and come out unscathed:

The phenomenon of unrequited love in the lives of infps, an MBTI introverted personality type (you know who you are) -- is so common maybe that's why it's gone without remarking. It remains part of the heartache and secret anguish of many infps. I suggest reading or rereading Hans Christian ...

At one point during a game, the coach said to one of his youngnplayers, "Do you understand what cooperation is? What a team is?" Thenlittle boy nodded yes.nn"Do you understand that what matters is whether we win together as anteam?" The little boy nodded yes.nn"So," the coach continued, "when a strike is called, or you are out atnfirst, you don't argue or curse or attack the umpire. Do younunderstand all that?" Again, the boy nodded yes.nn"Good," said the coach. "Now go over

Although one can have the need to live their own life, it doesn’t mean that this is what takes place. Instead, one can find that they have the tendency to get caught up in what is taking place around them. As a result of this, it is going to be normal for them to ignore their own feelings and needs. Naturally, this is going to cause them to experience a lot of pain and they could even end up feeling like a victim. A Bystander

Wing Therapy™ with B.B. Berg A few months ago, being out of work, out of money and feeling lost and without a purpose, I started a prayer campaign to find a job. I prayed with this in mind: Work that would have 3 factors:* 1. Beauty (that I would love this work) 2. Benefit (that it would reward me financially) 3. Good (that it would help others and create value in this world) From this prayer I had a sort of epiphany; a guiding light that awakened in me an idea to teach and sell Isis Wings and to call it Wing Therapy™.r

“Amazing!! You must do it in Hebrew and Arabic!!! It will change the condition in all the Middle East.” This is one of my favorite comments written on my blog. It’s from Yair, someone in Israel who wrote it after using our free belief-elimination process. Yair obviously saw how the principles of the Lefkoe Belief Process could be useful in resolving the Middle East (or any other) conflict. For years I’ve wanted the opportunity to help in that situation by using a variation of the Lefkoe Belief Process. Here’s what I’d do.

It is important to have self-respect if you want to love yourself fully and completely. Having self-respect gives you the ability to love yourself for the real person you are on the inside, and not just for your looks or what you do for a living, or what you are able to do. When you have the ability to be proud of you who are, and believe that you have value as a human being, then you have self-respect.

“……. When man is strong enough to truly look at himself objectively, he will find it happened when he was totally involved in service to others. This is when we remember and the question is answered of who and what we are. Then and only then, can we see clearly and know Great Spirit. This is when we are so focused to the sacred altar of our “being” that we are not in processes or fault finding within, or pointing outside to other people and things to heal our unhapp

A common relationship problem in today’s world and one that has been around for many years is control. The form that this behaviour takes may have changed over the ages, but the results are still the same. What is also clear to see is that both men and women can be controlling. However, here we will primarily look at the dynamics of controlling men. And when it is appropriate or needed, I will look at the role that women are playing in all of this.

Question: I have very low self esteem which makes it hard to meet guys. How do I gain enough confidence in myself to overcome this issue. Sherri's Answer: I have worked with all types of people, and I can assure you that even models and C.E.O's have some type of insecurity, oftentimes low self esteem. Indeed, you should take heart in knowing that nearly everyone has something that they are insecure about; it is part of the human condition. Things change throughout a lifetime,

If someone has a lot going on internally and they are finding it hard to settle down, it could be said that it will be a good idea for them to do something about it. As if they were to simply put up with what is taking place, they will end up suffering unnecessarily. The Logical Approach Yet, while one could make a decision to do something about what is taking place within them, they could just as easily ignore it. What is taking place could not only be a mystery to other people, it could also be a mystery to themselves.

I've had some pretty bad habits in my day. But thank the good Lord I was able to overcome then. I was able to change every single one of them. Which made me a more disciplined and self-controlled person. I never knew it at the time but I used pretty much the same 3 steps to change every bad habit I had. And I want to share them with you today.

No matter what area of life one looks at, there will be examples of abuse. And this can be abuse that is easy to spot and abuse that is more subtle in nature. There are some things that stand out more than others, but this doesn’t mean that what is not seen or recognised as abuse is any less severe. This can relate to: situations in the work place; in personal relationships; behind closed doors in families and this can also include child abuse; between different countries and even the abuse that is directed towards the planet and animals for instance. Generational Abuse

After having interviewed a number of DJ’s and producers, I thought that it would be a good idea to interview someone from another profession. So after hearing about a stuntman from someone I know, I thought that it would be great to interview him. Through typing his name into Google, I was surprised by the amount of films that he had been in. were not small films, they were Hollywood blockbusters and included many of the films that I have enjoyed watching. Which include: Captain America, Thor, Skyfall and The Clash Of The Titans. Biography

When it comes to intimacy, it could be said that there are at least three types of people. There can the ones who want to experience it, the ones who do experience it and the ones who do everything they can do avoid it. And whether one has fulfilling relationships can all depend on which one of these they can relate to. But regardless of what their relationships are like, there is the chance that this is how they have experienced life for quite some time. A Deeper Connection

“There is no excess to love” Ralph Emerson Getting regular exercise is important to our physical and psychological well being. Even though it had been a while since I last exercised, in my desire and determination to continue achieving my fitness goals, I recently started to work out again. I actually love exercising. I like to perspire. I love the feeling of calories being released from my body through my sweat glands.

We always create a meaning for the events we confront; that meaning then becomes how the events occur for us. We then think how events occur for us is an accurate description of reality. It is not. It is merely the meaning we have placed over reality. It is the filter through which we view reality and it determines how we actually experience reality. For example, imagine you get fired from a job. That event either can occur for you as a terrible catastrophe or as an amazing opportunity.

There is a quote by Carl Jung that says “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” So based on this quote, it would be right to say that one’s true nature exists within and is not found without. To look within would then be the appropriate way of going about finding oneself. However although this may be so, it is something that is not the easiest thing to do. If one lived in a place where there were not as many distractions; on a small island for example - this would be relatively simply.

When someone talks about what is taking place in their life, it can be due to a number of reasons. Perhaps they just want to let other people know about what has been going on for them. This can then be seen as a normal part of life and what happens in human relationships. As if this didn’t occur, it would be a lot harder for people to connect to each other; in fact, this might stop this from happening. Both Ways

There are a couple of different meanings for “metaphysics” in Dictionary.com: • The “branch of philosophy that examines the nature of reality, including the relationship between mind and matter, substance and attribute, fact and value”. • The “theoretical or first principles of a particular ...

7 human emotions that will cause you to love yourself more deeply and completely which will result in a better quality of life Listen to me, learning to love yourself more will have an enormously positive effect on all areas of your life. When you love yourself, you'll be less tempted to overeat or to spend way beyond your means. You'll be less likely to get into an intimate relationship with someone who mentally, verbally or physically abuses you.

Carefully examining a display in the drugstore, a man asked thenpharmacist, "Do you really guarantee this hair-restorer?"nnThe pharmacist responded, "Better than that, sir. We give a comb withnevery bottle." Wouldn't you love to have that kind of confidence?nnOne man quipped, "When it comes to believing in myself, I'm annagnostic." One of the greatest problems many people experience is lacknof confidence. Some don't believe in their ability to speak in public,nothers are afra

Many years ago I was so shy I couldn’t enter a restaurant, let alone speak to a pretty girl. My stomach chu ed, my face became hot, my hands damp, my voice squeaky.

Thousands of articles have addressed the topic of how to boost self confidence, but with the volumes of information currently available it can be difficult sorting the fact from the fiction. Self confidence is not something you can buy, but it is something that can be achieved with the right strategy. Here we will discuss three such strategies you can begin implementing today to help boost your self confidence and shine in any situation. 1.

If you see yourself lacking the necessary confidence to make sufficient strides in life, then proven and effective confidence tricks will definitely do you some good. Confidence is a very important part of a person's character but not everyone has it. Most of the time, people who fail are those who don't believe in themselves, those who lack confidence and self-esteem. Little do they know but greatness may already be at the tip of their fingers if only they did not let a lack

You can Be Happier in just 2 minutes a day! Here’s how it works: • 1 minute in the morning to acknowledge three things you’re grateful for • 1 minute in the evening to recall three triumphs of your day And if you add in 10-15 minutes on the weekend to review your week, acknowledge what went well and prepare for the next week, you’ll be on your way to feeling happier, more energized, and ready to allow more success in your life! You might think “I’ve got all these other things to do, is taking just 2 min a day really going to make a difference?”

If one was to find people who are still at school and to ask them what they want out of life, a number of them may say that they want to be happy. And even if someone as to say that they want to do well in a certain career, it could still be because this can be seen as something that will lead to the same outcome. The Same Answer Along with this, one is also likely to find that people who are lot older have the same desire. If this is not the case, it can be a sign that they are already happy, and this is then not going to be something they desire.

When it comes to communicating and connecting with others it is rarely what one says that is important. This means that the words that are used are only a very small part of the equation. How something is said will make a bigger difference than what is said. But this is not the focus of this article; the point is to look at another aspect and one that shapes how someone will feel once a conversation has come to an end. The Quote

When something works, there is generally going to be no reason for someone to take a closer look at it. One example of this is that when one has a car that works, they won’t need to take a look under the bonnet, for instance. Yet, this would change if their car was to no longer run as it used to, and it would then be necessary for them to head down to a garage. Or, if they can’t start their car, they may need to have it picked up. Relationships

While someone can only focus on their own needs, they can also focus on other people’s needs. But although there is another way to experience life, these are often seen as the only options that are available. Outlook If one only focuses on their own needs, it can be normal for people to describe them as being selfish or self-centred, for instance. They are then not going to be seen as an example of how someone should behave on this planet.

In a few weeks, we in the United States will be celebrating Thanksgiving. Are you thankful? Or do you find yourself constantly disappointed with life? Could it possibly be that the problem is not your life but rather your perspective? This month, I invite you to take some time and reflect on the gifts that are already in your life. A few years ago, Sarah Ban Breathnach wrote a book entitled Simple Abundance and suggested that each night the reader write 3 things that they are grateful for. What would happen if you ended your day in this way?

In order to make this blog post personally valuable to you, I'd like to start by asking you a couple of questions. First, whatever sport you play, how often do you play up to your potential, in other words, if you rate your best performance a 10, how often do you play at a 10? ... The next questio I'd like you to answer is: If you can play at a 10 sometimes, why can't you do it more frequently? You obviously have the physical skills and ability or you wouldn't have been able to do it that one time.

There are all kinds of things that one can do whilst they are on this planet, and while some things are frowned upon by society, there are other things that are encouraged. For example, one can choose to commit crime, but this will typically lead to a negative outcome. It could be said that while one is free to do these things, they are not free from the consequences that are likely to arise. Therefore, one can lose the freedom that they have by behaving in ways that result in other people being harmed. Two Parts

While someone can be in a position where they always find people to criticise, this might only take place from time to time. When it comes to what they can relate to, it could all depend on what mood they are in. As a result of this, the people around them might prefer to keep their distance if they are not in the right mood. At the same time, a number of the people in their life could be just as critical as they are. Birds of a Feather Flock Together

Self confidence is a nothing but a reflection of your beliefs about yourself.rnIf you see yourself as skilled, strong and capable you will feel confident while if you believe that you are worthless, helpless or weak then you will never feel confident. One of the skills that can help you feel stronger and in control is assertiveness. Assertiveness is a way for asking for your rights without being neither passive nor aggressive. If you kept acting in an assertive way your subco

When someone’s relationship comes to an end, they can have to the need to carry on with their life. There is then going to be no reason for them to spend time talking about the person they were with. The Reason If this is because it ended badly, it will be normal for them to want to put the past behind them. And if they were to spend time talking about the other person, it would have a negative effect on their well-being.

While someone might have the desire to speak their mind, it doesn’t mean that they will end up doing so. If one was to take a step back and to reflect on why this is, they could find that it’s because they don’t want to lose other peoples approval. Fitting In Their priority is then going to be to go along to get along, and their truth will end up being overlooked. It will then be normal for one to lose themselves in the hope that other people will respond to them in a positive manner.

In the past week, the fashion industry and its promoter, women’s magazines, have yet again sold girls and women down the river. First, Marie Claire’s Austrlian division took the spotlight with its February cover that refrains from using photo shopping with its nude photo of former Miss Universe 2004, model Jennifer Hawkins. Then the New York Times reported “The Triumph of the Size 12s,” a story about “plus size model” Crystal Renn.

I thought this would be an animal story. On his 59th birthday, Roy Horn of Siegfried & Roy was mauled by his seven year old 600 lb. white tiger, Montecore, in front of a sellout crowd at the Mirage where the show has been playing since 1990. Roy Horn is having his second Satu Return, which ...

When we look out on the horizon, the point where land and sky meet-how do we know there is something beyond what we are seeing? How do we know that it does not stop there? We just know. We understand that what we are seeing is an illusion.

There are some people who believe that the whole world is against them, while there are others who have a slightly different outlook. When it comes to the latter, someone will have at least one area of their life where they feel powerless. However, if another area of their life started to falter, they could end up coming to the conclusion that the whole world is against them. How they feel is then going to depend on what is taking place around them. A Way of Life

Going through a divorce can leave you feeling unhappy or disconnected with yourself, even hopeless sometimes. How to raise self esteem after a divorce may not have even crossed your mind yet. But the main area of your life that is affected is your self esteem. Because self esteem is how you see yourself. Even though a divorce is between two people, each person’s perception can be totally different. One may look at a divorce as a powerful self accomplishment. But one may also look at it as a complete personal failure. Shameful almost.

To be acknowledged, mirrored and validated are psychological needs that we all have. This is a perfectly normal and natural part of being human and something that is vital for mental and emotionally stability. And like most things in life, there can be extremes and when this healthy requirement is taken to the extreme; it can lead to dysfunctional behaviour. This could be a person who is constantly seeking attention from any one that will give it or it could be someone who seeks attention during certain times in their life. My Opinion

If one wants to take it easy, they could decide to go and see a film or to watch one at home. This could also be something that they will do if they have some free time, with this being seen as a good way to spend it. Education Alte atively, they might have the desire to find out about something that took place in the past. Perhaps they are studying history and need to find out about what occurred during a certain period of time.

Why Do Visualization Exercises Produce Results? Have you ever found yourself crying while watching a sad movie, you know it is not real, but the impression your brain is receiving is real and it produces tears. WHY? Fact: Research has shown that the same neuro-pathways in the brain are ...

The desire to feel attractive is normal and something that the majority of people want to experience. Here, one can then feel a sense of healthy control when it comes to attracting the kind of man or woman that they desire. And this is also likely to lead to one feeling accepted and approved of by certain people. So this means that one's wellbeing can be assisted through this taking place.

Do you struggle with low self confidence? Fret no more, because I will be talking about how to build your confidence in your everyday life. So this does not just apply to you being confident at your work place but also in your social life, and whatever circumstance it may be that requires you to be confident. Keep reading and I hope you will learn something new through the points that I will be mentioning here. Just Do It For a start, in order to build your confidence, you

It is not uncommon to hear people talk about how bad Donald Trump is, and they could have a number of different reasons as to why they have come to this conclusion. In fact, they might not even feel the need to go into why they have this outlook. It’s Obvious As far as they are conce ed, it could be something that is perfectly clear; one could then find it strange if someone has a different perspective. The evidence is there, and if someone can’t see this, they must have something wrong with them

The first time I really allowed myself to experience my anger I fainted. I was about 36 and had successfully suppressed my anger since childhood. And there I was in a group therapy session, hitting a mat with a stick with foam wrapped around it, screaming: “Mom, I’m really angry at you.” When I started the exercise I was only mouthing empty words, but then at some point the words became real and the anger surfaced. It terrified me so much that I literally passed out on the mat.

If someone has a problem with their car, there is a strong chance that they will end up taking it to a garage. And this is likely to take place without one spending a lot of time thinking about whether this is the right decision or not. No Pressure This is because one won’t be doing anything that is seen as being abnormal; anyone in their right mind would do the same thing. One may have already spoken to a few people they know and they would probably tell them to go there as soon as they can.

From his new book,n“Restore Your Magnificence: A Life-Changing Guide to Reclaiming Your Self-Esteem”n The key to reversing the process of self-doubt lies in creating empowering interpretations about what others say or do rather than interpretations that berate us and fuel feelings of ...

When it comes to feelings, there can often be a disparity between how one feels and how something actually is. And feeling invisible is the perfect example of this. Part of being human is to have a physical body and yet at an emotional level, one can feel that this is not the case. One can feel that they are invisible to others and to the world. And regardless of their physical impact on life, the experience of not being noticed exists. For the person who does feel visible and takes it for granted; being invisible will be hard to comprehend and may even be dismissed and minimized.

I was thinking the other night while I was getting to sleep, how being on one of those flat elevators at the airport is a great metaphor for describing how friends come and go in our life. While we are on them some people stay at the same speed as us, going only as fast as the elevator takes them, others might stay at our speed momentarily and then move and others are in such a rush to get forward as fast as is possible for them.

Masturbation, coupled with hypnosis, can give women more than just physical pleasure. Sheila, Catherine and Nathalie [pseudonyms] are three female clients of mine who recently discovered that self-pleasuring when enhanced with hypnosis can yield: - Increased self-acceptance - Increased self-confidence - Lowered anxiety - Feelings of self-worth - Enhanced relationships

I’ve never really made it a point to set aside time at the end of the year to reflect on the year that was, I’ve always been more excited to bet thinking of the year head & setting new goals. But I’ve realised that in spending some time reflecting on certain experiences & expressing my gratitude for things that have happened, I am better prepared to know how to set my goals for the year ahead, and most importantly the key steps to take in achieving them. Because we all know the saying “If nothing changes, nothing changes”, right? Well it’s true.

In the past, one would have watched TV, listened to the radio or read a paper if they wanted to find out what was taking place in the world. Nowadays, this is no longer necessary, and this is because they can simply go online. And, providing they have a Smartphone, they can do this no matter where they are or what they are doing. Therefore, it is far easier for one to stay up to date with what is taking place in the world. No Excuses

In today’s world fame is not merely seen as a by-product or as a consequence of achieving something; fame is pursued directly and as a goal in and of itself. With there being numerous examples of people who place fame as the ultimate achievement in life and above anything else; it might seem that fame is what one is on this planet to attain. In the past one typically became famous through what they had given to the world. And although this might have not always been something that benefited humanity, it was usually something significant.

Most people have heard of the saying ‘don’t judge a book by its cover’ and yet this is generally what happens. We see that someone is wearing a certain item of clothing, looks or acts a certain way and a judgement is made. This judgment is automatic and is a consequence of the unconscious mind. And how one came to such a conclusion is often unknown, as a result of this process happening so quickly.

Self-confidence is definitely a trait worth cultivating at work. Self-confidence helps you to project an aura of confidence that makes others trust in your abilities to complete a job successfully. However, many people are not fully secure about their abilities around their job. Here’s a secret – the self-confident people often aren’t either! The difference is that they pretend that they can do something, even if they are not sure how when they start out, knowing that 9

If someone was to stay up to date with what is taking place in the mainstream media, they may have come to see that it is not uncommon to hear about people who have been offended by one thing or another. This may cause them to wonder why people have become so sensitive in today’s world. At the same time, they may have the tendency to identify with the people who are offended by something or someone. Therefore, when they read about something like this in a paper or online, they could end up getting angry. A Victim

Until recently, IQ tests were considered the Holy Grail for predicting career success. But the traditional definition of intelligence is just too narrow to reflect all of the ways we think, learn and express our talents and skills. It’s inaccurate to state that mastering science is more valuable than social skills. So for IQ to be relevant today, it must give equal weight to all types of mental qualities. In the broadest sense, genius is simply an unusually high degree of insight and mastery in any area.

If one was to go online and to look for information on the women’s movement, they are likely to come across all kinds of views and opinions. In fact, this could also take place if one was to simply find people who were part of this movement in their local area. University For example, if one is a student, there is a strong chance that there will be a society that they can go and visit. This will give them the chance to listen to what women (and men) have to say when it comes to their views and experiences.

While someone can be there for others from time to time, this can also be something that consumes their whole life. It is then not going to matter what is taking place in their life, as they will be only too happy to put it to one side. Self-Neglect Due to this, it can be normal for one to ignore their own needs and feelings and to be there for others instead. One can then be in a position where they will rarely achieve anything, or they might able to achieve things when they are not there for others.

Have you ever had a great idea, but you stopped before you even started? Maybe you thought you weren’t good enough, or that it was never going to work out, or that you didn’t have the means to do it, or you feared that everybody would think you were crazy? Or you wished you were braver? The problem is that if we procrastinate, ignore, or stop the flow of our divine guidance long enough, eventually our creativity dries up. Last week a client told me that she feared she’d

Those who this is written for, will recognise it ;) It's like being in a room where you feel trapped, and you can see a window, and you're sure you could get through it, but it has bars on it. So you try and bend the bars but they won't budge.

In psychology, the term self-esteem is used to describe a person’s overall sense of self-worth and personal value. When you have high self-esteem, you feel really good about yourself, including being madly in love with who you are! “Self-esteem is theinte al experienceof one’s own preciousness.” ~ Pia Melody

There are currently four existing ways people perceive and process their information, and they are: visual, auditory, auditory digital and kinesthetic. During the whole process, the listeners process information via senses and intuition but they utilize all four ways at different times. All the listeners tend to focus on one of the four ways stated above more than the other three ways. Visual: Individuals who focus on this way, process the information by visualizing images.

When I first started learning NLP, I had a client who wanted to increase his self-confidence. So I worked with him using some of the NLP strategies such as modeling and positive affirmations. In this article I’ll be sharing how this was effective and, most important, where I believe that the strategy was completely ineffective for the client and I compared to the VDT principles which I’m exclusively using today to help people develop unshakable self-confidence. If you’re inte

Controlling behaviour is surely one of the more common ‘negative’ behaviours in the world today. And if one was to reflect upon human history they would find that this kind of behaviour is neither new nor different to the behaviour of the past. The severity of this behaviour varies - from what might be portrayed on the news; to something that might go unnoticed in our individual lives. What is controlling behaviour?

Shyness isn't the same thing as just being a quiet person. A quiet person only speaks when they know they have something they want to contribute to the situation. People who are shy, however, desperately want to speak, but doesn't due to cripppling anxiety. Even if you think you'll never overcome shyness, you can show yourself ways on how to stop being shy. The changes won't be instant, to be sure, but your confidence will increase over time. When you overcome shyness, you wo

A big part of being intimate involves being able to share ones reality with another person. Here, one will share what they are feeling, thinking and sensing. And while this may sound clear enough to understand, it is not always the easiest thing to do in a relationship. One of the primary reasons for this is due to one not feeling safe enough to do so.