How to Overcome Anger and Irritability
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It has been said (and sang, of course) that we live in a material world and the nature of this world constantly requires us to look for ways of overcoming anger and irritability. This world is a place of “he said/ she said”, and everyone is always on the defensive, ready to protect themselves against some outward force that would bring darkness on their inner world. All this defensiveness causes you to become angry and irritable, and people take it out on each other. Anger and irritability are both contradictory emotions, and no one wants to be around people who exude such emotions. However, think about this for a moment: Could we truly know what it means to be happy and enjoy each other’s company if we did not also know what it means to be angry with someone?
Life in a World of Opposites
The world we live in is a world of duality. We need two opposing forces, however, to make things work. Electricity requires both a positive and a negative charge. Magnetism requires one force that pushes away and another that pulls in. Life on Earth simply does not work without two opposing forces that attract one another. Overcoming anger and irritability requires you to have an understanding of this fact and to realize how it applies to every aspect of your life. This, in its very essence, is The Principle of the Opposite Action® ( from "Awaken to the Source of Wealth in You™: 117 Secrets to Reconnect to Your Divine Power by Diana Demar").
The Principle of the Opposite Action® calls for you to wield the power of the positive and negative poles that exist in this world by connecting the world’s negativity with your own natural positive energy. Everyone is made of that positive energy, but sometimes you allow that energy to turn negative when you encounter situations or people that challenge you on a very basic level. The key to overcoming anger and irritability lies inside you. It depends solely on how you react to the situations that make you angry. You can choose to spread that poisonous energy by reacting the same way in an already destructive situation, or you can choose to create light in an otherwise dark world by connecting the negative energy in the world with your own positive energy.
You Are The Source of Positive Energy
The material world we live in is charged with negative energy-angry people running around in circles lost, confused, depressed, full of anxiety trying to figure out where the next paycheck is coming from and the list can go on and on. However, when the world’s negative energy meets with more negative energy emanating from you, things begin to crash. What happens when you put two of the same sides of a magnet together? Placing two of the negative poles together causes them to push away from each other. In the same way, when you push negative energy out into a situation that is inherently negative, you will find yourself pushing away from each other and from the world. Instead of drawing in closer to make the world brighter, you are pushing away violently, severing the connection between the material world and your soul.
When that connection is severed catastrophe envelops you because your whole world becomes chaotic. Just as everything has opposites so the material world has an opposite: the immaterial world. One must have a strong connection with both, the material, and the immaterial world for the balance of body, mind, and soul. On the other hand, when you respond to a negative situation with a positive reaction then you are drawn in closer to that natural balance that is always present.
Utilize The Principle of the Opposite Action®
Using The Principle of the Opposite Action® is as simple as doing the opposite of what you do not feel like doing, but you know it’s best for you. Become aware of the fact that your mind, especially the ego, tends to confuse and play tricks with you. It can become your 24/7 enemy, constantly working against you. Remember, The Principle of the Opposite Action® works only within certain boundaries and in-tune with the simple Principles of our perfect Universe, such as the Principle of Cause and Effect©, the Principle of Selective Desire©, the Principle of Restriction© (from “Awaken to the Source of Wealth in You™”--http://www.DianaDemarSuccess.com), and so on. When someone slaps you across the face, what do you immediately have the impulse to do? Probably slap them right back. However, if you stop to take the time, restrict your immediate reaction and trade it for the opposite action, you begin to connect your positive energy with the negative world.
The next time something that you may perceive “as bad” happens to you, pause for a moment before you allow your reaction to come out. Think about what your immediate impulse is, and do the opposite. You’ll be amazed at the light that you can create in this otherwise dark world.
© by Diana Demar (Excerpted from Diana Demar's Book "Awaken to the Source of Wealth in You™: Reconnect to Your Personal Power to Achieve Ultimate Success")
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About the Author
Diane T. Demmar is an American Entrepreneur--best-selling author, founder of The Source of Wealth in You™ business book series, a speaker, Certified Professional Coach (CPC)/Consultant, actress, and singer-songwriter. She spent her teenage years in New York and living abroad with her father, an accomplished jazz musician. After graduating medical college as a Physician Assistant (PA), Demmar embarked on a journey of exploration--working as a model and actress in New York, and Los Angeles. Diana Demar is a member of the Screen Actors Guild (SAG) who appeared in two feature films – 'Follow Me Outside' and 'Teknolust,' and among other accomplishments as a singer-songwriter has recorded two CD’s – 'Diana' and 'Gypsy Girl.' Demar’s first book from the book series, ‘Awaken to The Source of Wealth in You™’, reveals how to achieve personal transformation as a prerequisite to business success. Diana Demar's latest achievements include 'Cracking the Success Code', a book co-written with the legendary Brian Tracy, available on www.DianaDemarSuccess.com
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