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***Catch Yourself in the Act of Making Excuses - No More Excuses

Topic: Anger ManagementBy Larry CranePublished Recently added

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Most people ruin their lives by making excuses all the time. And, they don't see they're doing it. Making excuses is coming from a very weak place. Making excuses is weakness. This article shows that making excuses is harmful. Decide to not make excuses anymore and you're empowered. You're coming from the high energy of courageousness.

A young man once said, "In the game of life, you should always have a few good excuses ready. He was taking a crack at humor but he also was making a point.
Most of us got the idea that excuses are a good idea. We got the idea that we should protect ourselves with excuses, that we should always have a few good excuses ready. We use excuses to help us get out of doing what we don't want to do. Instead of merely saying we don't want to do it, we make an excuse. We don't want to go to that party so we make an excuse and get out of it.

We escape from life with our barrelful of excuses.

We use excuses to justify our behavior. We yell at someone. We make an excuse, and feel like what we did or said is okay. We fly off the handle. "She made me do it." "Did you hear what she said to me?" We make an excuse, and inexcusable behavior ---so our thinking goes---becomes excusable.

Many of us think excuses allow us to do whatever we want to do. "I can do it and then, I'll just make an excuse about what I did or said, and everything is all right.

Excuses are playing helpless victim. Excuses are ducking responsibility. They did it to me is the lie that the ego tells us.

Excuses from fear are life breakers. "I don't want to do that. I could get hurt." "I dare not take a risk. I could get hurt." "I would try it, but I'm afraid it might not work." "I could lose everything."

Excuses from fear stop a man or woman dead in their tracks. Excuses from fear prevent a person from having, doing, being. Excuses from fear are choosing failure over success. "I can't do it. They might yell at me." "They might get mad at me." "They might hurt my feelings." "They might take away everything I have." "They might steal my money." All those excuses are protecting oneself with fear.
Excuses are a form of explaining yourself. You do not have to explain yourself. You never have to explain yourself to anyone, anytime, about anything. Break the habit of explaining yourself and you're on the road to breaking the habit of excuses.

Catch yourself in the lie of making an excuse. Stop yourself in your tracks.
Like the young man said, it's good to have a few excuses ready. That's what our ego mind wants us to believe.

Make a decision to live a life without excuses and live in peace and harmony with yourself. And in doing so, you will live in peace and harmony with all other people and all other beings.

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Larry Crane has been teaching The Release® Technique to executives of Fortune 500 companies for years. He has personally trained businessmen, psychiatrists, psychologists, sports and entertainment celebrities, sales people, managers and housewives in the art of letting go of problems, emotions, stress and subconscious blocks that are holding people back from having total abundance and joy in their lives. The Release Technique has been taught to over 100,000 graduates worldwide. The Abundance Course IS the Release Technique, the original Release Technique Method as taught by Lester Levenson. Additional Resources covering Abundance can be found at: Website Directory for Abundance Articles on Abundance Products for Abundance Discussion Board Larry Crane, the Official Guide To Abundance

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