CHEATING: How to Deal With Infidelity?

Are you married or in a relationship and suspect your mate of infidelity? Are your suspicions and accusatory behavior tearing your relationship apart? First, let us identify 20 signs of a cheating mate:

1. Your mate no longer wants sex or makes excuses to not have sex with you.

2. You just have a gut feeling that something is not right. But, do not be obsessive about it as you can actually drive them to cheat.

3. They begin to put distance between you or show a lack of interest in the things you used to do together.

4. Your unfaithful spouse is indifferent to family events like birthdays and holidays.

5. They make sure they carry their cell phone with them everywhere they go in the house and even have it password protected.

6. Your cheating partner has unexplained scratches or bruises on their neck or back.

7. When they suddenly begin to treat you extremely nice; more so than usual.

8. "I need some space to figure things out." Is what they tell you.

9. They begin to find fault in everything you do in an attempt to justify their affair.

10. You find items that you did not give your spouse and normally they do not purchase things for themselves.

11. They begin to spruce up their wardrobe (clothing and sexy underwear) and start to pay more attention to their appearance. (joining the gym, using fade cream for marks on body, etc.)

12. The cheater sets up a separate cell phone account that is billed to their office.

13. Taking hours to shop at the grocery store or bank.

14. They pick fights or find reasons to fight only to storm out of the house and away from you.

15. They are ALWAYS on the internet late at night, especially after you have gone to bed.

16. Your partner stops confiding in you and seeking advice from you when you are normally the first person they would call.

17. Your mate carries condoms, and you do not use them or are on the pill.

18. You find strange phone numbers in their phone or car.

19. Out of guilt, your partner may accuse you of stepping out on them.

20. Your unfaithful partner gets mysterious phone calls and leaves the room to talk.

There are plenty more signs, but you get my drift.

Okay, so the signs are there what is next? If you are serious about getting the answers you need, if you are serious about putting an end to the fears and doubts that are plaguing your relationship, it is time you took control.

My first question to you is; do you REALLY want to know if your partner is cheating on you? Are you ready to DEAL with the truth? If you are not ready to deal with the truth, then don't bother snooping through the telephone bills or anything else. Why get yourself worked up only to stay where you are and not move on. However, if you are ready to know and are ready to take the necessary steps to move on after you find out; then it is time for you to do your research and find proof.

After you have found proof catching the cheater, now is the time for you to decide whether it was enough to make you alter your life forever. Do you stay or do you go? Do you break up, move out, or get a divorce? It is all up to you! Figure out the end result you want and start putting the pieces back together.