Christian Marriage Help: How to Face Your Fears

This Christian marriage help will show you how to face your fears in your difficult marriage. Fear is a natural response. It is a God-given basic survival mechanism to protect by enabling a person to heighten senses and attend to what is threatening by either fighting or fleeing. Some people "freeze" when they feel fearful and find themselves unable to do anything in response to the danger. It is the "freeze" that keeps you from facing your fears.

It is reasonable to have fears in a difficult marriage because there are many problems that present a danger. Here are some of the common fears men and women have in difficult marriages:

• Fear of your spouse's reaction.
• Fear of change.
• Loss - financial, material, and relational.
• Divorce.
• Being alone.
• Being out of God's will.
• Problems with children.
• Regret.
• Unknown.
• Staying the same.
• Having "it" happen again.

How do you deal with fear?

• Identify the source of the fear.
• Evaluate your fears and how they affect your decisions and life.
• Talk to God and others about the fear.
• Evaluate your possible responses to the problem.
• Choose what you should do.
• Get the courage to do it.
• Trust God with the outcome.

First Timothy 1:7 says, "God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline" (NIV). Don't let fear hold you back from doing what you know you should do; instead, let fear be a warning sign that helps you to attend to the real issues. This Christian marriage help has shown you how to face your fears in your difficult marriage rather than letting your fears hold you back.