Dating Tips on Conversation

Conversation is probably the most important part of your dating experience. Sure, looking your best and having a good attitude matter, but most of your time together will in some way be spend in conversation. Following are a few tips to make your conversations more interesting, comfortable, and enjoyable. • Have a good balance of talking and listening. If you tend to be talkative, remember to ask more questions and take time to listen to your date. If you tend to be on the quieter side, elaborating more on things can help you get in the flow of conversation. • Be comfortable with times of silence. It is okay if there are moments when no one is talking. You do not need to try to force conversation. Let these be moments to simply be and allow new thoughts to flow naturally. • If you feel stuck on what to talk about remember that familiar things such as hobbies, music, sports, pets, family and current events are great conversation starters. They are also a good way to discover common interests. • Accentuate your positive qualities. Do not put yourself down. This only shows a lack of confidence and self-esteem. You have strengths that you can be confident in. Let them shine through. It is not necessary to brag or show-off. Arrogance is not very appealing and attractive. Confidence and humility are. As you get to know each other, remember that the best way to impress your date is to be yourself. If you are okay with who you are, others will be too. You do not need to prove yourself, just be yourself! It is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. ~Samuel Butler There is only one happiness in life: to love and be loved. ~George Sand I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for that part of me you bring out. -~Roy Croft Copyright © 2012 NewDayCounseling.org written by Krystal Kuehn