Dear Dr. Romance: 2 days later, he tells me he's working it out with his ex
Written by Tina B. Tessina
Dear Dr. Romance:
I met someone from online and we talked for a night and we met that night and one thing led to another and as it turns out he wanted to see me again.2 days later he tells me that hes trying to work this out with his ex wife. How do I not go into that situation? This is the second time it's
happened to me. I've never been married and I just got out out of a violent relationship so I don't know
what to do?
Dear Reader:
You are going way too fast. You need to be very cautious, because you don't know how to tell the difference between an honest guy, an abusive guy, and a good guy. One thing should NOT lead to another, until you get to know a guy well. Many of the guys online are just looking for sex, and that's not what you want. Wear ratty underwear on the first few dates, to discourage you from taking your clothes off. Don't shave your legs. Do whatever you can to make sure your clothes will stay on your body.
"Where is love?" will give you a better understanding of what love really is. "How to Keep Yourself out of a Violent Relationship" will help you tell the difference between good guys and bad guys. "The Colors of Your" will help you build your self-esteem.
Dr. Romance's Guide to Finding Love Today will tell you how to find a good guy, how to keep yourself safe, and what to look for in a relationship. "Guidelines for Finding and Using Therapy Wisely" will help you find counseling for your recovery from the violent relationship, and for building self-esteem.
For low-cost phone counseling, email me at tina@tinatessina.com
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About the Author
Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D. is a licensed psychotherapist in S. Califo
ia since 1978 with over 30 years experience in counseling individuals and couples and author of 13 books in 17 languages, including It Ends With You: Grow Up and Out of Dysfunction; The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again; Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage, The Commuter Marriage, and her newest, Love Styles: How to Celebrate Your Differences. She writes the “Dr. Romance” blog, and the “Happiness Tips from Tina” email newsletter.
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